Help (Involves Bro Code)

[tehweave]

My friend recently broke up with his girlfriend about a month ago, (I didn't like her during this period) and from what he said during that time it seemed that he really loved her. I'm not sure how long to wait or to go ahead and do.. something. He recently has also started flirting with another girl so he might be over her. I dunno. Help?

There is an unsaid rule that states you can "Never" go out with any of the following:
1. Best friend's ex.
2. Best friend's possible girlfriend.
3. Best friend's relative.

And of course his current girlfriend, but that's obvious.

Now, IF he gives express permission, or if you go for it, and he says 'it's okay' afterwards, then it's cool.

IF he says NO or if you start something and he says "I'm not comfortable with that." you must never pursue it or end it immediately.

Hope this helps.

Notice it IS okay to make a move, or even have sex with her without his permission. It makes you a jackass, but a 'jackass' is forgivable. If he says 'break it off' or something like that, you must follow his wishes. Otherwise you go into the realm of 'asshole.' You can't live down 'assohle,' but 'jackass' is forgivable.

 

[Uncreation]

I really hope people don't actually take that "bro code" crap serious. I mean, "bro code"? Are you kidding?

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I really hope people don't actually take that "bro code" crap serious. I mean, "bro code"? Are you kidding?

The bro code is crap. Man Laws, on the other hand, are important -- unless you want to be the guy who stands right next to other people at the urinals. "Bro's before ho's" however, only applies when A.) the girl is actually a prostitute, and B.)the bro is actually your brother. The "Bro's" who usually invoke this rule are worth about as much as an actual ho, while the "ho" in question is often worth her weight in gold.

 

[Solytus]

Bro Code Article 150: No sex with your Bro's ex.

Exception: Unless the ex is really hot
- The Bro Code

In all seriousness though, dating your friend's ex is more often than not an ill-advised course of action, but if you're truly intent on going through with it, then I would definetly consult your friend first.

When did this get added to the code? Because as far as I know, that's an important part of the female equivalent to the Bro code, but not actually a part of the Bro-Code at all. I can see holding back if the dude is really your best friend, and you know he'd be hurt by it. Otherwise, he doesn't own this girl, and he's going to have to face the fact that she's going to move on eventually.

Edit: Then again, in my experience I'm usually closer to the girl in question than I am to any guy, even before I ask her out. On the rare occasion that I do have a male friend as close as or closer than the girl, this situation almost never pops up.

Heh, it's in here:

http://www.amazon.com/Bro-Code-Barney-Stinson/dp/143911000X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1277345794&sr=8-1

 

[wrecker77]

Try to defy the bro code with those eyes staring into your soul! ALL HAIL BARNY!

I believe in most bro code rules. This is not one of them. Go get her.

 

[ChromeAlchemist]

Seeing as BonsaiK hasnt got here first, Let me tell you this:

Ignore the Bro Code

Its something stupid put in place by Jocks that dont get any. "Bros before ho's" goes out of the window the moment one of them gets a girl.

Now this time, You have to be careful. Speak to your mate, You dont need his permission[/I] per se, But you may want to seek some form of approval, Just as you dont want to alienate your friend.

Also bear in mind she may only be flirting with you to get back at him.

While there is much truth to what you say, the Bro Code was put in place for a few reasons. Dating your friend's ex is one of those things that tends to be advised against because even if your friend has moved on, chances are they never truly have moved on to the point where you porking her doesn't bother them, or conjure up back-dated feelings or memories.

At least in my experience this seems to be the case.