Dont worry so much mate, I was 19 when first kissed a girl. Just relax and let her make the first move, she'll feel speical that she was your first kiss.
Help me, I've never kissed a girl before and my current girl knows that.
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Yeah, but I was kinda a jerk after I told her...
Did I mention that already?
NEver mind, I'll try to follow your advice guys and gals, next time I see her, I first ensure everythings cool between us, then I make my move when I feel the time is right. Good idea?
Did I mention that already?
NEver mind, I'll try to follow your advice guys and gals, next time I see her, I first ensure everythings cool between us, then I make my move when I feel the time is right. Good idea?
The biggest part is just having confidence. If you want assurance that it's ok with her to be kissed just say, "I'm going to kiss you" right before you dive in. She'll reject if she wants to. Or just grab her and do it, at any time that is at least semi-romantic. Just make sure to express how great it was afterwards and how great she was/is.
So?
The problem here is not your inexperience; it's your anxiety over your inexperience.
If you act like it's not a big deal (because it really isn't), it shouldn't be a problem.
As to how to know when to kiss her, try this: When you're having an intimate moment, get reasonably close, look down at her lips, and then look up at her eyes. Make sure she sees what you're doing, and make sure you make eye contact when you look up. If she gets the message, it should be easy to tell if you can kiss her or not.
If she doesn't get the message, its the wrong time. Just relax and try again later.
The problem here is not your inexperience; it's your anxiety over your inexperience.
If you act like it's not a big deal (because it really isn't), it shouldn't be a problem.
As to how to know when to kiss her, try this: When you're having an intimate moment, get reasonably close, look down at her lips, and then look up at her eyes. Make sure she sees what you're doing, and make sure you make eye contact when you look up. If she gets the message, it should be easy to tell if you can kiss her or not.
If she doesn't get the message, its the wrong time. Just relax and try again later.
There is no such thing as "when the time is right". Just do it!Mr S said:
And regarding a previous post, make sure YOU do the first move. You know, something along the lines of:
"Sure. I`ve never kissed a girl before...but...*look into her eyes*...I`ve never met a girl like you before..." and BANG, one on the pie hole.
XD The greatest thing I've learned through misadventures in dating is not to worry about it. Its only as big a deal as you make it out to be. There is no "perfect moment" either, I've stressed myself way too much before about arranging for that moment, and in the end it came. The last dance at homecoming, a perfect goodbye, and we both made the move simultaneously.Mr S said:
See? This guy's got it rightbaddude1337 said:
*bursts in tears*Zaverexus said:
Well, not everybody gets "the last dance at homecoming" or a "perfect goodbye"!
Ouch, I didn't mean it to sound that perfect, I guarantee it was far from perfect. She broke up with me, if that helps.eastinfecter said:
New advice: All women are essentially evil. No matter what you think or how much you believe I'm wrong, it will eventually become evident and you will hate yourself for ignoring my advice
Do you see Mr.S ? We even use reverse psychology just to give you an extra boost to your confidenceZaverexus said:
C`mon man, he is only 17. Don`t ruin it. Wait for the kiss and then you can give the "root of all evil" speech...
eastinfecter said:Do you see Mr.S ? We even use reverse psychology just to give you an extra boost to your confidenceZaverexus said:
C`mon man, he is only 17. Don`t ruin it. Wait for the kiss and then you can give the "root of all evil" speech...
Dude, I'm younger than he is, he can deal with it. Best to learn early and move on
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Same thing happened to me, at one point, when we were on the subject, I asked her if she'd teach me, and, jackpot.
And once again, if she says no, don't worry. It'll happen when it happens.
You're focusing on this too much, and now it's starting to feel overwhelming to you. Don't worry about when you should do it, or if you'll be any good at it. Everyone has to learn at some point. Just do it sometime when you two are hanging out in private. If you're cuddling or watching a movie, talking, whatever. When you do it doesn't matter, but doing it 'cause you want to does. Everything else will come naturally, and before you know it you'll be laughing at the thought of you once stressing over the specifics.Mr S said:
Sorry to say this, but if you haven't kissed yet then she is not your girl. If you are however sure that you like each other then I recommend the advice of a guy who was in almost the exact same position less then a weak ago, (Man did I have an exciting week.)Mr S said:OK here's the deal. I'm 17 years old and I've never kissed a girl before. Luckily I do have a girlfriend whom is also 17. She however, has kissed tons of guys, she's not a whore though
I wanna kiss her, but she'll probably think of this conversation when I try too and think that I'm only trying to kiss her because she found out I haven't kissed anyone so far. She might be offended and I might be lonely again :'(
I also don't know WHEN to kiss her. I don't wanna do it just any time.
Not like, i walk up to her when i see her and kiss her right away.
So what would be a good time?
Okay so here's my story. I'm 20 (and also dutch) a before last week I only kissed a one-day-girl-friend when I was 16. Two weeks ago I met this girl and last Saturday we had our first date. She is 23 and has plenty of experience and she already knew that I was a virgin (still officially am, depending on how you define virginity.) and only had a one-day-girlfriend.
So here's how I learned how to do it.
First (no matter how dumb it sounds) there needs to be only a small physical distance between the two of you. If you can sit somewhere then I recommend tight to tight if you have to stand then maybe half a meter or so. Now if the girl is uncomfortable she'll move away and you should leave it at that.
Second you probably need to gather up some courage. Take your time on this while you are chatting with the girl.
Third you kiss her, there's only one thing you should pay attention too. If she currently drinking or not (meaning has she a cup at her mouth right now). Seriously you can just interrupt here talking, no big deal.
Fourth Led her take the lead, copy what she is doing. She knows best, you said that yourself.
Fifth (But this one might differ from girl to girl, I'm not an expert) Licking and sucking is better then thrusting. Don't just put your tongue in her mouth it's better to be a bit more gentle. (Also that feels better too in my opinion.)
Sixth (not regarding the actual kissing) don't talk around stuff like that. A straight forward question should get a straightforward answer. Yeah it's kinda embarrassing not having any experience, but being awkward about it is not going to help.
Following this really helped me a lot (like I said I had an exciting week). Maybe it can help you too.
Best of luck.
Thanks, I'll follow this advicerutger5000 said:Sorry to say this, but if you haven't kissed yet then she is not your girl. If you are however sure that you like each other then I recommend the advice of a guy who was in almost the exact same position less then a weak ago, (Man did I have an exciting week.)Mr S said:OK here's the deal. I'm 17 years old and I've never kissed a girl before. Luckily I do have a girlfriend whom is also 17. She however, has kissed tons of guys, she's not a whore though
I wanna kiss her, but she'll probably think of this conversation when I try too and think that I'm only trying to kiss her because she found out I haven't kissed anyone so far. She might be offended and I might be lonely again :'(
I also don't know WHEN to kiss her. I don't wanna do it just any time.
Not like, i walk up to her when i see her and kiss her right away.
So what would be a good time?
Okay so here's my story. I'm 20 (and also dutch) a before last week I only kissed a one-day-girl-friend when I was 16. Two weeks ago I met this girl and last Saturday we had our first date. She already knew that I was a virgin (still officially am, depending on how you define virginity.) and only had a one-day-girlfriend. She is 23 and has plenty of experience.
So here's how I learned how to do it.
First (no matter how dumb it sounds) there needs to be only a small physical distance between the two of you. If you can sit somewhere then I recommend tight to tight if you have to stand then maybe half a meter or so. Now if the girl is uncomfortable she'll move away and you should leave it at that.
Second you probably need to gather up some courage. Take your time on this while you are chatting with the girl.
Third you kiss her, there's only one thing you should pay attention too. If she currently drinking or not (meaning has she a cup at her mouth right now). Seriously you can just interrupt here talking, no big deal.
Fourth Led her take the lead, copy what she is doing. She knows best, you said that yourself.
Fifth (But this one might differ from girl to girl, I'm not an expert) Licking and sucking is better then thrusting. Don't just put your tongue in her mouth it's better to be a bit more gentle. (Also that feels better too in my opinion.)
Sixth (not regarding the actual kissing) don't talk around stuff like that. A straight forward question should get a straightforward answer. Yeah it's kinda embarrassing not having any experience, but being awkward about it is not going to help.
Following this really helped me a lot (like I said I had an exciting week). Maybe it can help you too.
Best of luck.
Btw I'm not sure how to explain your fourth advice.
I have to make the first move right? You mean letting her take the lead while we're kissing?
Cause I think she wants me to make the first move, I'm actually pretty sure of that
Mr S said:Yeah with the fourth advice I meant that you should let her take the lead while kissing. While you're kissing don't touch her that much until she starts touching you, don't force your tongue down her mouth before she has put her tongue into yours, etc etc.rutger5000 said:Thanks, I'll follow this adviceMr S said:
Btw I'm not sure how to explain your fourth advice.
I have to make the first move right? You mean letting her take the lead while we're kissing?
Cause I think she wants me to make the first move, I'm actually pretty sure of that
And yeah you should definitely start the kiss.
Hope that helped, and again the best of luck.
This is actually solid advice, if in the right citrcumstance and setting. I have used the whole "show me what I'm missing" approach with girls before. Even though it's cheesy, if you say it in a confident way she will probably oblige.this isnt my name said:
However this is the best approach. Just fucking do it, she will probably allow is since she's brought it up in conversation... that's a huge indicator. And if you're worried about technique, don't be, just roll with it. You'll fid out it's not a difficult as you think... or... I don't know.... there's probably a youtube video or something that can teach you.biter said:
Bottom line, stop thinking about it too much and just go for it.