How did you figure out what you want to do?

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NightHavoc

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That was a one year course back in 2010, I've done nothing since then and my life is pretty dull. I'm positive things can change from within as soon as I take the first steps and make the effort, but I don't know where I'm going. At all. I want to make friends and find a relationship but I have literally nothing to talk about with people except for games and wrestling, and there's nothing I'm motivated to do. But the advice you get when you reach out for solutions is vague (some people on forums can get really aggressive at those who admit to depression sometimes, for some reason) and I'm very aware it's a thing I alone have to get over.

Sorry I got all "woe is me" about it, but I get the strong sense that once whatever's holding me back is gone or I figure out what it is I want or can enjoy doing, then I can finally be a bit happy with myself. Sounds morbid, but this subject has gotta be the source of all my deepest worries.
This...... so much this. My story is similar to yours. Throughout school I was told I could do so much better with my grades even though I was doing fairly well. This led me to develop a distorted view of success and ultimately create a perfectionist view on life. I believed with all my heart that all I wanted to do was be successful. My view of success was big shot job that pays big bucks. I jumped into 3 different degrees for a year each and dropped out of each one because I wasn't happy.

I'm on my 4th degree now but I'm going nowhere fast which has me worrying constantly. While I do agree that you have to get over depression, I don't think it has to be a lonely battle. Surrounding yourself with people that can support and help you would be the best thing you can do to help get over it.(I should really listen to my own advice)

OP My parents always say the answer isn't going to drop out of the sky and fall in your lap. Be active in pursuing what you want to do. Have a hobby or an interest that you enjoy? See if any careers can come out of that. Pursue something that makes you happy even if it doesn't come with a big pay check.
 

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Well when I was little I wanted to be an archeologist as I was pretty into dinosaurs and history. That dream disappeared over time as I became more interested in other things, I wanted to be a footballer from the age of 6-10 but I was crap at it so that was a no go.

During my teen years I started to worry about what I wanted to do after school had finished. My interests were reading and drawing and gaming (still are) and although I'm ok at drawing I can't ever see myself making a living off it. Anyway school years passed and while everyone around me was making plans for college or signing up for apprenticeships I was left freaking out and rather stupidly just signed on to the nearest college.

I ended up doing a mish mash of various courses, none of them even remotely useful in the working world, things like photography, creative arts. I felt like I was back in nursery, pissing about making paper mâché sculptures and trying to take artsy black and white photos with an old slr camera. This was such a depressing time, I knew I'd messed up by being indecisive with a job path and now I was paying the price for it. Seeing all my friends progressing in life didn't help either, completing their qualifications etc only impounded that feeling of failure.

Eventually I jacked the course in and spent the remainder of that year playing in bands and having a rocking time!!
By this time I was 18 and working full time in fast food. I hated it with a passion but loved my time off playing gigs with my friends and having fun. Alas it one day had to come to an end and it did. I was fed up of getting shouted at by customers at work because they were having a bad day. So, I moved on up in the world to the dizzying heights of warehouse work.
Generally this was also a bit crap but I wasn't being treated like muck by complete strangers. It was pretty boring work but I enjoyed unloading lorries as it was good exercise.

For a time things were good, I was busy and happy. Then I started working night shifts, I recall it being a Friday at about 11 pm when the evil depression set in and I thought of my friends all out having a good time in the pubs and clubs and I thought 'there must be more to life than this'
So I started job searching and after being turned down and away many times I found an engineering company that worked in composites, mostly in the civil aviation area.

I rang up, asked if they needed any help and basically begged hard enough that I was granted an interview. Not bad for someone with zero experience, qualifications and at the time interest in engineering :p

6 years and one apprenticeship later and I realise I have found my calling, I just wish I had taken an interest in engineering at a younger age!!

If people aren't sure what they want to do in life I would recommend engineering. Even if you don't like it much the skills you learn are pretty interchangeable with other career paths.

So long story short, I stumbled upon what I wanted to do, like a blurry eyed drunk stumbling his way home from a nights drinking.
 

Archangel768

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Alright, lets see.

1. 2011, first year out of school. I start university to do a bachelor of arts majoring in Japanese because I was into anime and all that. Quit after 4 weeks. In brief I'd say it came down to... having no real life experience which lead to me being scared of so many things, taking public transport to and from uni (I wasn't used to it and being on trains and busses for 3 hours a day was something new to me), meeting people in my classes, doing the work, I was so afraid I wasn't good enough to pass my courses that I ended up quitting because of it, being afraid of the debt that came with university (now that I have a job, I realised that the debt I would have incurred is ridiculously small and certainly not worth worrying over, this is in Australia).

2. 2012, semester 1, went back to do the exact same thing because I thought I'd be kicking myself forever if I didn't learn Japanese. Ended up quitting after the first day... I decided to go in doing 2 courses to help me ease into it, everything from the first time came rushing back and I thought to myself I couldn't handle it...

3. 2012, Semester 2, went back and started a bachelor of counselling thinking I wanted to help people, especially people that had gone through what I had as far as making life decisions. Ended up doing 1 course which was just a basic, how to do essays, presentations course. I actually ended up getting through it and it gave me a bit of a confidence booster. Half way through the semester I decided I wanted to do Psychology instead so transferred into Bachelor of Social Science (Psychology).

4. 2013 Semester 1, Went up to 3 courses, psychology course was boring, decided to do Japanese as one of my electives, found it fairly good this time and made a couple of nice friends.

5. 2013 Semester 2, Went up to 4 courses, psychology continued to be boring. Week 8 comes around and I've been getting to know some other people in Japanese more and we decide to start a study group. We end up being good friends and they really motivated me to study really hard and I found myself absolutely loving Japanese and that I wanted to go study over in Japan as part of my degree. I realised that if I kept with Psychology I'd have to stop doing Japanese after my 2nd year and I couldn't study in Japan. So what did I do? I transferred to a Bachelor of Arts Majoring in Japanese like when I first came to the university. I'm loving what I'm doing and hopefully I'll be hearing soon about whether I've been approved to study in Japan for year starting in September. At the moment, things are going great and I'm really happy with where I'm at. It was extremely difficult at times these past 2 years, especially the 2 times I quit, they were the hardest times in my life, the only times when I had no direction at all and it scared me so much. I've come a long way in the past year and for the longest time I can finally say I'm truly proud of myself for achieving something. Semester 2 is over with just the exam block to go.

All I can say to anyone in the position I was in is keep trying, try different things, it doesn't necessarily have to be university, it would be a job, a trade, an anything, just try. In the end, for me it was just about growing up some more and being lucky enough to meet the people I did and have the support from them. Just keep trying and don't give up, I can't say how long it will be before you find something but, it's the only way you ever will.
 

Simple Bluff

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shootthebandit said:
Simple Bluff said:
Irish class
Please explain this to me. This seems like the stupidest idea for a class ever. Does it just involve learning how to eat potatoes and riverdance?
Hey now, cooking the perfect potato is THE most valuable lesson you can possibly teach your kids, and requires both precision and skill one would not otherwise be able to attain without years of grueling study.

... But no, it's a class where we learn to speak Gaeilge, Ireland's... alleged first language (at least, according to the Bunreacht na hÉireann, Ireland's Constitution). It's effectively dead and serves no practical purpose (only one part of our country is known to speak it fluently and even then, it's pretty rare), but it's still a mandatory class (alongside Maths and English) for every kid in the country unless you have an exemption.

I didn't like it, but I never liked studying any language in school really, including English. Despite its uselessness though, I don't disagree with teaching it to kids. It's a part of our culture and heritage that was robbed from us, and I do consider that stuff important although I don't think it should be mandatory for kids beyond the age of 16.
 

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I always wanted to work with animals. I just knew it since... always. I had a great passion for them. I still do, but after working in the industry for 7 years I've realised it's not the animals that are the problem.

As an emotionally repressed teenager I tended to retreat into fantasy imaginings in my mind to avoid the terrors of real life. I soon found that I could create whole worlds and people in my mind. Shortly after that I realised that I wanted to be a writer instead. My escapism shall literally become my method of escape.
 

Imperioratorex Caprae

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One of the worst things in life I was ever told, and by so many damn people is "You're so smart, you can do anything!"
Fuck me if that didn't screw up my life for a long time. I know, being smart isn't something you should feel bad about, but having too many damn options is a form of personal hell. (Fuck you and your first world problems comments)
Excuse me, I have dueling voices sometimes.
At any rate, I did a lot of computer work from age 15 to about 32, at which I found I was no longer interested in working in any computer related field beyond the occasional techie helpdesk (meaning friends and family support). So I enrolled in school for Massage Therapy, found a niche I absolutely love and can see myself doing for a while.
I've grown a lot since I was told I could do anything and I've come to realize all it means is I'm never locked into one career because I have no limit to what I can do. Thanks much to Bruce Lee for indirectly clearing that up with a quote:
"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them."
Man I wish that we could have had Bruce for a few more decades only to see how much he could have shown us.
 

UniversalRonin

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I've always been a jack-of-all-trades. I enjoy being good at hands on stuff, and that developed in the end (currently) into doing IT Support. But throughout the last..... Far too many years, I've been a plasterers mate, pot washer, mechanic, welder, receptionist, gardener, removals person, camp counsellor, Sales person (didn't enjoy that one little bit.) and best of all, I sold ice cream at the front of a pier for a summer.

Figuring out what you want to be when you grow up is simply a case do you enjoy what you do? If you like it, stick with it and get good at it, ???, Profit.




PS You just lost the game. (sorry, just had to be done.)
 

KOMega

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I still don't know.

After highschool graduation I felt like I was being rushed and kinda picked a college program that seemed half-way interesting.

I would say that I wished I had put more thought into it, but if I were given another chance, I doubt I'd figure out a better answer anyways XD

I don't think I'm doing great where I am and I fear for when I'm out in the "real world".

I try to make it look like I know where I am going, but really I'm just walking aimlessly forward hoping I don't fall and laughing it off.

It's not a sad story, from what I hear I have it better off than some other people.
 

Saltyk

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The cold hard truth is that basically no one you know is doing what they wanted to do. Ask your parents and grandparents if they grew up wanting to do [insert job here]. I guarantee the answer is no. I know several people at my own job that have degrees that have nothing to do with the job. One guy has a history degree, but we are a warehouse selling metal.

I remember a comedian that made a joke about adults asking kids what they want to be when they grow up.
"They aren't curious. They're looking for ideas!"
Seems perfectly accurate to me.

As for what you should do. Try to find a job that pays well. As someone told me, most companies don't care about the degree so much as the fact that you have one. (The guy with the history degree told me this.) So you might be able to get a decent job, but you likely won't be doing anything art related. Just try to find something that you can do without hating yourself. Though, it's hard to say how good your prospects are. The economy has been pretty stagnant and reluctant to add jobs.
 

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Eight years of working customer service with no weekends off, six-day 30 hour work weeks, with irregular shifts (nightshift-dayshift-earlyshift-nightshift-nightshift), shitty insurance, shitty pay, and unreasonable unintelligent bosses taught me the importance of having a good job. Currently I'm back in college after an engineering degree, as it's the quickest-degree-best-payout I can get. Doing pretty well with all the math courses, too!

I'd also say that the hardship really hammered home the importance of putting in the effort. I've never missed a class, homework assignment, or anything, really, almost completely the opposite of how I was in high school when all I cared about were video games.
 

Auron225

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Good question. I know what route I'm aiming for but the end goal won't resolve with me being in pure bliss but I should enjoy it - that is, Maths Teacher.

How I got to that realization?

1) Maths has always been my favourite subject since primary school, and even during A levels - so I thought my future job had to have something to do with maths. Thus I picked to study it at university.

2) I've done a lot of voluntary work abroad with kids & teens and I really really loved that, so I know I would enjoy a career that involved youth.

3) Currently in last year of uni course, and although I can handle it (I think? I've been doing pretty well with marks so far), I'm not really enjoying the difficulty of it. I can't see myself enjoying any "normal" career at the end of it (accounting, statistics, engineering, etc).

So, teaching seems like a natural solution - I work with kids/teens doing maths at a level I do enjoy. It seems like a happy medium on all sides.
 

Cpu46

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Well you see, a few days before my infamous years of High School (AKA education years 8-12) I was given a list of the available "electives" that I actually had the option to choose for myself. Now young me was a fairly lazy sort and a class called Drafting caught my eye.

"What is this subject", I asked the man with the list. My voice still lingering with the tell tail signs of puberty.

"I really don't know," He replied, "I think it has something to do with blueprints and stuff like that. You spend a lot of time on the computer."

With that last statement I was sold. I signed up for the class and, like the man had foretold, I did spend a lot of time on a computer. I drafted in 2D, I modeled in 3D, I made architectural blueprints, I made mechanical simulations. By the end of those four years I was hooked and knew that this was my future. I would become the Draftsman the world deserved!

I went to Northern Illinois University to further hone my skills. The Drafting department there was small and I had to take a major in Industrial Management to get into it. Day one in my first drafting class opened my eyes to just how much I learned in the past four years, which is to say pretty much everything. I breezed through the class, my fellow classmates relying on my counsel far more than they did the Teacher Assistant's. After thoroughly strangling the course, wringing every last drop of new information out of it I proceeded onto the more advanced courses. I learned of Rapid Prototyping, 3D printing, Geometric Dimensioning and Tolerance. Outside of Drafting I learned industrial plant layout, spent an entire course learning how to balance industrial workloads, I learned OSHA safety, I learned how to use lathes, mills, and weld.

One summer I took a break from all of it to learn how to make jewelry... but that is a story for a different time.

I will not say I was a prodigy at all of this. Outside of drafting I often struggled to make a passing grade, having to take Energy Management twice in order to pass and needing to move down a level in chemistry. However in the spring of this year, 2013, I did graduate.

10 days later I got hired at a privately owned manufacturing company as a draftsman.

And that is my story of how I got to do what I wanted to do.
 

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Never had a clue and have spent the past six years trying to figure it out. Currently leaning towards construction site worker and have applied for a few jobs like it. Anything physical is fine actually. Got a great build for it and I prefer working with my body.

Don't have many tips, but consider your strengths to seed it out a bit. Are you naturally strong physical jobs could work well and the other way around if you're short/weak. If you're social and comfortable meeting new people there's plenty of work in the social sector(don't know the English words, so odds are that's wrong) taking care of kids, elderly, being a project manager etc. Any kind of work in shops as well.
If you're neither then hello cubicle job where you can browse the internet instead of doing your job!
 

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I don't know...

One minute, I'm wishing to be a firefighter without actually knowing what they do, per se, while writing what I thought to be (at the time) a better version of a story about a kid getting the chicken pox (despite not really knowing why I couldn't get chicken pox or how you would even get chicken pox) in early elementary school... The next, I'm technically writing fanfiction in both text and comic book form about certain characters from Captain Underpants, Kids Next Door, and Ed, Edd, n' Eddy throughout the rest of my elementary school years and then, later, getting uber jelly of the first Eragon book being written by the "youngest published writer" at the time while completing a never-ending parody comic with stick figures and then later working on a non-opera-ish opera novel called "Topekia" (Toe-pea-key-ah) without realizing how to even write an opera...

I've been having the mindset to start writing my own published stories for as long as my mind is willing to let me remember... I never liked when someone asked me "What do you want to do when you grow up" because I always thought they secretly knew, but just wanted to make sure I agreed to their suspicions of me... I told someone before on another thread that I have been told numerous times that I have "creative potential", but it gets boring and expected when I hear that said to me more times that I can count... I hate being reminded of something I know damn well I know what I can do...

So, to refer back to the OP... Yeah... I don't know... It just came to me and I'm sticking to it til the very end...
That's just how I do, boy!! Believe it, son!!!
 

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I guess my can be said it was lazy or another can interpret that I was simpy looking up at my brother. You see back in High school, he excel at at the subject Resistance Material (Home workshop for you US) and he took on a degree on Produck Design. No I didn't follow suit per say. I took on the same subject as he did but I didn't excel at it.

Anyway during my University picking days, my brother mention about 3D Design and I had look at his Uni booklet. I looked more onto on the website and I put it on my first choices of Uni to visit.

Sure that pretty much backfire (I never went anything beyond that course and I'm working in retail at the moment) and I do NOT once regretted choosing that subject at all despite some of the hardship I had endure (I had a few sleepless nights) since I had a wonderful life at Uni and met people who can I cna proudly called as my friends who I still kept in touch with some.
 

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I have known what I wanted to do since I was about 8. I always loved videos games, tv and movies so I always wanted to be a game designer then I moved on to animator then 2d animator then having realized how impossible that job is to get I became a video game developer. I am actually working on a indie title right now and am about a year into development and have contacted Nintendo.

So ya I get how people are overwhelmed but I am one of the few who just always sorta has known what they want.
 

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When I was 20 I looked at the skills I had accumulated and identified which the one I was most experienced in.

It happened to be computers/technology, So I took a generic tafe course in computer science that dabbled in most disciplines.

From that I picked the aspect of computer science I enjoyed most "Software Engineering" and undertook a University course in Software Engineering.