Guys: Would you date / marry a powerful woman?

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I'd personally hate it. I couldn't date a girl knowing she makes more money than me. Perhaps a few hundred more is fine but anything substantial is a no go for me. Power is different as its harder to quantify. If the difference was obvious, shes a managing director of a successful company and I wait on tables, then again that would be a no for me, personally.

Just to nullify and shrieks and accusations. I have no problem with women earning more than me or being in positions of power this is just in regards to being in a relationship with them myself.
 

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Considering I'm attracted to women who can kick butt and take names in their life, yes I would consider it.
 

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It is a personal dream/attraction of mine to date and/or marry a powerful woman. MOST IMPORTANTLY she has to be responsible with that power and not abuse it. THAT is attractive to me.
 

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sure as long as she was at least somewhat sexy and attractive im not one to be a hater as long as im happy in a relationship.
 

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pulse2 said:
Interesting huh? And rather controversial, yes, but I just had to ask because I've noticed that many women who are very intelligent or wealthy or both often point out that men are afraid of them and don't like to feel like the underdog in the relationship. Men in this position on the other hand rarely if ever point this out. If they have I certainly haven't heard about them, but I could name several celebrity females who have.

So here's the question, say the woman you are dating is always surrounded by media and publicity, the media doesn't care about you, they'd gladly push you aside if she is around to get a photo of her. Would you feel belittled or threatened by this or would you be happy with her success and shrug it off as part of what you went into when you both decided to be together? Or lets say she was a powerful business woman with plentiful businesses before you came along, she doesn't want your money, just your love and commitment as any good husband, again, would you feel overwhelmed or suddenly self conscious? How about an intelligent girlfriend who has been to uni, obtained several masters degrees and simply puts you to shame when she speaks, again, how would you feel? These are obviously exaggerated slightly for the sake of the topic, there are far more daily and normal circumstances of this just by being a strong minded female in an everyday world.

I'm asking because we live in world (that I find personally far better than it used to be) where women are far more stronger and independent, so these scenarios have become pretty common, but I don't blame guys for feeling threatened by it, after all, it's in our nature to have dominant personalities, it's kind of instilled in most of us at birth, so its a matter of re-adjusting to these new circumstances, some people find it easy and take on a submissive role and some prefer to be strong. And finding it difficult to get into a relationship like this shouldn't be seen as a bad thing, what it demonstrates in (I hope) most cases is that you simply prefer to be taking care of your partner and showing her all you can do as a man. To some guys, being submissive is a weakness.

My mum happens to be a VERY strong woman, and I'm thankful for that because she's made me strong too, my dad is submissive, but that doesn't mean he's weak, when the time comes, he doesn't tolerate nonsense, he changes pretty quickly and you soon start to see that he isn't anything as submissive as he appears to be 98% of the time.
I think our perception of this phenomenon is very exaggerated. Intelligent, capable men love intelligent capable women, unless they have daddy issues. It does bother probably the majority of men to not be the breadwinner, but not enough for us to ditch a brilliant, wonderful woman for some boring walking pair of tits.

Edit: I meant MOMMY issues.
 

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I would dislike your first example, simply because I don't like being in the spotlight, even if only on the edges. but other than that, no, I would have no problem dating a powerful woman. If I wanted a low-class skank for a girlfriend, I would have 3 right now.

Also, i would be somewhat bothered if I was dating someone who was so much smarter than me that we were in completely different leagues, but only because that would make it difficult to have meaningful intellectual conversations with her, and I consider that to be an integral part of any close relationship.
 

Drummie666

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Well, I'm pretty submissive, a beta-male, whatever you want to call it and I'm attracted to dominant women. So... yeah.
 

robinkom

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I would gladly support my powerful and intelligent wife in whatever she does. I'm not like most typical men out there, I have absolutely none of that macho dick-waving attitude garbage. She can't hurt my pride by being successful and powerful, I'm all for it. I'm a very nurturing kind of person, I like to take care of and look out for people I care about. I'd be her shoulder to lean on and ear to talk to, maybe give advice if she wants it. I'm also rather feminine in my style and demeanor too which is hit or miss with women I've found out. Some like it, some don't. But I won't change who I am for anyone.
 

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BUT what does the powerful woman want? I was instantly reminded of this thread on Reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kretj/why_the_hell_is_it_so_hard_to_meet_a_normal_guy/

"Ok so I think I might just give up on guys soon. I like to consider myself pretty normal, 23 years old, 2 degrees, good career, been told I'm good looking but why can I not meet a normal guy? And by normal I mean things like cute, good job, educated."

Who's to say that a powerful, educated woman wants a less educated, less powerful man? I would HAPPILY be with a woman who was wealthy and smart (Freud jokes about mother issues aside) but would a woman who is powerful and intelligent want a guy who barely knows a thing about Kierkegaard, who is terrible with money, and who may not be conventionally attractive - even if he's amazing by all other standards (sweet, loving, considerate, charismatic)?
 
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In the words of Phil Dunphy:

"I'll admit it, I'm turned on by powerful women. Michelle Obama, Oprah, Condeleezza Rice, Serena...Williams...Wait a minute."

.....OK, now I'll go read the OP.

I don't think it would effect my liking of a particular woman one way or the other. I'm not sure I understand the question, though. But I don't think how successful a woman is would effect how I felt about her.
 

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I wouldn't. God, I cannot stress enough how much I hate these "powerful" women. There is a word for them, you know. It's a *****.
 
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SwiftBlade18 said:
So long as she considers me to be important to her and doesnt like belittle me e.g. i earn more than you etc therefore im better etc.

Not being included in like photos etc for publicity wouldnt bother me as it isnt my life.

So to summarise as long as they treat you normal then theres no problem.
roughly this, as long as they don't act bigger than me and act like they are doing me a favor, then yeah of course i'd date a "powerful" woman.

if she belittled me/acted like i'm just a piece of shit she can do with what she pleases, then hell no, i don't care if it's girlfriend or just a friend, i won't take crap like that.
 

titankore

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Yes and it would be awesome. I prefer a strong woman who knows what she wants and makes enough for me to stay home and work on my cooking.
 

Robert Ewing

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Generally no. I don't want to live in fear of my partner, and I want my partner to look up to me, and rely on me so I can provide for her.

I can't imagine, nor do I desire for it to be the other way round. But if it floats peoples boat, then sure.