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Nothing wrong with having 40-50 pals that I can see. And keggers can be quite fun and a good way to meet people. You may not like it, but that is just your preference. But, I would agree it is good to have a close circle of friends, but not a bad thing to have many acquaintances.Gormourn said:
If you posted a video of you greeting a stranger and then the preceding five minutes of small talk which results in them screaming and running away then we could probably diagnose your problem very easily.
You come across relatively normal over the internet so I don't know what to suggest.
You come across relatively normal over the internet so I don't know what to suggest.
Well, if the stupid people think you're akward, then why do you care....Seriously, the best thing to do is set your standards for self....If you think that what people thought of you in highschool is going to mean anything once you're out...you're wrong.
As for the
Well, anyway, have fun, don't let them get to you. Live for yourself and noone else, cuz seriously, they aren't worth it. Take care though....seriously...:-D
As for the
Get off your pedastle. Hate to say it, but you aren't that amazingly deep and intelligent that you can't converse with the rest of us. Try again, thanks for playing. This post just screams "teenage angst" so, I'm sorry, but you gotta get over it.TriSarahTops said:
Well, anyway, have fun, don't let them get to you. Live for yourself and noone else, cuz seriously, they aren't worth it. Take care though....seriously...:-D
Maybe you're just imagining it? You sound a bit paranoid, sorry to say.TriSarahTops said:
Also, if you're constantly thinking "fuck, fuck, fuck... here's a person, I'll get hated, I'll hate them" no matter how calm you try to appear, that negative energy will travel through to the other person.
Empty your mind, stop thinking ahead and imagining failure, just live in the moment when you're being social. Be clever, be witty, be whatever. Just be calm when you're doing it.
I honestly feel obligated to post something here, because I stumbled on this thread yesterday and din't post anything. The thing is, I feel a certain kinship with Sarah now, in a way, because I feel just like this quite a lot.
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. About first impressions, I usually fuck those up too, so don't worry too much. If the person is worth meeting again then they'll see past the first impression and still want to talk to you and be a friend. Being too friendly isn't necessarily a bad thing, although if you feel you might be scaring people then maybe you could just be a little less friendly, while still staying a nice, decent person at the same time.
Basically, I hope this post helps and that you manage to sort out your problems alright. Good luck, and I'll see you in another life, brutha (or sista, more appropriately...).
I've had this problem so many times. I try and fit in and be part of the crowd, but as a person I'm just naturally individual and so people treat me differently for it. The best advice I can give here is try and be yourself, don't try so hard to fit in, and people will like you for who you are. I stopped trying to make people like me when I arrived at university, because it never worked and always made things worse. Now I find myself a lot more accepted, yet still an individual, rather than following the crowd all the time.TriSarahTops said:
I was bullied a lot as well, mainly because I was just different, and as I said above, I didn't follow the crowd. It started in primary school when I was little, because from what I've since gathered the other kids were jealous of me and saw me as different, simply because I was smart. It kind of made me an outcast then and carried on even at a Grammar school where I was on the same intellectual level as everyone else. There, I was just different, too introverted. However, when I made an effort to socialise it was tough, but later on I managed to make friends and become part of the group (Incidentally, one of the kids who bullied me ended up getting expelled after I found he was a drug dealer. What goes around, comes around
).You need to learn to open up a bit more. I usually keep my emotions bottled up inside and don't talk about them to anyone, and it has a really negative effect on me, to the point where I'm too worried about what people will think to speak up. Not very useful when doing my group coursework or brainstorming with the film-making society... also bad when it comes to talking to this girl I like. Try talking to someone, maybe a relative, your boyfriend, or a really close friend who you can trust. Failing that, I find that doing creative activities is a good way to release your thoughts and emotions (considering I do film-making, art, writing and drama, you can see how much emotion I need to get off my chest sometimes...).
First things first, you should probably cut down on the video games a little. Maybe not too much, if it's something you enjoy (obviously, given you're on a gaming forum), but enough that you have more time to go out and try new things. As I said, try doing something creative, that you enjoy. You'll meet new people then who you're more likely to get on well with, since you'll share similar interests, and you're subsequently less likely to hate them. I don't really hate anyone, but I do get a bit wary and paranoid sometimes, so things like acting and film-making is a really good way to calm down and meet people who I know have the same hobbies as me. Just give it a try, and good luck.
If anyone does burn you for this post then they aren't worth listening to. Considering this is in Off-Topic then there's no reason why you shouldn't post something like this, provided it doesn't happen too often
. About first impressions, I usually fuck those up too, so don't worry too much. If the person is worth meeting again then they'll see past the first impression and still want to talk to you and be a friend. Being too friendly isn't necessarily a bad thing, although if you feel you might be scaring people then maybe you could just be a little less friendly, while still staying a nice, decent person at the same time.Don't say that you're a waste of space, because you aren't. You've obviously got fears and anxieties and by posting them on an anonymous forum you've managed to generate a hell of a lot of helpful advice, and people do genuinely care, even though we don't know you in real life. This thread isn't a waste of space, and neither are you. Think positively!
Basically, I hope this post helps and that you manage to sort out your problems alright. Good luck, and I'll see you in another life, brutha (or sista, more appropriately...).
I already said words to that effect. This, being the wonderful internet, seems to be a minority opinion here.Keewa said:
Anyone who laments the lack of social contact needs to look at themself and wonder why, not blame everyone else for not beating down their door and inviting them to all lots of parties.
necroswanson is pretty much right, the majority of the world's people are idiots and don't deserve to live. I'd say don't try to make other people happy, make yourself happy first, you can't be anyone else so be you, if you have to change yourself to make people like you then you shouldn't bother with those people. Fuck everyone else, you're the one that's important.
This shits me off so much, just because people don't understand every little thing in the world does not mean they are useless. The blond girl who doesn't know what RAM is, for example, may be a really nice person but she just doesn't grasp things like that, you deem her and people like her unworthy. I see this so much with "oh I hate people like that" and it is a sad thing to behold.traceur_ said:
I know you are exaggerating when you say "don;t deserve to live" but what I am getting from that post is "people who don't know about the things I know about are below me"
Not a healthy way to be...
This thread is still alive?
Sweet Jesus Christ.
I can't believe people are still giving advice to OP, who hasn't showed up to respond even weeks later.
Sweet Jesus Christ.
I can't believe people are still giving advice to OP, who hasn't showed up to respond even weeks later.
i understand, and i guess i wasn't thinking when i use the word "idiot". When I use the word "idiot" i don't always mean those of lesser intelligence, I sometimes use it to refer to people who are generally arseholes, I never use it to refer to someone who is ignorant of a particular thing, when i used it in my post i was referring to the multitude of people who think they are better than everyone else and do nothing to help others, those wastes of space that make up so much of our planet's population.zen5887 said:
im lucky that i have always been surrounded by dudes and gals that have the same kind of humor as i do, and by humor i mean fleppz, and by fleppz i mean crazy sh*t
