Have you ever been screwed over?

[Rooster893]

Consider this somewhat of a vent thread. If you have feelings of absolute anger and hatred, feel free to pour them out here.

To answer the question, yes.

See, this is how it goes. Spoilered for wall of text:

Spoiler

I was involved with this girl, and she was one of the nicest people I knew. Funny, smart, nice, and ADORABLE. I really liked her. I played the friend card really well, helped her out when she was feeling bad (I wasn't the only guy interested in her.). Anyway, I thought that I actually had a chance, so I sucked it up, counted to one, two, three: and asked her out. She said "Yes!"

I could not have been more ecstatic then I was that day.

Little did I know, that I was in for a REAL bomb.

Out of NOWHERE, she started to have problems with me. To this day, I STILL don't understand what the Hell she was doing, but apparently, I wasn't the one for her. She said:

"We're done for now. I just need time to think."

Time to Think MY ASS!

I went to the high school football game a couple of days later, we were kicking the other school's ass, everything was great, except then I see her.

Swapping spit with another man.

Words cannot express the sheer ANGER and LOATHING I had at that point. Tears were pouring out of my eyes as I called my mother to come pick me up and take me home.

I really don't understand, if she didn't want me, she could have just told me, but no, she had to lead me off of and rip my heart to pieces.

Eventually, I got over it, but it still has a sting to it everytime I see her. I hope she knew how horrible I felt when I saw her that night....

...but whatever. So, how about anybody else?

 

[Dango]

Yes, mostly by myself, and most of it has to do with alienating people that were formerly very close to me, and that I'd been close to for many years.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

I had a gf.
I visited my surviving grandparents over christmas break (just two weeks).
When I got back she's suddenly a lesbian; and already has a girlfriend [sub]THAT SHE HAD BEEN SEEING FOR 2 MONTHS!!!!!![/sub]
What. The. Fuck.
/vent

 

[Phantomess]

Well, I got psuedo-dumped by a guy who was technically not my boyfriend (things were getting physical) but who I was/am in love with last night, for a multitude of reasons, the big ones being:

1. He thought I was into his friend, who was my room-mate but who has recently returned to Germany. I lived with the guy and he is a fellow musician, so we were close but he was like my "big little brother".

2. He has big ex issues, even though she's in England and he's with me in Australia.

3. He didn't want to hurt me anymore than he already had (despite the fact that he knows I've been through worse and can handle his problems).

4. He doesn't think we have a 'connection', even though he's made it obvious to everyone that he really likes me more than a friend.

So yeah, last night wasn't all that great at all, really. I know how you feel.

 

[demoman_chaos]

Two girls have done this to me so far. Went on a date, everything went very well from what I could tell. Then suddenly I no longer exist to them.
No clue what I did, and likely will never know. Even if I did get a chance to ask them, I am almost certain I wouldn't get a straight answer from them.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Yay for depressing threads that sucker me in...

OT: By other people, no, but by the fates? Plenty.

 

[BanicRhys]

It's shit like that make me kind of glad that I'm most likely going to be single my entire life.

Luckily, I haven't really had anything big happen to me, I've just known a lot of stupid douche bags with way too much going for them (rich, charismatic, attractive, lucky) while I'm a reasonably nice guy who's shy, ugly and poor.

 

[somonels]

I really liked her. I played the friend card really well, helped her out when she was feeling bad (I wasn't the only guy interested in her.)

Kind of hard to feel sorry for you.

 

[BlackJack47]

When my long term Gf split up (3 years and 6 months), a month later one of my best friends made out with her and texted my other friend to brag about this. After being upset and angry I was told it was my fault that we broke up and all this stuff that changed me and my ex from being friends to "everything is my fault"

We haven't spoken for months, then I get a text off the friend who kissed my ex wanting to apologise, we spoke and things went well and I just found out he's trying to get with her still.

Now all of our group of friends are starting to get all chummy with those two and there's rumours that people are asking him when he's going to ask her out.

Clearly this sounds like a possessive ex-boyfriend story, but it hurts cos he knew how much I loved her and likewise.

Sigh Ladies, if you read this, please don't forget about the nice guys. I know not all girls are the same, but sometimes we can all miss out on what we really want.

 

[AvsJoe]

A friend of my brother's, let's call him Gaber, got knocked down by life about 4 years ago, so my mother let him into our home to recover. He'd been there for just over a month when he disappeared, along with my Playstation 2 and several of my games (plus some of my brother's stuff as well). It was soon afterward that my brother discovered that Gaber had been snorting Coke throughout much of their friendship and he ripped us off for drug money. Ah well, fool me once...

My brother forgave him, I haven't. This is important...

Late Autumn, 2008, my brother and roommates got back to our apartment with Gaber in tow, while I was asleep. One of those roommates, for whom I had purchased a plane ticket, paid me back by putting the money in an envelope and placing it on my windowsill just above where I was sleeping. They partied a bit but not enough to wake me up. I wish they had because I would have noticed the money. Well, the same fucker went into my room and snatched the envelope from under my sleeping nose. I didn't even have the chance to protect my money. I found out all of this the next afternoon when I woke up to prepare for a night shift. Needless to say, I was furious.

Anyway, the expression goes: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." As a twice-fooled victim, do I deserve the shame?

 

[Julianking93]

Yep. Sure have. Lots of times.
Mostly by people who I consider friends who decide to fuck me over because they're sociopathic and immature despite them being a fair bit older than me.
I won't get into detail but there have been several instances (one going on now) where I've gone crazy over being so angry.


It's strange... I leave school in hopes to get away from drama but that shit just will follow you forever until it fucks everything up in your little world.
God, people can be so terrible.

 

[KaWaiiTSuKI]

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Considering you've told me of your situation and that I also don't want to divulge it entirely here.... *gives massive amounts of comfort hugs* Sorry, hun :'(
It'll get better, I promise

Anyway, like before me, yes I've been fucked over lots of times.
Probably why I don't really have many friends.
I just avoid most people in hopes that I can stay away from the drama that goes with it but it still will follow you to the ends of the Earth, unfortunately.
You can't escape that shit anywhere. >.>
Though as for what happened... let's just say I had a boyfriend who, because I wouldn't put out for him (saving for someone I really love) he went around telling everyone I was a slut who wanted to fuck everyone.
Yeah... he's a great guy.

 

[jackpackage200]

about a year ago i started college having never been in a relationship before. I had met this girl and we instantly connected. We had started doing everything together. We saw movies, did homework together, i taught her how to play gears of war 2. I thought i ad fallen in love and i thought i was the luckiest bastard of all time. We would go shopping and i would buy her the occasional thing or whatever. I would pay for dinner. Then out of the blue she tells me she got into a relationship. Even though she now had a boyfriend, we were still spending so much time together, except she spent all that time talking about how great her boyfriend was.

I kept it together pretty well until i realized something. She was using me. She copied my homework. She had me pay for dinner and other things. Not only had i been friend zoned but she took advantage of me and my general novice knowledge of girls and dating. I couldn't face her any longer. I tried to call her to tell her why i was upset but she was not picking up her phone and she wasn't at her dorm room so i left a voicemail saying i did not want to be friends anymore in the politest way while trying to keep from getting emotional. What really pissed me is she did not call me back or acknowledge that she understood what i had felt. I had lost all confidence in myself in everything. Schoolwork, gaming, partying, general interaction with other people, i had let my depression take it away from me.

About two months had past, i had been flicking through channels and i decided to watch how i met your mother. It was the episode where it was the aftermath of Ted being left at the alter and that deep down he coulden't deal with his anger until he confronted his ex fiance. When he went to confront her he realized something. The show had only originally discussed two methods of dealing with anger. He could either bottle up his emotions or having an angry confrontation. Ted realized that there was a third oprion, he could let his anger go. I then did the same.

While it sucks that stuff happened to me, i dont hold it against her. Once i let that anger go, it was a breath of fresh air. Ferris Bueller said that "You don't respect someone if they kiss your ass" and he could not have been more right. I heard that She just got engaged to her boyfriend and i wish the best for them.

What i learned from it all is that if you have feelings for someone, let them know. If they reject you than move on.

 

[Toxxet]

many times... one of them is somewhat similar to the story in the first post, but involving her violent ex and me going suicidal for some time...

another noticeable screwover was when i was starting first year of gymnasium, i met a girl who had no friends of her own, so i introduced her to my friends and they all bonded right away, great i thought. but when we broke up she turned all my friends against me. 2 years later they still hate my guts...

those two screwovers are the most painfull i can remember... and both happende very close to each other.

 

[viranimus]

Sure who hasnt?

Ill make mine quick and only give two of my worst examples.

First off when I was 19 the girl that I had been dating and recently broke up with told me she was pregnant with her child and provided me with the validation of pregnancy. I didnt believe her and doubted it, but as an 18 year old still in high school I made preparations to take responsibility for it in case it was mine. She however did not want it. She stayed drunk and screwed up on every drug imaginable and eventually decided to have it aborted. I disagreed with it, however I went with her when she had it done and paid half of the procedure as I knew with as many drugs taken she had severely hampered this childs chance at a normal healthy life.

I came to find out 6 months later that she knew all along it wasnt my child. She knew it was a former room mate we both lived with and she just wanted me to pay for it because she knew the babies actual father was a useless prick who would do nothing for her.

As for the second. Ill snip the threads cause I hate rewriting what has already been written.

Snip for opening of story

Snip for relevant details.

 

[Laser Priest]

I've been brought along to places by one of my older friends. He was through college already, running multiple jobs. Yet every time he took me anywhere, it was with a group, and I ended up buying food for all of them. Once, he even forgot he took me along and I had to walk back home.

That's one miniscule example of many, many times.

 

[viranimus]

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Thanks, but dont be sick, its a good thing. Ive always kept the motto of whatever doesnt kill me makes me stronger. Let me tell I am a better person today for enduring such things and now Im 10 foot tall and literally bulletproof.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

Why yes, I did used to work at Gamestop. They didn't offer any training of any sort (not a big deal in my case since I've worked retail before), I didn't get a paycheck (wiki the Cirrus Card: Gamestop gives employees those and even if you do get direct deposit, your last check is always put on the card. To get the money off of the card you must use an ATM, meaning you must pay for your own money). Other than that I only had the 'we can replace your ass in an instant' threat talk once so really I didn't get screwed over as badly as I could have been screwed over.

Also: I'm probably the only guy on the entire internet that considers a one-night stand being screwed over. Happened once.

Other than that...nothing I can really remember...I've been manipulated but not outright screwed over as hard as I could have been.

 

[Athlonis]

Soooo many times. Sometimes my own fault, most of the time not. Making it harder and harder for me to trust people, that's for sure. Especially when people you thought were your friends backstab you. Ah well.