How do you cope with insults and arguments?
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if someone insults you on something you deeply care about, then you have to take a stand. people have insulted me for my love of video games, but when someone told me that its a worthless activity and a waste of time, i went insane, and started shouting at them about how and why i love them so much. and it made me feel pretty proud of my hobby 
It maybe a "wuss" way to deal with it, but with verbal arguments I always try to see it from the other persons view, understand were their coming from, and then tell them why I think they are wrong politely. When some one insults me, in any form, I learned the best way to take is to never let it infuriate you, which close to impossible to do all of the time. If someone makes a less-extreme insult more just making fun of you, I think its best to just laugh at yourself with the person instead of getting all defensive. If some makes an extreme very hurtful remark, Ill reply with something along the lines of "well someone an angry little person today" or something completely chill and whatever. This gets the person even mentally angrier, but they back of since they start to look like assholes. Because of these things, I have honestly never gotten into a real fist fight, and very few verbal fights. (However, I almost hope sometimes that certain people would take a swing at me just so I could kick the crap out of them with three years of tai kwan doe under my belt .)
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It depends on the nature of of the insult. If it's of the "Hey ******" variety, I'm well-equipped to bear those.
I'm sort of a physically intimidating person to most (6'3" and 225lbs), plus I don't really wear my emotions (people think I'm cold), so when someone insults me, I don't crack a smile, I don't look angry, and I don't respond immediately. What I do is make eye contact with the person, walk over to him, get to an uncomfortably close range, and say "I'm sorry, I couldn't hear that. Can you pull the dick out of your mouth and repeat it please?"
Eye contact is usually enough to get a person to stop any whispering behind your back, a more direct confrontation/response will be enough to stop any more vocal insults although it may be more uncomfortable (but which is worse, really; being uncomfortable and insulted or being uncomfortable after actively standing up for yourself?). If it's more personal than that, then you have to make a choice; either tolerate it and thicken your skin or get comfortable with the fact that at the worst you will get punched in the face (which is usually just more surprising than painful in my experience) and launch your own barbs at the fucker. I would usually try to spin the other person's insults in your favor. Make him seem like a hypocrite or use logic to make his insults apply to him as well. This might take a little practice to become effective as it usually requires some on-the-fly creativity.
Usually, people will insult you in order to assert some sort of dominance; they can't or don't want to fight you. Brushing them off will only give them the impression that doing it will be free of any consequence and they will assert the dominance you allow them to have whenever they have an opportunity. That is, unless the person genuinely likes it or he really wants to fight and for some reason needs you to give him any reason (by, you know, existing), in which case he will be unusually aggressive. That's really the best case to just walk away. So, use your best judgment and don't get yourself into some shit that you're not prepared for. If you're not comfortable with taking some punches then just walk away.
I'm sort of a physically intimidating person to most (6'3" and 225lbs), plus I don't really wear my emotions (people think I'm cold), so when someone insults me, I don't crack a smile, I don't look angry, and I don't respond immediately. What I do is make eye contact with the person, walk over to him, get to an uncomfortably close range, and say "I'm sorry, I couldn't hear that. Can you pull the dick out of your mouth and repeat it please?"
Eye contact is usually enough to get a person to stop any whispering behind your back, a more direct confrontation/response will be enough to stop any more vocal insults although it may be more uncomfortable (but which is worse, really; being uncomfortable and insulted or being uncomfortable after actively standing up for yourself?). If it's more personal than that, then you have to make a choice; either tolerate it and thicken your skin or get comfortable with the fact that at the worst you will get punched in the face (which is usually just more surprising than painful in my experience) and launch your own barbs at the fucker. I would usually try to spin the other person's insults in your favor. Make him seem like a hypocrite or use logic to make his insults apply to him as well. This might take a little practice to become effective as it usually requires some on-the-fly creativity.
Usually, people will insult you in order to assert some sort of dominance; they can't or don't want to fight you. Brushing them off will only give them the impression that doing it will be free of any consequence and they will assert the dominance you allow them to have whenever they have an opportunity. That is, unless the person genuinely likes it or he really wants to fight and for some reason needs you to give him any reason (by, you know, existing), in which case he will be unusually aggressive. That's really the best case to just walk away. So, use your best judgment and don't get yourself into some shit that you're not prepared for. If you're not comfortable with taking some punches then just walk away.
Insults? I try to ignore them. Arguments? I roll up my sleeves and get ready to throw down. Not physically, as in getting ready to argue.
Like my father, I have very thick skin. I don't care what people say or think about me, the person who knows me best is me, and nobody can change that.
In other words, I DON'T GIVE A FUCK WHAT PEOPLE SAY.
In arguments, I usually attempt to keep cool and laid back while throwing barrages of inquisition at any mistake (grammatical, factual, etc.) that they make. However, I only do this to people who I know will get angry, and therefore make more mistakes.
In other words, I DON'T GIVE A FUCK WHAT PEOPLE SAY.
In arguments, I usually attempt to keep cool and laid back while throwing barrages of inquisition at any mistake (grammatical, factual, etc.) that they make. However, I only do this to people who I know will get angry, and therefore make more mistakes.
I've been bullied just about all my life, and I also make YouTube videos. After awhile, you develop this area in your mind that shuts out insults because bullies are just trolls in real life. They ain't gonna really try $#!t. They're just gonna act tough and not do anything.
And on threads, you can just do what Nimcha said and leave. What are they gonna do? constantly send you messages? That just proves how little they actually do and how sad they are.
And on threads, you can just do what Nimcha said and leave. What are they gonna do? constantly send you messages? That just proves how little they actually do and how sad they are.
For insults I either don't really have them do anything to me or I take them way too seriously and think about it for months, which can be pretty awkward.
For arguments I can't cope with someone being able to get the last laugh or being able to prove me wrong, or having anyone say anything wrong even if I am not in that argument, I feel I have to correct them if I am there or I am not doing something.
For arguments I can't cope with someone being able to get the last laugh or being able to prove me wrong, or having anyone say anything wrong even if I am not in that argument, I feel I have to correct them if I am there or I am not doing something.
I tell myself that the person insulting me is a mono-neuron (has one brain cell) and ignore them. If they persist, I calmly walk up to them and ask them in a pleasant voice to kindly take their GAPO (gorilla arm pit odor) elsewhere. This invariably leaves them looking very confused and they stop the insults.
I generally don't care but if I want to be an ass I tend to rate their insult. Take each part of the insult and show if it is overused or misused. Break down what they chose to insult and why. Rate the difficulty of the insult, was it easy like calling me fat or was there thought put into it? The give it a low rating .5-1 and then say ?well I suppose I could increase the rating to a 3 out of 10 because it is probably the best you can do.?
I always think of a very witty retort.... three hours later. Then I go "Damn! I should have said that!"
I go with it and usually throw insults back. Or I walk away. Honestly when you've been teased and insulted since you started school there gets to a point where you become a sarcastic asshole/***** and just don't give a fuck. Or at least out here that's what happens......Might just be my area of Southern California. But I'm fairly immune to it most of the time and shrug it off. IF I even hear it at all. I usually have headphones in and music blaring so.....
and as far as arguments....I can't let an argument go..........unless its at work.........despite how much I HATE arguing.
and as far as arguments....I can't let an argument go..........unless its at work.........despite how much I HATE arguing.
If we're actually arguing maturely, then enjoy a little debate with the other person. If they're sinking low and throwing cheap insults, get sarcastic and rip their weak insults up.
not caring. it is suprising hopw they lose interrest in you and leave you alone.
but with one guy i had always arguments. he called me a game-addict, even it wsa common knowledge that he skipped school to play COD. when i informed him of that with the question:who is more a game addict, his response was: you, because you play differently. the look at the my fac would probalby something like 0_0 how can you response at something like that. after that i never startesd a argument with him again, because he was just making stupid ideas.
but with one guy i had always arguments. he called me a game-addict, even it wsa common knowledge that he skipped school to play COD. when i informed him of that with the question:who is more a game addict, his response was: you, because you play differently. the look at the my fac would probalby something like 0_0 how can you response at something like that. after that i never startesd a argument with him again, because he was just making stupid ideas.
Ignore, push the button if I have to. What do I care for the pointless rage of some internet denizen?
Though if they go beyond insults and issue a challenge, I will tear them a new intellectual asshole.
Though if they go beyond insults and issue a challenge, I will tear them a new intellectual asshole.