How do you cope with insults and arguments?

[SpaceArcader]

This is a difficult question to answer but how do you deal with insults from people who mock you? Whether it be from social life, work, school just explain your problems and how you deal with them and hopefully we can all share our strategies.

Preferably I dont want you to answer "Just walk away" a good strategy at times but you cant do it all the time.

 

[Nimcha]

I just leave the thread usually!

But seriously, I've had so much verbal abuse thrown at me over the years it doesn't affect me anymore really.

 

[eyesonflux]

Ask why do they insult me and what have i ever done to them or if it's just playful mocking then just ignore it.

 

[hensethe1]

For me it depends very much on the situation since I guess there's a lot of different kinds of mocking. Whether it be in social, at work or somewhere else I tend to just smile big and go "piss off" "fuck off" or something like that.

Being a bouncer/doorman in the weekends has made me very fond of aggresive response though, if it comes from someone I don't know or if someone goes too personal. But in general.. I'm cool

 

[interspark]

well a friend and i have turned arguing into an artform, we disagree on basically everything! but if someoneargues or insults just to be abusive then walking away is really the best solution, i mean, if they set you up for a snappy come back then by all means do it! but it generally isn't a good idea to confront people like that, if they want to be deuchebags it's their loss, but they're the kind of problem that goes away if you ignore it

 

[Richardplex]

I agree with the insults, apologise since it's clearly my fault. throws people off very easily, and the insults stop very soon. And be incredibly polite and british about it. Keep a stiff upper lip and what not. Over the internet I can also logical prove whoever is being a dick that they are being a dick, which works sometimes. Verbal abuse doesn't bother me, it bores me more than anything.

 

[DEAD34345]

Neither really affect me at all. In fact, I love arguing. 90% of the conversations I have with my friends are arguments, and I certainly don't want to change that. As for insults, the kind of person that would actually insult me (i.e. not playfully) is also the kind of person whose opinion I don't give a damn about, so my reaction is generally: [h4]meh[/h4]

 

[Jedamethis]

"I'm sorry, your opinion does not count because you are a WANKER." Is what goes through my head when I'm insulted. But usually I just tell them to fuck off, or leave.

Arguing however...I don't know actually, haven't had a real argument for ages.

 

[staika]

It never really bothered me to be honest. If someone insults me I laugh it off if someone argues with me it means they just have a different point of view.

 

[Flutterguy]

Depends heavily on the situation, either trolling them, telling them off, arguing and what have you. Not very often I get in fights, guess being 6'8" has an effect on peoples thought process about fighting me.

on a side note you are all so pretty, why do you all look like Bieber lols.

 

[aba1]

I love to argue only problem is I'm terrible at thinking under pressure

as far is being insulted goes I don't really care what people think of me doesnt really matter why should I care I ussually just laugh n give a good old fashon fo sho and go back to what I was doing if they attack me I have 15 years of judo so Im pritty casual in a fight most people get annoyed and a little creeped out cause I tend to laugh while fighting since its fun

 

[w9496]

Depends.

Unless they insult my family or friends, I can usually cope with/ handle. If they do however, insult my friends or family, they best apologize as those are fighting words. A bit barbaric but it works.

 

[Michael K]

On the internet, I don't care about other people's opinions of me.
In school, I just beat the shit out of the first guy to call me names. Got to spend a week in detention, but nobody ever called me names after that. And later when it happened at another school, I pretended to never hear him.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

I am not easy to insult.But i do judge people who are quite strongly.
There are idiots out there who go crazy if a total stranger who doesnt even know his family say some idiotic stuff about their mother and such. I despise such weak personalities, but i have to admit i did use these weak spots of others sometimes.
I never got the concept of this behaviour. The things said are obviously lies and additionally they dont insult me, but someone else (in this case the mother), so why should i react in any way?
A fun thing to do is to use the poor insult attempts of low witted drunkards against themselves. The typical antisocial subject in this area may say something along "beware muthafuckers or i fuck you all" which is the perfect preparation to put his sexual orientation in question, usually followed by a funny moment where he is laughed at by his friends followed by more insults, threats and sometimes fighting.(the latter usually only in rough cases, but if some "witty" arabic youngster seriously wants to threaten us by saying "seriously i fuck everything" i couldnt help but ask if that includes little boys, old women and dead dogs.)

So long story short: Strangers cant insult me at all. Annoy me, entertain me, yes. But insult me? impossible. If you know me well you might be able to.If you treat me like some idiot, or imply my friends are less than they deserve to be described as, you get me insulted an will face my wrath and disgust immediatly. But i am not the type for long arguments. i usually state my opinion on your misjudgement maybe followed by the steps i am willing to take to revenge it.
I already promised my mother that i wont attend her funeral when i was a Teen.not that she would notice, but it worked and she apologized for her misbehaviour.

 

[Serge A. Storms]

Be better at it than they are. Or leave. Only ways to win an internet debate is to leave or knock someone else out of the thread. At least that's what we tell ourselves as we acknowledge deep down that we lost just for being there in the first place.

 

[CM156_v1legacy]

This is a difficult question to answer but how do you deal with insults from people who mock you? Whether it be from social life, work, school just explain your problems and how you deal with them and hopefully we can all share our strategies.

Preferably I dont want you to answer "Just walk away" a good strategy at times but you cant do it all the time.

I just laugh and walk away. Words have no more weight behind them then you allow them to. People who spout that they are offended by something said or done have yet to learn this.

Besides, I enjoy a good insult. If it's true, I don't mind being taken down a peg or two.

 

[StBishop]

It's certainly changed as I've left adolescence.

I use to pretty much either ignore it or rebut with something along the lines of "I fucked your mother in the arse last night and she fucking loved it."
or
"That may well be but I'm going to kill you one day in the future and you will now forever be looking over your shoulder wondering if I've snapped yet and if I've gotten far enough through my 'nerd-rage-kill-list' to get to you"

Depending on whether I hated the person or not.

Sometimes I just hit people.

Now I really just ignore it, say thanks, or rebut it with a well reasoned argument.

eg. "You're a fucking ******, mind your own business."
"Actually, I'm neither gay, a bundle or sticks, or a meatball, and you made this my business by being obnoxious in a public place and victimising someone unable or unwilling to put you in your place."

I tend to be that guy who tells punk kids to stand up for pensioners with a walking stick on the train, or the guy who walks up to distressed women on the street in the middle of the night when they're being harassed and ask them if they are fine or if they have a problem.

But yeah, I tend to either ignore verbal abuse or point out that it's inaccurate. Depending on the situation.

I love to argue only problem is I'm terrible at thinking under pressure

as far is being insulted goes I don't really care what people think of me doesnt really matter why should I care I ussually just laugh n give a good old fashon fo sho and go back to what I was doing if they attack me I have 15 years of judo so Im pritty casual in a fight most people get annoyed and a little creeped out cause I tend to laugh while fighting since its fun

I fucking love Judo.

 

[Fwee]

Usually I get the kind of verbal attacks that cause five minutes of confusion, five more of contemplation, and then a moment of "That asshole just insulted me!" that makes me spend time thinking about how much hurt I could have put on someone if they'd have a better constructed (actually good) way to poke fun at a stranger.
Or sometimes I'll get it right off the bat and just laugh because it's funny. Or just ask them how they feel about spending their entire lives acting like a dickhead.
I haven't been in a real fight in... over ten years? Jesus, I need to get into a real fight. All this training and no one to start some shit with me. I just happen to have physically developed to look like I showed up in this place and time and forgot to bring my battle ax, so I guess it won't happen too soon.