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mrhockey220

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I need some help because I'm a little confused about this whole issue right now.

So theres this girl I that I'm kind of friends with, meaning that we just talk in the classes that we have together. This year though we did not have any classes together and didnt really talk to each other until she asked me to prom about a month ago. I was really shocked and surprised to hear this especially because was the one who asked. We started talking a lot and really hit it off and had a great time at prom and danced a lot. I then gathered some courage told her i had feelings for her and asked her out on a date for the next weekend. She said she thought i was really cute and genuine and was really excited to go. We had lunch and went to the mall for a few hours and just talked forever and had a lot of fun. Then things started going bad. We were still talking and texting a lot and i asked her on a second date but she said she had a busy weekend and said the samething when i asked about the weekend after that. We ended up seeing each other next on a saturday at school because we both had detention that day and at the end of it all i walked her to her car and she shocked me again. She told me that i was a really sweet and cute guy but it would be unfair to me to continue the relationship because she is not going to be home all summer and that we wouldnt get to see each other but she still wants to be friends. Im so mad that i didnt think of this right away but i texted her later and told her that the time we were spending together now is worth the wait over the summer but again she said that she didnt want me to wait because her senior year is going to be crazier than her summer. I hung out with her at school after that but this whole thing just caught me off guard.

Here are my questions:
Does she still have feelings for me?
Is she being truthful in that she doesnt want a relationship right now?
Did I do anything wrong?
Is there any chance of getting her back?

Sorry for the wall of text but I would appreciate any help with this.
 

EightGaugeHippo

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Girls are incredibly complicated compared to us simple guys.
But ima try my best to decipher this and try to answer your questions...

Question 1:
This one is almost impossible to answer, I don't know if she still has feelings for you... that is one of the hardest things to figure out about anyone.
Its possible she does, but is having a hard time figuring out what she really wants, a relationship or friendship.

Question 2:
Like I said up there ^
its possible she's not sure what she wants. Starting relationships can be confusing and sometimes need alot of contemplation before getting anywhere.

Question 3:
No, unless you're hiding anything from us, you haven't done anything.

Question 4:
This one is completely dependant on how close you were. Maybe she'll come around, maybe not.


My final statement is what I would call the worst case scenario:
{You may have to forgive me if i'm being abit blunt here)
She actually doesn't have any intention of going out with you.
Shed just rather let you down nicely because she doesn't want to lead you on.
This is not actually as bad as it sounds, it shows she regards you're feelings.

Possibly she felt something towards you, but what ever it has died down.

All I can say is, good luck.
Just remember, if it doesn't work out, it was never meant to be.
 

Thaluikhain

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RC-1290 said:
Perhaps you should find the courage to ask her a variation on these questions. Perhaps not the easiest thing to do, though...
Yeah, there's no point asking a bunch of internet randoms, really.
 

disfunkybob

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Being described as "Sweet" tends to be one of those danger words to tell you things will not be progressing much further unless it's out of pity. But you don't want that. You'll end up feeling caged and she'll feel like a babysitter.

Women at any age will sometimes just get bored of relationships. If she feels that way, you won't get her back by fawning over her because you'll be too available and desperate.

The best advice is just sulk a little bit and then do something that makes you happy, preferably with friends. Don't put your life on hold, because I promise you she won't.
 

mrhockey220

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RC-1290 said:
Perhaps you should find the courage to ask her a variation on these questions. Perhaps not the easiest thing to do, though...
It would probably give the impression that I'm a creep if i did that
 

SpiderOneSix

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O.K. So I can see you obviously like this girl but from the way she seems to be acting she doesn't really have the same feelings for you and trying not to hurt you. Alot of guys have been through this and it may be difficult to get over her. Who knows I may be wrong but it's not worth it to just sit there and wait for the possible freight train, you just gotta get of the tracks and go to the next station, there's alot of girls out there mate and one of them is for you