How do you cope with death?

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Grumbles92

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I?m horrified of dying ? mainly because I don?t think there?s a life after death. What?s even worse is that death is all I can ever think about. Every second of every day, I?m thinking about death and how it would be like to stop existing and have any trace of my presence in this world to just waft away in time and be forgotten forever.

It doesn?t help that I feel like I didn?t live life to its fullest.

Because of this I vowed to invest in life extension research when I?m rich.

An unhealthy habit I have is to go upstairs in the mornings, look across the crowds of people in my school and try to discern the skankiest girls from the cluster of humans and think about how many babies they?ll probably pump out within their lifetimes. Then I think about how superfluous our existence is, how much more superfluous our lives become as the number of humans grow and how we?re all effectively the same. We?re all just organic machines with sex drives. Then I try convincing myself that the very fact that I?m thinking about these kinds of things excessively separates me from all of them, but it doesn?t.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, each one of us is a ?star in the universe? and ?death is just like being unborn again?.

I realize there?re a lot of fun, optimistic ways to look at all this that help people better cope with the idea of dying, but they don?t change the essential truth, do they? We?re all going to stop existing and be forgotten forever if we don?t make something of ourselves. We?re all going to die.

Having this mindset isn?t all bad, it does have its share if applications, for example, I?m the least likely person to suicide bomb something and you won?t catch me trying to grind electrical wires with my skateboard while I'm on fire, or trying to balance a car on my head.

Anyway, I was wondering how other people deal with death. You can suggest positive ways to look at all this, but what would be most helpful is priori proof of an afterlife.
 

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Don't think too much about it, nobody knows whats after death but even if it is nothing then you won't be around to miss it. It's never too late to start doing something you want but the more you think about it the more anxiety you're gonna give yourself.
 

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how do i deal with it? keep busy, become indifferent, and grow a suicidal mind-set which doesnt care about jack-shit but will naturally prevent its own extermination. if you are confused by what i just said: fuck off
 

Grumbles92

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What? No, the opposite is true. Compare the afterlife, which is eternal, to life, which is only 70-80 years. It makes life less meaningful. And if you're talking about people's fear of hell, I wouldn't be doing anything different now if I believed hell existed.
 

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Having my best friend die when I was 17, I learned quickly that life is finite. While you may miss them, spending time crying about it doesn't help. After my best friend died, my grandmother died and even though I was very close to her, I didn't spend time mourning as I did for my friend.
 

Mr.France

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Well, personally I believe in existence after death, mostly because of the fact that the idea of non-existing at all doesn't sit well with me. But regardless of your beliefs, you've got to find something in life that makes it worth living, it can be anything, really. I think life is worth living because of ht tiny little moments of joy it gives me, it is true that we all are destined to die, but really, I don't give a damn. If there is anything you do that makes you happy, fulfilled, or anything like that, keep doind it whatever it is. That is the meaning of life to me.

Life is what you make of it. Death too.
 

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My strong religious faith has me quite at peace with my own mortality---near-death from a heart attack at 30 was surprisingly liberating.

I'm drinkin' from a fountain that is pourin' like an avalanche comin' down the mountain.
 

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I'm not scared of dying myself, but don't really know how to deal with it when it comes to other people.

I mean i do alot of fairly reckless stuff, as long as i know only i will get hurt. I've got a kinda in the long run nothing will matter attitude......or i like to think so.
 

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Grumbles92 said:
Well, manly man, how'd you grow out of it?
Think it through, weep about it, accept it, move on. Thats what I did when I was 12.
 

DeASplode

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Death bugged me so much when I was 18/19. Used to hate sleeping because that would be the time I'd think about it. Just a black void.

PayJ567 said:
You grow out of your current mind set.
But this is true. Sure I think of death now and again. Yeah it sucks, but I'd rather try and live my life than worry about death constantly.

I wouldn't say my life is always full of totally amazing things. But then, who cares? As long as you're happy with your life choices, it doesn't matter what people think about you when you're dead.

Get out there and enjoy life.
 

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This is going to sound far harsher then it is intended, but it really is easier when you grow up and get over yourself. I think most intelligent creative people goe through something like this and I think almost as many get past it.

That being said, you seem to be having two issues here. One, seeing your value as seperate from those around you. The solution to that is time and experience. The second problem, that of dealing with your own mortality, well that is a bit harder. I don't think I became comfortable with mine until I saw my mother die. To me it is easier to accept that it has to be not that terrible then to accept that she is somewhere scary. I might just be deluding myself, but I am ok with that.
 

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Grumbles92 said:
I?m horrified of dying ? mainly because I don?t think there?s a life after death. What?s even worse is that death is all I can ever think about. Every second of every day, I?m thinking about death and how it would be like to stop existing and have any trace of my presence in this world to just waft away in time and be forgotten forever.

It doesn?t help that I feel like I didn?t live life to its fullest.

Because of this I vowed to invest in life extension research when I?m rich.

An unhealthy habit I have is to go upstairs in the mornings, look across the crowds of people in my school and try to discern the skankiest girls from the cluster of humans and think about how many babies they?ll probably pump out within their lifetimes. Then I think about how superfluous our existence is, how much more superfluous our lives become as the number of humans grow and how we?re all effectively the same. We?re all just organic machines with sex drives. Then I try convincing myself that the very fact that I?m thinking about these kinds of things excessively separates me from all of them, but it doesn?t.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, each one of us is a ?star in the universe? and ?death is just like being unborn again?.

I realize there?re a lot of fun, optimistic ways to look at all this that help people better cope with the idea of dying, but they don?t change the essential truth, do they? We?re all going to stop existing and be forgotten forever if we don?t make something of ourselves. We?re all going to die.

Anyway, I was wondering how other people deal with death. You can suggest positive ways to look at all this, but what would be most helpful is priori proof of an afterlife.
If there's no afterlife then who cares? You plan to be rich so you can invest in 'life extention' research, I hope instead that you'll do something that would make you feel fulfilled, I've a few plans to get there and death doesn't bother me all that much, I think what you're missing is a goal. (unless your goal is to not die, in which case I recommend changing it)

Alternatively, when you're dead you'll have no problem coping with the concept, so you could always just wait and think till then.

I've already been on board that thought train, you'll snap out of it... And back sometime between the ages of 40-80.

I'm more afraid of growing old then growing dead.