How do I get over jealousy
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Shit, same thing happened to me.
The girl was my best friend and she asked out my friend ONLINE when he was practically a stranger to her.
If you are friends with the girl try to continue your friendship as much as possible I guess, try not to let this ruin it.
If you are not friends with her then I'm not really sure, in fact despite my experiences with a similar problem I'm not sure what advice I could give you seeing as everything that has happened to me has been so...bizarre.
My issue was moreso rejection rather than jealousy anyway.
I wouldn't recommend doing this, but I told my friend how I felt and he was strangely supportive, he noticed how upset I was and continuously recommended that I tell her, despite the fact they were together.
I did eventually tell her, and she has barely spoken to me since.
She hates me, as I said before the situation was hugely F'ed in the A, sorry bro but the only thing you can truly go on is yourself.
The girl was my best friend and she asked out my friend ONLINE when he was practically a stranger to her.
If you are friends with the girl try to continue your friendship as much as possible I guess, try not to let this ruin it.
If you are not friends with her then I'm not really sure, in fact despite my experiences with a similar problem I'm not sure what advice I could give you seeing as everything that has happened to me has been so...bizarre.
My issue was moreso rejection rather than jealousy anyway.
I wouldn't recommend doing this, but I told my friend how I felt and he was strangely supportive, he noticed how upset I was and continuously recommended that I tell her, despite the fact they were together.
I did eventually tell her, and she has barely spoken to me since.
She hates me, as I said before the situation was hugely F'ed in the A, sorry bro but the only thing you can truly go on is yourself.
Hmmmmm...
I'm going to enact my motto here (simple solutions for complicated problems!), and give you this simple bit of advice:
Think of it this way... you are happy for the guy, yes? Maybe you could also be happy for the girl as she is now happy? Try and be happy that she is happy ^_^
I'm going to enact my motto here (simple solutions for complicated problems!), and give you this simple bit of advice:
Think of it this way... you are happy for the guy, yes? Maybe you could also be happy for the girl as she is now happy? Try and be happy that she is happy ^_^
Besides challengeing him to a sword foght for her hand?
Nothing, at least nothing concrete. Go out and distract yourself, and who knows, perhaps you will meet someone new.
Nothing, at least nothing concrete. Go out and distract yourself, and who knows, perhaps you will meet someone new.
If you're friends with them don't act all jealous around them and DON'T try and split them up. Selfishness is not the way to go. Be happy for them, if they are ever in trouble help them out, and then if they split up, be there to comfort them both.
My motto in these kind of situations ( which I'm in, RIGHT NOW! 
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Love is time and nothing can make it die.
Just wait and see what happens, if not, then try to fall for someone else.
Yes, it's hard and I'm trying to do it myself, but I can't.
)Love is time and nothing can make it die.
Just wait and see what happens, if not, then try to fall for someone else.
Yes, it's hard and I'm trying to do it myself, but I can't.
Best thing i find is to find a girl of your own to be with. Is there someone else that you like a fair bit? You never know the girl your friend is with could have some freeky behaviour that she hides....or somthing....anyway, if you can find someone else to take your mind from her then it might help? And should the worst come to worst and they split up then you can be there for both of them if need be.
Get over the feelings you have for her, if shes your friend. If shes not your friend then Forget about her and look for some other girls out there. I've been in the same situation except I got rid of my jealousy and tried my best to make my friends happy!
I'm assuming you're envious if you're also happy for him. Unless of course you want to take that happiness away from him...GOWONZU said:
Give it time, and you'll eventually be able to move past your feelings, and accept the reality (if you haven't already). Of course, give it time and you may very well end up with this girl.
But what's important is that you don't hold something against yourself, feel you've done something wrong, or allow yourself to get caught up on her and possibilities between the two of you. It's never fun developing feelings for someone who is with someone else, or doesn't feel the same way, but the only real thing that will allow you to move on is time. Focus on positive stuff, without dwelling on what you wish had happened or could happen. And best of luck, hope it passes soon.
Did your friend know you had a crush on this girl? If so, moving in himself without at least talking it through with you was a little thoughtless..
Also, when we say crush how serious are we talking? Did you just think she was hot, or was it more of an emotional attraction as well? Did you already know her very well when your friend started seeing her and what was your relationship with her like? Did you ever get any signs she might be attracted to you? Is your friend one of those important lifelong friends or is he just someone you hang out with?
Sorry to ask so many questions, but a lot of things are quite dependent. For example, if you and your friend are very close then you're probably best dropping any feelings you have for this girl and just avoiding her until you can turn your attentions to someone else. Even if they break up one day, getting involved with this girl will probably still be awkward for the foreseeable future.
Also, when we say crush how serious are we talking? Did you just think she was hot, or was it more of an emotional attraction as well? Did you already know her very well when your friend started seeing her and what was your relationship with her like? Did you ever get any signs she might be attracted to you? Is your friend one of those important lifelong friends or is he just someone you hang out with?
Sorry to ask so many questions, but a lot of things are quite dependent. For example, if you and your friend are very close then you're probably best dropping any feelings you have for this girl and just avoiding her until you can turn your attentions to someone else. Even if they break up one day, getting involved with this girl will probably still be awkward for the foreseeable future.
Rather than be half-happy for him, half-fuming about the situation, tell yourself that this is what you deservedly get for procrastinating. Everyone makes mistakes but the difference between the wise man and the fool is whether you learn from them, so learn the valuable lesson contained herein, and resolve to apply it to the next situation you encounter where you have a crush on a girl.GOWONZU said:
Does your friend know you like her?
Have you spoken to the girl about your feelings?
It would be nice to know these things to handle this.
Also, you kinda prolonged asking her out and so he took his chance...
Have you spoken to the girl about your feelings?
It would be nice to know these things to handle this.
Also, you kinda prolonged asking her out and so he took his chance...