Guys (or girls I guess): How would you react to this?

[pixiejedi]

I would be shocked, I'm married and my only girlie type friend is and is preggers, so there's that.

As stated a lot, I'd be flattered but decline.

It did happen to me in high school with my best friend who is a dude in front of the guy I really liked. Unfortunately I just blurted no when he asked me out, not so smooth there.

 

[Jamous]

I'm in a happy relationship currently, so I guess I'd try to gently turn them down. If I had no strings I really don't know; it depends on the friend.

 

[Biosophilogical]

I'd just tell them I was flattered, but that's not how I roll. Happened before, apparently it was an easy mistake to make since they'd watched me rub a guys crotch for a considerable length of time earlier that night and they'd taken that as a sign that I was into guys.

Some people analyze things to much.

I lol'd.

OT: I've had one friend say they had a crush on me (I could tell before hand, so it didn't really catch me by surprise), but they wer of the opposite sex (which still kind of fits, because I haven't shown an interest in either sex yet). I just laughed it off (in a comforting way, not in the "Here are your feelings, now watch me laugh at them mwhahaha" way) and kept talking to her as though it didn't affect anything (because really, whether or not you pretend it happened is irrelevant, but if you let it affect how you behave, that's when it actually affects your friendship).

But yeah, it wasn't a surprise (we got along like a regenerating house on fire, where the house is us and the fire is good times) seeing as I'd seen it coming, but it had been a surprise in that she was the first person to develop a crush on me (in the "Someone with a crush? On me!?" way, not the "Really? Just you? I expected a billion women to be fighting for my affections" way).

EDIT: Oh yeah, I would be flattered. and I think the reason I was able to avoid harming the friendship with the aforementioned girl is that I'm a bit left-off-centre in terms of social conventions, so I wasn't limited to "Let's get it on!" and "*awkward silence* ... no thanks".

 

[astrav1]

So me and the boyfriend were talking about this earlier on today, after branching off from a conversation that WAS about coffee. Dunno how we got from coffee to this topic, but oh well.

Basically, how would you react if one of your same-sex friends confessed to having a really strong crush on you, or even loving you?

Cause both me and him have been on both sides of this situation. I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and that he wanted to fuck me, and I've confessed pretty much the same (while slightly stoned, I admit) to another one of my friends over Facebook (private messaging, nobody else saw).

As for my boyfriend, he had a friend of his practically declare his undying love for him, and has confessed a massive crush to someone who he practically KNEW hated his guts. Didn't end well for him, but that's a story for another day.

So yeah, what would your instinctual reaction to be if one of your close friends suddenly out of pretty much nowhere confessed such feelings towards you?

So is he your boyfriend or a friend that is a boy? As for me I would feel quite flattered, but at the same time bad for not being able to return the attraction. A love between friends is one thing I can do, but romantic love with a dude is something that I just can't feel.

He is my boyfriend. Not just a male friend, a boyfriend. You know, the whole 9 inch - erm, 9 yards. *shifty eyes*

Ha! I'm assuming he was not your boyfriend previous to the conversation. Am I correct in assuming so?

No we've been dating for several months now.

I read the OP again and it makes sense, at first I was confused at why you would make a thread about a boyfriend expressing his affection for you, but now I understand. As I said before, flattered but also a little sad.

 

[Dr. Feelgood]

I'd say no. Then later I'd have a long thought session wondering why gay dudes want me.

 

[Shock and Awe]

Well if it was a guy I would be a little creeped out, if it was a girl I would probably consider going out with them.

 

[The Stonker]

you've declared your interest in someone else, your bf has decvleared his interest in another man. have you considered the fact you may both be gay?

These happened before I started dating my boyfriend. And we are both gay.

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Maybe you're in denial

You're joking, right? I haven't been in denial about my sexuality since I was 13.

Maybe you're denying your denial about your denying your sexuality.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

you've declared your interest in someone else, your bf has decvleared his interest in another man. have you considered the fact you may both be gay?

These happened before I started dating my boyfriend. And we are both gay.

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Maybe you're in denial

You're joking, right? I haven't been in denial about my sexuality since I was 13.

Maybe you're denying your denial about your denying your sexuality.

No, now I'm just confused and with a headache.

 

[Biodeamon]

Doesn't really matter. I have experience with shrugging off possible suitors so i'd be fine. I'd just scratch another notch in my wall for hearts broken.

I didn't get the frozen heart badge for nothing.

 

[Phyxia]

My closest friend is a tall hairy man who knows I'm a lesbian.
And I dated him when I was 14 and in that sexually confused state.
So.
It would be pretty awkward.

Were he a girl, I'd be flattered but politely decline, as I'm in a relationship.

 

[David Hebda]

So me and the boyfriend ... I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and that he wanted to fuck me

So I am guessing from your post that you are homosexual, either that or there are a few serious typos. There is a big difference to someone coming out to you when they know you are as appose to knowing you are strait. And to quote the answer I gave "Dude, you know I don't swing that way"

 

[The Stonker]

you've declared your interest in someone else, your bf has decvleared his interest in another man. have you considered the fact you may both be gay?

These happened before I started dating my boyfriend. And we are both gay.

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Maybe you're in denial

You're joking, right? I haven't been in denial about my sexuality since I was 13.

Maybe you're denying your denial about your denying your sexuality.

No, now I'm just confused and with a headache.

U mad?

 

[Doclector]

Tell him to A catscan and an eye test. If he finds me attractive, something is horribly wrong in there. And then get very awkward and degenerate into a mound of broken gibberish.

 

[Valdus]

Well I'd get annoyed. If we're close enough that I would consider them a close friend then they should be aware that I'm both straight and attached - and therefore no good can come of admitting something like that to me.

 

[ImperialSunlight]

Since I'm gay, I would probably go out with them. Chances for relationships that are more than sex are few and far between for us.

Edit: The final statement was in relation to us being friends.

I hope I dont sound like an insensitive prick for asking this, but I kind of want to know, now that you mention it. Is it really easier for homosexuals to get laid? I realize that gays are a minority, but you often get the impression from the media and stories you hear (both completely reliable sources, indeed.) that homosexuals are far more open with their sexuality, so to speak?

I've always sort of thought that impression was just a result of the media, but now that you say it's easier to have sex than a relationship, I got kind of curious. Is there any truth in this at all?

It depends. I don't think all of them are like that but I think the media makes them think they have to be. For those who aren't just interested in sex, you can't easily tell that they're gay (for the masculine ones at least). Its somewhat of an awkward question to ask, especially if you're already friends. I'm closet (off the internet) though so I only know what I get from speculation and advice from others. The problem with the ones that are just desperate for sex are that they probably have STD's and such so... its easy to get laid but harder to get laid safely... I guess.

 

[herts]

I should be soo lucky D:

 

[Cheesepower5]

Mild discomfort that I'd ignore/Bewilderment at why the hell they chose me. I ain't exactly a looker.

If it was the outright homophobic one who calls people gay all the time I'd probably make him miserable though.

 

[mattttherman3]

If it was a girl, that I found at least somewhat attractive, I'd say let's go out. If it was a guy, that would be very very awkward.

 

[burningdragoon]

Happened to me before actually. Pretty much just said something along the lines of "sorry, but I'm not into dudes" except better put.

 

[loc978]

I have a friend who does this pretty much every time he gets drunk around me. He will sometimes go so far as to try to kiss me. I tend to let him down gently, a simple arm-lock and a push onto the couch with a reminder that I'm straight sufficed last time. The kicker is that he's not gay, he's bi, and he has three kids with three different women.
We still hang out at least once a month. No hard feelings from me over it.