agreed, I just thought it was important that someone who wasn't just a raging ball of teenage testosterone showed him the consequences of that pathSpyalt said:
Help for a married man please!!
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i like that your thread implies (nay states) that your intention is to be faithful to your wife.
In reality, it takes 2 to tango, you just don't get involved with either girl who isn't your spouse, it isn't like they can jump you and take advantage...anyway - if your a nice guy just be nice, unfortunately if you do say "you realise I'm married right? There couldn't possibly ever be anything between us - I made a commitment to the woman I love, why would I jeopardise that" that might make them like you even more.
The irony is, if either was able to get you to cheat on your wife that says more about your character than it does about them. Long term it's a completely ass backwards plan, if you would cheat on a woman you wore to love and honour and be faithful to in a room full of people what could possibly keep you faithful to anyone else.
Have you tried talking to them about thier intentions? Pretty crappy of them tho too - I think it says alot about who they are if they would try and hit on a married man.
Also, are you sure of their intentions? I mean, you could be a safety flirt, your safe, your married, they can be "overly friendly" in a safe environment - maybe your reading too much into it.
In reality, it takes 2 to tango, you just don't get involved with either girl who isn't your spouse, it isn't like they can jump you and take advantage...anyway - if your a nice guy just be nice, unfortunately if you do say "you realise I'm married right? There couldn't possibly ever be anything between us - I made a commitment to the woman I love, why would I jeopardise that" that might make them like you even more.
The irony is, if either was able to get you to cheat on your wife that says more about your character than it does about them. Long term it's a completely ass backwards plan, if you would cheat on a woman you wore to love and honour and be faithful to in a room full of people what could possibly keep you faithful to anyone else.
Have you tried talking to them about thier intentions? Pretty crappy of them tho too - I think it says alot about who they are if they would try and hit on a married man.
Also, are you sure of their intentions? I mean, you could be a safety flirt, your safe, your married, they can be "overly friendly" in a safe environment - maybe your reading too much into it.
Grow yourself a pair and tell them you're married, and to back off. Don't listen to any of the dicks here telling you to cheat - that's the weak way out of the situation, and you'd be a fool to risk losing your marriage and respect by listening to some teenagers in a forum.
Well, here's a thought: "I'm married, fuck off".Jeopardy said:
If you wanna be gentle: "I'm happily married, I don't wanna do this."
It's really not complicated, you seem to dominate the English language enough to construct such simple sentences, so the question isn't HOW do you tell them you don't want, but whether you honestly don't want it.
This. No good can come from women hitting on you while you are in a relationship.a51himself said:
discuss the topic with your wife, and tell her u will talk with these woman to back off, honesty is the key for a successful marriage.
Get away from them.Jeopardy said:
I'm a married guy too (A year this May!) and were I in that situation, I'd tell them flat out 'no'. And if they didn't get the hint, cut 'em off completely.
I think trying not to be harsh is the wrong approach. Why? Well, not being harsh is a respectful way to tell someone something. However, these women aren't being very respectful of you, OR your wife, if they are going after you even though they are fully aware of your marriage.
They obviously aren't good friends because they are being selfish, with no regard for your wife or your marriage. Get rid of 'em.
If you're happy with your wife and truly love her, then the guilt will be unbearable if you went through with anything. I know I wouldn't be able to look my wife in the eye ever again. You'll crush her trust for you, and that will take a very very long time, if ever, to regain. Not worth it.
If you aren't happy with your wife (Which doesn't seem to be the case, but just in case you aren't), then either get counseling, or do her the courtesy of a divorce. Running around behind her back is a selfish cowards choice. I'm not saying you want this! I'm just throwing it out there.
And, again: Cheating = selfish coward.
Poligamy FTW!
But seriously, just tell them you're not interested, unless you are, in wich case you might want to go for it.
For the love of God don't follow my advice.
But seriously, just tell them you're not interested, unless you are, in wich case you might want to go for it.
For the love of God don't follow my advice.
yeah, take em out for dinner, and for the entire meal say things like "Im so glad I have friends like you", tell them how amazing your wife is and if you havnt already, how you wanna have kids with her. Tried, tested, and works.
