Have you ever cheated in a relationship?

[Tsun Tzu]

I did. I wouldn't recommend it.

Nothing quite like a car door opening to a thoroughly angry mate, driving home while intoxicated (nearly ramming into a stop sign at 30 mph in the middle of the street) because you're genuinely worried she'll either hurt herself or justifiably destroy your possessions while simultaneously realizing the true depth of what you've done (and become), wind up throwing your monitor across the room because it seems like a good idea at the time, begging her to end it with you because neither of you are happy yet she somehow forgives you and you somehow continue the relationship...and she reminds you of it every argument since.

It's been a year. I'm still in this. I'm not quite sure how I got here.

Long story long; Don't do it, man up, and do what you have to do.



Also, on a related note, married women always liked me. (Current mate messed around with me while she was still married.)


Having experienced all of this, I've come to the conclusion that we're all sort of fucked up.

 

[Elate]

No.. Why would I? If I were going to do that, I would just leave them.. I never understood cheating, not in the whole "IT'S WRONG" kinda way but in the "what's the point?" if the relationship is THAT dead I would just leave them, and if it's complicated (i.e kids, even though I'm never going to have any) I would just plain out TELL my partner that I think we should remain together but see other people and such.

I don't understand what is wrong with people, cheating just causes extra stress, and the only time I could ever see it happening was if I was extremely drunk and did it by accident, in which case, if I remembered (I would have to be very drunk, probably have passed out) then I would come clean.

 

[chadachada123]

I used to be a massive douchebag to women (well, girls, as it was in high school).

I cheated on several girls, every time crawling back to the same ex and never feeling truly remorseful until after I graduated.

After graduation, and after being falsely accused of cheating on a girl that I truly liked, I started to think about my actions and the damage it caused, and stopped being a giant asshole to the girls that put their trust in me.

It just so happened that, perhaps as karma, I got cheated on by my next girlfriend in the most hurtful way I can imagine, who then ditched me for my then-'best friend,' giving me a heavy dose of payback for my past self.

Yeah. I don't cheat anymore. I did once right after realizing how horrible of an act it really is, and ended up puking the next morning out of utter disgust at myself. I'll never go back to that. I only hope that my future relationships are as loyal on her side as I will be on mine.

 

[FPSfanatic]

I have never cheated in a relationship, but I have been cheated on. It sucks. I wish there was a better description of it that was just as short, but everything involved with describing it gets into this long and flowing poetry, and I'm kind of tired and I really don't want touch on that, just look up romance poetry, half that shit will be poetry about breakups.

To put it simply, cheating should never be done. I have never understood the reasoning behind 'I hate this person, I don't want to be with them, but I'll stay in the relationship.' Maybe that's just how I was raised, with views on that, but I just never understood it. I can only say that you have to understand that unhappiness in a relationship on such a level that you really want to leave the person, leave. There are no chains that will keep you forever together, only your head and memories.