Just want to know how you break up with someone who loves you, but you don't love anymore. I'm 15 ad we've been going out for over a year now.
How do you break up with someone who loves you?
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... depends. How much would you see her if you weren't going out?
1. Short and abrupt - 'sorry, it's not working out'
2. Conciliatory - 'I don't think it's fair on you that you go out with someone who doesn't love as much as he should' etc. etc.
3. Pragmatic - confused feelings and all that mid-adolescence guff, see if you can play that card
Now, depending on her character, I might be able to give you something more specific.
1. Short and abrupt - 'sorry, it's not working out'
2. Conciliatory - 'I don't think it's fair on you that you go out with someone who doesn't love as much as he should' etc. etc.
3. Pragmatic - confused feelings and all that mid-adolescence guff, see if you can play that card
Now, depending on her character, I might be able to give you something more specific.
Either this or if you're a very slick talker find a way to reverse the situation and end up acting like their breaking up with you. It will confuse her, take the heat off you...at least long enough to make subtle getaway out the door.SckizoBoy said:
Either this or if you're a very slick talker find a way to reverse the situation and end up acting like their breaking up with you. It will confuse her, take the heat off you...at least long enough to make subtle getaway out the door.SckizoBoy said:
It is a difficult one, but you have to do it if you don't love her. I'd tell her that you are sorry but you don't love her as much as she deserves and tell her she deserves more. Or something to that effect. Try to let her down gently, but you can't deny your feelings.
You are only 15 after all. She isn't going to take it well whatever you do. But she will get over it. Good luck.
You are only 15 after all. She isn't going to take it well whatever you do. But she will get over it. Good luck.
*points at self* Thirteen... and I honestly don't know whether to agree or disagree with that statement...Dr Ampersand said:
Thinking about it, that's probably the best way to go about it... just as a general rule for mid-teenagers and their propensity for caprice...Galletea said:
How? With great difficulty, there's no easy way around it.Limiting Factor said:
Be truthful, that's really the best way. If you start making excuses or saying stuff like "i'm a confused boy" etc then it's just gonna add salt to what's going to be a horrible wound.
You're 15 anyway, you and she will bounce back.
Trust me, it's only going to get harder. I had this problem in my last relationship and I left it, it just led to a really hostile breakup in the end. If you don't think there's any way to save it you just need to tell them, otherwise you're just making it hard on both of you.
First off, I know you're going to hate this, but it isn't love honey. I thought I was in love at 16 and I wasn't, not in the way you're thinking of. Other than that, just be straight-up with her. She'll be more grateful to you in the end for just coming out and saying it and not dragging it out.
tell her/him. (s)he will hate you for month in that age and possibly never speak to you again. you can't help it.
*cliché talk about fishs and the sea*
after all its a good thing, you are young , you need to make some experiences. I know a guy who married his first girlfriend ever. (got together with 13 married with 26 or 27) well this is kinda romantic and crap, but he just can't parttake in any conversation that is not about cars or movies.
*cliché talk about fishs and the sea*
after all its a good thing, you are young , you need to make some experiences. I know a guy who married his first girlfriend ever. (got together with 13 married with 26 or 27) well this is kinda romantic and crap, but he just can't parttake in any conversation that is not about cars or movies.
Just be honest. That's what happened to me. Make them understand why.
That's pretty much it.
I don't regret a thing, and your loved one should think the same.
That's pretty much it.
I don't regret a thing, and your loved one should think the same.
I'm having this guys problem aswell. I'm not even sure what to do. And i'm not sure about my feelings for her anymore, but she is a very emotional and i'm scared of how she'll react. I hate dissapointing and/or upsetting people...
Don't lie to her. Tell her the truth. Be understanding, supportful, compassionate. You're about to break her heart, the least you can do is be mature and honest about it. However, don't remain friends unless you want to, staying friends with exes is awkward at first and can end very well or very badly, or anywhere in between. If you do want to stay friends, I reccomend having little contact for a few months at the very least, otherwise things could beome... unpleasant.
Don't lie. Be compassionate, thoughtful, caring, but honest. You're about to break someone's heart, and that can take ages to mend. The least you can do is be mature about it.
And if you decide to remain friends, I reccomend not trying to remain close friends until months have passed, at the very least. Lingering feelings/resentment can make thing awkward for longer than if you had given each other space for a while before spending time with eahco ther.
And if you decide to remain friends, I reccomend not trying to remain close friends until months have passed, at the very least. Lingering feelings/resentment can make thing awkward for longer than if you had given each other space for a while before spending time with eahco ther.
