how did/do you deal with high school
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Don't remember, went to college. Life has changed so much since then that I'm sure what life was like a few years ago.
Cramming like my life depended on it! Screw sleep! Screw person health! I mostly got through it but working like mad at the last minute for everything and gong on empty fumes (not sleeping enough). I also never took a job, because I took waaay too many subjects.
Oh, and this is an important one- knowing when to quit. When advances physics and maths were too much, and I realised no amount of work could help me, I dropped to the normal physics class and medium math class. Sometimes you learn more if the pace is slowed down.
Oh, and this is an important one- knowing when to quit. When advances physics and maths were too much, and I realised no amount of work could help me, I dropped to the normal physics class and medium math class. Sometimes you learn more if the pace is slowed down.
??? With a smile on my face ignoring shit that went wrong, with utter contempt with the Art teacher I have mentioned several times before. After I got past the first Semester of compulsory art it was a breeze, although I can't say I much for choosing subjects because I know I want to be an accountant and I just picked what I need to do.
You make new friends, you study, you do your work, you find a job, you don't. You LIVE, that is what matters. Do what feels right, your situation is entirely different to so many others that anyone saying drop out or don't etc etc is pointless. You just have to get on with it.
But from my own experience yeah, what IS there to deal with.
But from my own experience yeah, what IS there to deal with.
Eer, i don't know, i just sort of did it. I seem to be one of the lucky ones where High School was not some horrible experience. In fact school was fantastic.
Saw my friends everyday, we had no bullies and a tight knit year group. Did well in my studies and subjects, getting a very high mark for university entrance. Good social life with lots of parties and general hanging out with friends. Sport on the weekends and after school. Cool parents who while encouraging me were never overbearing. Hoorah for me i guees.
My best piece of advice would be to strike a balance. Moderation is the key to life in all things but herespecificaly you want a good balance between study and social life. If you don't try hard at your studies there's not much point going to school. If you focus relentless on them and neglect everything else though you will burn out and become lonely.
Try picking up a sport to burn up some energy, vent stress and meet new people. Don't worry about sex, that will happen when it happens, you don't have to go chasing it. Also school is not the be all and end all, if things go wrong for whatever reason you won't screw up the rest of your life.
Grades are why you're there for school, friends make it worthwhile.
-edit also what year are you in?
Saw my friends everyday, we had no bullies and a tight knit year group. Did well in my studies and subjects, getting a very high mark for university entrance. Good social life with lots of parties and general hanging out with friends. Sport on the weekends and after school. Cool parents who while encouraging me were never overbearing. Hoorah for me i guees.
My best piece of advice would be to strike a balance. Moderation is the key to life in all things but herespecificaly you want a good balance between study and social life. If you don't try hard at your studies there's not much point going to school. If you focus relentless on them and neglect everything else though you will burn out and become lonely.
Try picking up a sport to burn up some energy, vent stress and meet new people. Don't worry about sex, that will happen when it happens, you don't have to go chasing it. Also school is not the be all and end all, if things go wrong for whatever reason you won't screw up the rest of your life.
Grades are why you're there for school, friends make it worthwhile.
-edit also what year are you in?
I was lucky my house was a 5-10 minute walk away. when I hit 6th form(16-18 years) I spent as little time in there as possible. Fortunately almost all my lessons were late morning/early afternoon so I got a lie in and leave early.
How did I deal with it? I went to school for four years, graduated and that was that. I found high school to be easy as pie and graduated in the top ten of my graduating class (graduating class was 800(ish)). I had plenty of friends to lean on and had an overall wonderful time in high school. I guess I'm the minority here after hearing all the people posting horrible experiences in high school. Sad. :<
I'm in my 3rd year of high school. The first 2 years were easy going. But now high school just got hard. Really hard.
I decided to take the I.B. diploma route. If you still have a choice, make sure that you can and will commit before you sign up for I.B., because it will sodomize you so hard if you don't.
As for surviving, there is one thing that works the best. Making friends.
High school will be so much easier for you if you can. They don't even have to be friends, just people you get along with easily.
If your having trouble with this, try taking higher level courses. Mostly the nice, good kids take those classes, and all the assholes stay on the normal level.
I decided to take the I.B. diploma route. If you still have a choice, make sure that you can and will commit before you sign up for I.B., because it will sodomize you so hard if you don't.
As for surviving, there is one thing that works the best. Making friends.
High school will be so much easier for you if you can. They don't even have to be friends, just people you get along with easily.
If your having trouble with this, try taking higher level courses. Mostly the nice, good kids take those classes, and all the assholes stay on the normal level.
It was junior high that was horrible to me.
Being ridiculed, having my stuff vandalised or stolen, being sexually harassed...
It was worse than elementary school.
Most of the jerks who did that never went to high school, so it wasn't as bad.
And I had gotten close with a friend by the last year of junior high and got few other friends in high school, so it was much better.
I never had any problems with the studying part. That being said, I did get bored during lessons a lot and read books and drew stuff. Which the teachers never interfered with, since I got good grades.
And was reading literary classics and science books.
Being ridiculed, having my stuff vandalised or stolen, being sexually harassed...
It was worse than elementary school.
Most of the jerks who did that never went to high school, so it wasn't as bad.
And I had gotten close with a friend by the last year of junior high and got few other friends in high school, so it was much better.
I never had any problems with the studying part. That being said, I did get bored during lessons a lot and read books and drew stuff. Which the teachers never interfered with, since I got good grades.
And was reading literary classics and science books.
Choices were just based on what I wanted. You should try to know that by now (but it's not a shame if you have no idea what you really want, because even people 10 years older than you have no idea what they want).
So, take your time to think about it; what do you want to end up doing. This can change, obviously (it did with me), but it doesn't matter, there is always a way to get there in the end; you'll never be stuck with something if you don't want to be stuck there.
Other stuff. Well. Social stuff usually just "happens", sex is not as important as people crack it up to be and work is just something you have to find and do.
So, take your time to think about it; what do you want to end up doing. This can change, obviously (it did with me), but it doesn't matter, there is always a way to get there in the end; you'll never be stuck with something if you don't want to be stuck there.
Other stuff. Well. Social stuff usually just "happens", sex is not as important as people crack it up to be and work is just something you have to find and do.
I never saw high school as a minefield for starters. It was just another school and I did my thing(which was mostly finding a small group of friends and some fun electives). Any crap that was said about me I never took seriously and any time I did feel crappy I had a friend to help me out or making something in shop or ceramics picked my spirits up.
My only real regret is that I didn't try harder in class and go for some clubs or sports.
It might help you to think of what you like and see if there is a club or class that you could join.
edit: I should probably point out that somehow I managed to be unnoticeable when I felt like it despite being 6'2-3" and 260 pounds. Being that size probably helped discourage people from giving me guff too...
My only real regret is that I didn't try harder in class and go for some clubs or sports.
It might help you to think of what you like and see if there is a club or class that you could join.
edit: I should probably point out that somehow I managed to be unnoticeable when I felt like it despite being 6'2-3" and 260 pounds. Being that size probably helped discourage people from giving me guff too...
Mentally go into the foetal position say I'm in my happy place while completely holding the depression (that still dogs me today) inside, pretend all is fine, be cleaver, be neutral socially have 1 good friend but are the sort of person publicly who is not "popular" but can walk into most mixed gender or male "groups" and be welcomed friendlily. Parties, fuck'em there is alcohol there which is the cause of all my problems via drunken father and I shan't touch a drop for the duration of my life.
.... I really need my pony fix before my depressive rants get any worse >.>
.... I really need my pony fix before my depressive rants get any worse >.>
Don't worry about "dealing", just do. Show up, go to class. And by the sounds of it it's your first year, and if that's true don't worry so much about what classes your taking. Hell, don't worry about that at all unless you've got a specific career in mind, and in that case just go with what is needed for that.
Otherwise, individual high school courses, if you find yourself graduated and missing something you needed, are easy to make up after the fact. Don't worry about it unless you have specific goals you're driving for.
For sex, social life, and job. Not sure what the big deal is, granted I skipped the sex part, and a social life short of that requires nothing, just be friendly with everyone and spending day after day along side them is sure to net a friend or two, just go with it.
A temp job is something you want or something you have and aren't sure how to deal with? Not a lot of advice to give either way. If you don't have but want one, just start applying to places, google something along the lines of "resume writing for high students" if you need advice on how, although generally people employing high school students aren't too concerned with such things anyways. If you already have one or when you do get one, just show up, do what you're told, not much else to it.
Edit: On second thought, I would like to revise my entire post to that last part.
Shut up and do what you're told, that's how you deal.
Otherwise, individual high school courses, if you find yourself graduated and missing something you needed, are easy to make up after the fact. Don't worry about it unless you have specific goals you're driving for.
For sex, social life, and job. Not sure what the big deal is, granted I skipped the sex part, and a social life short of that requires nothing, just be friendly with everyone and spending day after day along side them is sure to net a friend or two, just go with it.
A temp job is something you want or something you have and aren't sure how to deal with? Not a lot of advice to give either way. If you don't have but want one, just start applying to places, google something along the lines of "resume writing for high students" if you need advice on how, although generally people employing high school students aren't too concerned with such things anyways. If you already have one or when you do get one, just show up, do what you're told, not much else to it.
Edit: On second thought, I would like to revise my entire post to that last part.
Shut up and do what you're told, that's how you deal.
I can't say I relate all that well, since the school I'm at is absolutely sublime, other than being an all boys school. But at one point I was depressed here. I was bullied, and found the work hard, but I learned something. If you put on a smile, no matter how much you need to force it, and talk as if you don't have a care in the world, soon you won't, and you won't ever want to stop smiling ever again. At the moment I am happier than I have ever been. Bullies seem to leave me alone, teachers understand that I'm not the robot some students are and that I will question copying 10 pages from a textbook when we could read them and do questions instead. I'm just so... content and happy. So give it a try, smile and talk in a happy tone, try to stay positive, and soon enough you won't need to.
I'll join in on the "well, good luck in college, then" boat.Hamish Durie said:
High School was a snap for me. I wasted almost all that "social life" part playing MMORPGs, which I regret, but to their credit they got me drawing fanart which grew and transformed into what I now call my career. Sex was never an issue when I had Righty around. (alsoyoucan'thavesexuntil18inmycountry. Laws are laws.)
Just grin and bear it. Do your best in whatever you do, but don't be afraid to take some serious time to relax and give some thought into what you really want in life. This is the crossroads where a lot of paths open up to you, so be sure to take the time to explore all your options. You never know what might interest you.
I never had too many projects. There were some tough ones and long nights, to be sure, but now as a virtual technology and design major, I'm used to having around 2-3 at a time, at least. It makes what I had in high school look like nothing. And I still have commitments to marching band, full-time classes, and part-time work, as well as spending my free time with my fiance or pushing development on my (so far solo) game project.
Things might seem bad or busy, but you're working toward an end goal. It won't be this way forever.
they treated me like an animal so that's what i became
they gave me pain i gave them it back
in my school you had to be like this i was a teenager full of hate and it fucked me up now that I'm out I'm so much happier now
they gave me pain i gave them it back
in my school you had to be like this i was a teenager full of hate and it fucked me up now that I'm out I'm so much happier now