Always in person; any other way is for cowards. If your significant other is in the military and you can't physically do it face-to-face, at least try Skype. You don't have to be cruel but be honest and don't lead them on.
How do you break up with someone?
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"See ya" and leave your parents and school and your music career too!
You can also burn your message into her front lawn. "Your boobs/wee wee, too small".
Oh, just read more carefully. Texting break ups.
I think you should be marked as some kind of "relationship offender", barred from all women and gay men (just in case) and have you surgically transformed into some kind of a snail or other spineless creature. I would probably punch you in the gut if you told me that personally.
No offense, but this is why people laugh at the current generation being unable to handle social situations.
You can also burn your message into her front lawn. "Your boobs/wee wee, too small".
Oh, just read more carefully. Texting break ups.
I think you should be marked as some kind of "relationship offender", barred from all women and gay men (just in case) and have you surgically transformed into some kind of a snail or other spineless creature. I would probably punch you in the gut if you told me that personally.
No offense, but this is why people laugh at the current generation being unable to handle social situations.
Done it a few times and the only maxim I have for it is an old saying my coaches used to use: do it right, do it light. Basically meaning do it once, maybe a little harshly, but get the point across and it'll be over. Don't shoot for the whole "we can still be friends" thing. It just sends mixed messages. Let the soon-to-be-ex know that it's over so you can both get on with your lives without false hopes for either party. A little cold, but a lot more humane than dragging it out. Also, don't be an ass, say it to their face.
Generally I know when people begin to resent me in a relationship (singular tense, it's only happened once) so I do a few relationship diplomacy tests such as if she wants to spend time with me or if she's bothered about not talking to me for say a week or two.. If the tests get negative results then I'll just say face to face it's not working, we'd be better off as friends.. Simple.. Asking people out is much harder..
Also.. Always put the reason for the relationship not working on yourself, just in case they want to change now that they are on the back foot and being threatened..
Also.. Always put the reason for the relationship not working on yourself, just in case they want to change now that they are on the back foot and being threatened..
A guy we know asked out his now girlfriend via text. We not only make fun of him for doing it but of her for being dumb enough to say yes in a text. Like seriously? who does that! Id rather get rejected in person anyways you can just easily walk away and say alright thats fine. But in a text you have to deal with 20 minute long responses and stuff. Its stupid and immature.drummond13 said:
I guess it depends on the person and the situation you are in.
First off, you want to do it in person; no texting, email, phone call, or letter break-ups because it makes you look like a coward. Now depending on the individual you are dumping, you might want to break-up with them in private; if you know, or suspect, that they might get a little crazy upon being dumped, I suggest you break up in a public area (restaurant, store, park, etc.) so that they can't cause a scene or at least you have people around that could defuse any impending situation.
If the break up is neutral (both of you are just not into each other and want to move on), then just be honest and say that you don't believe that you two should not continue being a couple. Try not to sound smug or arrogant because the break up might seem like your own idea, hence, your fault that you break off the relationship.
If you want to break up because you are interested in someone else (and haven't cheated on your partner), again, go the honesty route. They might be heartbroken, but try to explain to them that you enjoyed being in a relationship with them and are just interested in what someone else might offer in a relationship. Don't list out things that made you choose another partner over your current because then they will make empty promises about being able to do those things or offer more of something for the sole purpose of remaining in the relationship. It's better off to just go your separate ways and that it is your decision and not theirs.
In terms of cheating, you may not want to admit to your partner that you have cheated on them, thus causing the break up. If you want to try and work through any form of cheating, you need to be honest; even if there's no possibility that they will take you back, the fact that you came clean will leave a lasting impression on you. Though you may not end up together, there might still be hope after you have both had some time apart.
If they cheated on you (and you know this to be a fact), then you break up with them stating that you know that they have been unfaithful. Same rules apply here; if they deny it, then you should move on because if you forgive them (or take them back too quickly), they will just be prone to cheat again. If they come clean, then there could be a possibility to salvage the relationship. If not, then you would at least know that they were at least honest to then end, and you can go on knowing that it was not your fault for the break up.
First off, you want to do it in person; no texting, email, phone call, or letter break-ups because it makes you look like a coward. Now depending on the individual you are dumping, you might want to break-up with them in private; if you know, or suspect, that they might get a little crazy upon being dumped, I suggest you break up in a public area (restaurant, store, park, etc.) so that they can't cause a scene or at least you have people around that could defuse any impending situation.
If the break up is neutral (both of you are just not into each other and want to move on), then just be honest and say that you don't believe that you two should not continue being a couple. Try not to sound smug or arrogant because the break up might seem like your own idea, hence, your fault that you break off the relationship.
If you want to break up because you are interested in someone else (and haven't cheated on your partner), again, go the honesty route. They might be heartbroken, but try to explain to them that you enjoyed being in a relationship with them and are just interested in what someone else might offer in a relationship. Don't list out things that made you choose another partner over your current because then they will make empty promises about being able to do those things or offer more of something for the sole purpose of remaining in the relationship. It's better off to just go your separate ways and that it is your decision and not theirs.
In terms of cheating, you may not want to admit to your partner that you have cheated on them, thus causing the break up. If you want to try and work through any form of cheating, you need to be honest; even if there's no possibility that they will take you back, the fact that you came clean will leave a lasting impression on you. Though you may not end up together, there might still be hope after you have both had some time apart.
If they cheated on you (and you know this to be a fact), then you break up with them stating that you know that they have been unfaithful. Same rules apply here; if they deny it, then you should move on because if you forgive them (or take them back too quickly), they will just be prone to cheat again. If they come clean, then there could be a possibility to salvage the relationship. If not, then you would at least know that they were at least honest to then end, and you can go on knowing that it was not your fault for the break up.
I've only had to end things after the first date or two and at the end of the date I just say I'm not feeling it and want to be friends.
Otherwise it's me who gets dumped. Always for someone else.
Otherwise it's me who gets dumped. Always for someone else.
I've never broken up with anyone myself, but have heard of different ways it can be done.
The most direct way is to flat out say something along the lines of "You're great and all, but I don't love you". Direct, crushing, and leaves little room for delusions unless the person is some kind of crazy.
"We should see other people" is a kinder way of breaking up, but tells someone who's heard it before (or at least expects the worst) that you've already found a better person to be with and don't want them around to cause problems.
As for the actual method of getting the message across, texting is the most cowardly and likely to backfire. There's only so much space for context, no tone of voice, no body language, and they may not actually read the message for some time after you sent it. There are so many places for things to go wrong by breaking up through text.
By actually calling or talking face-to-face, you show that you're willing to take the verbal punishment from their real time reactions and even endure the treatment from their friends if they bring any along. It may be much less comfortable for everyone involved while it happens, but it'll be a bigger relief to have that personal touch and get any confrontation done with then and there.
The most direct way is to flat out say something along the lines of "You're great and all, but I don't love you". Direct, crushing, and leaves little room for delusions unless the person is some kind of crazy.
"We should see other people" is a kinder way of breaking up, but tells someone who's heard it before (or at least expects the worst) that you've already found a better person to be with and don't want them around to cause problems.
As for the actual method of getting the message across, texting is the most cowardly and likely to backfire. There's only so much space for context, no tone of voice, no body language, and they may not actually read the message for some time after you sent it. There are so many places for things to go wrong by breaking up through text.
By actually calling or talking face-to-face, you show that you're willing to take the verbal punishment from their real time reactions and even endure the treatment from their friends if they bring any along. It may be much less comfortable for everyone involved while it happens, but it'll be a bigger relief to have that personal touch and get any confrontation done with then and there.
"I like you as a friend," "I think we should see other people," "I no speak English"... "I'm married to the sea," "I don't want to kill you but I will"... And if that doesn't work, six simple words: "I'm not gay, but I'll learn."
Cookie for the reference. But in all seriousness... Your method is worse than your friends.
Cookie for the reference. But in all seriousness... Your method is worse than your friends.
Every single freaking post you make about relationships is so childish and illogically cynical.RAKtheUndead said:
You sound like fucking Quasimodo. No wonder you haven't been in a good relationship. No girl on Earth would be interested with someone with that sort of attitude.
RAKtheUndead said:
Anyway, I've broken up with someone once and honestly, I did it in the most pussy-ish way possible. I wanted to avoid a confrontation, so I started making up excuses not to go places, and paid less attention to her. Eventually, she asked me if something's wrong, but I said no...then I sent her a text an hour or so later and broke up with her. If I'm in that position again, I'll just be direct and face-to-face.
I just tell them, not in a mean way, but you've been a couple so it's fair that you be honest with them. If that honesty means you have to tell them you don't want to be with them anymore, that's the best way to go. And I can't comment on breaking up over text or Facebook or something, cause it really depends on the circumstances, but face to face is how I do it. It's not a nice subject, and there's no easy way to do it, so you just face them and tell them how you feel. Probably list some reasons too.
And hope the next person you go out with you don't have to say those things too
And hope the next person you go out with you don't have to say those things too
im sorry but doing those things does make u an idiot. unless u break up with her because she has sheated or something like that taking things back and start dating again right away is the meanest thing u can do to a girl after a break upkrazykidd said:
just had to say it.
my way if dumping guys it to be very clear why and that it is OVER and ofc do it in person
I dont know its never plesant, only ever dont it once
and it went somthing like this
"comon you and I BOTH know that this isnt working, Im not happy, YOURE not happy, you would be better off with somone else....why are you crying? what do you mean "work at it"? what are we? married?...look you'll get over this eventually...see I'm ALREADY over it! its easy!"
hmm mabye not
and it went somthing like this
"comon you and I BOTH know that this isnt working, Im not happy, YOURE not happy, you would be better off with somone else....why are you crying? what do you mean "work at it"? what are we? married?...look you'll get over this eventually...see I'm ALREADY over it! its easy!"
hmm mabye not