I had a good friend who even though she was just a friend managed to treat me so badly she somehow made women an even lower priority for me, which doesn't sound bad if you don't know just how little effort I put into looking for a girlfriend (pretty much none at all). I had asked her out once, about a year ago, let her know that there were no hard feelings when she shot me down, and hadn't brought up the subject at all unless it was to assure her that I was no longer interested and hadn't been for a long time. We used to get along quite well, until last semester, when I apparently committed some crime against her that she won't explain to me.
She refused to be bothered to so much as speak to me during the most depressing year of my life and wouldn't tell me why. She ended a friendship of almost 2 years because she thought 10 Facebook messages spread out from January to May was too many. Here's the worst part; when I handed her a note explaining that the reason I had been so desperate to talk to her last semester was because I was suicidally depressed at the time and she was the only person I felt comfortable talking to about it, instead of just reading the note and being understanding about it like any generally good, kind, and decent human being, she called a cop on me and had him tell me that if I ever contacted her again I would be arrested. I have never said or done anything to deserve this and I can prove it, which is why I printed out every message I had ever sent her and had the printouts sent straight to that officer's desk. She has apparently had issues with men in the past, but she had those issues with THOSE guys, not me. At this point, she doesn't get to use those issues as a justification for her actions if she doesn't have the spine to explain them to me. And even if those issues were anywhere near as bad as the issues my mom, my sister, and my aunt have had with men in the past, it doesn't give her the right to treat people horribly when they don't deserve it; at the very least she owes me an explanation.
She was a good friend, who treated me with undeserved cruelty, got away with it, and then managed to set things up so if I ever call her on it or even ask why I will be arrested. She has yet to apologize or even look like she feels bad about any of it. I have known some truly despicable people in my life, but she is the only person I regret having ever met at all. And I'm stuck in class with her for an hour 3 days a week, every week, for the rest of the semester.
Sorry about the long post, I just had to get this off my chest.
