Guys (or girls I guess): How would you react to this?

[Mannayz]

If one of my friends did that to me, I'd joke about it, laugh, and forget about it. Now, if it was a SERIOUS case... As flattering as it would be, having your best friend having feelings for you in THAT way, I'd probably tell him that "I'd have 'fun' with you if the idea of being with a dude didn't bring me to near vomiting."

And then joke about it, laugh, and forget about it.

 

[The Red Spy]

Don't see how I'd be offended, the guy would have pulled some serious courage from somewhere to come out with that and I'd see it as a compliment. The answer would be one of gratitude and appreciation, and I'd try and prevent any awkwardness with a joke about that unfortunately "I don't bat for the other team". After that just take them for a drink and try and talk to them about how they came to find out about their orientation.
Trying to show you understand or want to help understand is a much better answer to just backing off with an all out "no", if anything you might be become better friends for it.

 

[Radoh]

If they were attracted to me, I'd be flattered. If they thought they loved me however, that would be a whole mess of melodrama.

 

[PunkRex]

Take it as a complement and return my feelings correctly. Im not gay but its cool, feelings are feelings, if you want me to back off for abit I will, if you dont I wont. What really pisses me off is when people get annoyed when others admit they fancy them, when someone has feelings for someone else its infuriating enough with out you being a dick about it.

 

[warprincenataku]

I'd make sure he/she understood the difference between love and lust.

 

[DannibalG36]

So me and the boyfriend were talking about this earlier on today, after branching off from a conversation that WAS about coffee. Dunno how we got from coffee to this topic, but oh well.

Basically, how would you react if one of your same-sex friends confessed to having a really strong crush on you, or even loving you?

Cause both me and him have been on both sides of this situation. I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and that he wanted to fuck me, and I've confessed pretty much the same (while slightly stoned, I admit) to another one of my friends over Facebook (private messaging, nobody else saw).

As for my boyfriend, he had a friend of his practically declare his undying love for him, and has confessed a massive crush to someone who he practically KNEW hated his guts. Didn't end well for him, but that's a story for another day.

So yeah, what would your instinctual reaction to be if one of your close friends suddenly out of pretty much nowhere confessed such feelings towards you?

I'd give that ***** a slap. And then run away.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I would say to them what I say to everyone who confesses feelings for me. I don't date.

 

[RanD00M]

The chances of anyone finding me attractive are slim to none, but since we are doing hypotheticals here I'll play along.
I would probably be a little weirded out, but not too much. I would perhaps even give them a chance. But it would probably end badly. Good thing I'm not reliant on friends.

 

[Mellomi]

It's funny, because I myself am on the opposite side of this situation. Sort of. No way in hell I'd tell her unless I was sure she'd reciprocate, since that would dork up one of my (very few) close friendships. Doubly so because she has had some of the worst luck in the relationships (of any kind) department, and I don't want to make it worse. At least I know she's bi.

As for being on the receiving end, it really would depend on the friend. I'll go with the "flattered, probably not interested, may/may not give it a shot and try and let them down easy" approach.

 

[holy_secret]

Happened to me. Since I'm bisexual, he thought it would be okay to start telling me these things and making out with me.
Oh yeah. Don't forget to drink a lot of alcohol so you can say "I don't remember what happened last night" and then leave and desert your best friend when he's in the worst crisis of his life.

It broke me into a million pieces, and I don't think I will ever recover from it.

 

[CptCamoPants]

Depending on which friend. I'd either fuck him, or thank him.

 

[Adzma]

I'd be surprised at first but it wouldn't weird me out or damage the friendship at all, hell I'd probably feel glad to know that at least someone out there does.

*Sulks in the corner*

 

[the D0rk One]

So me and the boyfriend were talking about this earlier on today, after branching off from a conversation that WAS about coffee. Dunno how we got from coffee to this topic, but oh well.

Basically, how would you react if one of your same-sex friends confessed to having a really strong crush on you, or even loving you?

Cause both me and him have been on both sides of this situation. I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and that he wanted to fuck me, and I've confessed pretty much the same (while slightly stoned, I admit) to another one of my friends over Facebook (private messaging, nobody else saw).

As for my boyfriend, he had a friend of his practically declare his undying love for him, and has confessed a massive crush to someone who he practically KNEW hated his guts. Didn't end well for him, but that's a story for another day.

So yeah, what would your instinctual reaction to be if one of your close friends suddenly out of pretty much nowhere confessed such feelings towards you?

What kind of couple are you?

 

[Pointer]

It really depends. I would hate to put someone in



because the Friend Zone sucks. At the same time, I am not a lover of the peen. So I'm going to say if its a girl then maybe. But considering how hard it is to express those feelings I really doubt this would happen to me.

 

[klaynexas3]

well, if it's a close friend, i'd probably say i don't like them like that, then bro hug.

beyond that, as long as they don't make any real advances, i really couldn't care that much. and real advances for me and my friends would probably be very far in general cause we'll play gay chicken a lot, so even if they made some advanced, i'd probably just turn it into a game of chicken, making things not awkward.

 

[RIOgreatescapist]

"I hope you like to get patted on the back cuz that's all the love I have to give you broseph"

More or less the same words.

 

[ryai458]

I would be confused because I have no friends, someone please post the forever alone picture thank you.

 

[steeple]

Happened to me. Since I'm bisexual, he thought it would be okay to start telling me these things and making out with me.
Oh yeah. Don't forget to drink a lot of alcohol so you can say "I don't remember what happened last night" and then leave and desert your best friend when he's in the worst crisis of his life.

It broke me into a million pieces, and I don't think I will ever recover from it.

dont worry man, time heals all wounds (except death, but thats a given)...
also, *hug*

OT: I'd probably tell them that I'm not interested in that, and try to make it as easy as possible for them...
it would be quite shocking, sure, but I doubt it will harm my relationship with the friend

 

[Lyri]

I'd point out the fact I wasn't gay but I appreciate the affection and try to salvage the friendship because romantic feelings just aren't happening. I'd also congratulate him on having excellent taste in men.

 

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