How do you date?

[EvilRoy]

I've never been on a date my whole life (yes, that's a whopping 32 years of no dates) so I wouldn't know.

Beyond having the courage of mollusc, when I think about having to tell a girl about myself (interests, job, home situation) I would fucking die of embarrassment.

I used to have the same issue until I started online dating. You may find that your interests work and life aren't really that uncommon. And even if they are, allow me to personally guarantee that there are worse people on any given dating website. I've gone out with a few.

 

[Cavouku]

From about ages 12-17 I was approached by 6 girls (full disclosure: 3 online, 3 at school). I am 20 now, and in those three years since 17 I discovered, to my dismay, that I was experiencing a string of anomalies.

It seems that the general culture dissuades females from approaching males. Now, for a complicated reason (basically, I don't get crushes) I've never had the volition to approach any particular girl. I just feel that it would be disingenuous to say to any given girl "I'm more attracted to you than I am to the other generally attractive girls that I know about as well around here." The reason that would feel disingenuous is because I would be lying.

So I've only been on dates when I've had something resembling a girlfriend. They were okay, stuff in the park, a museum, etc. Not really "first date" stuff, but I've been told lunch at a cafe is a nice start.

Shame. I'd really like to have a girlfriend, but there's nobody I'm particularly interested in. I could go out and meet people, but I've found that not partaking alcohol makes that somewhat awkward.

 

[Secondhand Revenant]

Meet someone I like and tell them so? 100% success rate with a grand total of one person! I never found an impulse to go find someone. Met through a mutual friend, became friends, talked a bunch and eventually decided I liked her more than just as a friend. Said so eventually, turned out it was mutual so hooray for us?

I'm not the kind of person to search for someone. If I like them *then* I start to care, otherwise I'm fine. I also like that we have the same interests and enjoy similar humor, which you can only really tell if you get to know someone first.

 

[rosac]

It's been a long time since I have... But I think I may have been approached for a data rather than the other way round (which as a guy, is really nice)

Basically, it's all in the confidence. You have to accept that they might say no, but also how good it'd be if they said yes! Other than that, a meal in a nice place that'll let you talk undisturbed (i.e. somewhere where you aren't too likely to bump into old acquaintances etc.) is great. Cinema is a completely no go, first dates are about talking. And don't expect sex, you schlag.

 

[Casual Shinji]

I've never been on a date my whole life (yes, that's a whopping 32 years of no dates) so I wouldn't know.

Beyond having the courage of mollusc, when I think about having to tell a girl about myself (interests, job, home situation) I would fucking die of embarrassment.

I used to have the same issue until I started online dating. You may find that your interests work and life aren't really that uncommon. And even if they are, allow me to personally guarantee that there are worse people on any given dating website. I've gone out with a few.

That's why I don't go to dating websites, along with the slew of scammers that are sure to operate at those places. It's also a bit of a pride thing, eventhough there's really zero reason for me to have any at all. Though I've come to an age where I'm starting to think my pride can go suck it.

 

[EvilRoy]

I've never been on a date my whole life (yes, that's a whopping 32 years of no dates) so I wouldn't know.

Beyond having the courage of mollusc, when I think about having to tell a girl about myself (interests, job, home situation) I would fucking die of embarrassment.

I used to have the same issue until I started online dating. You may find that your interests work and life aren't really that uncommon. And even if they are, allow me to personally guarantee that there are worse people on any given dating website. I've gone out with a few.

That's why I don't go to dating websites, along with the slew of scammers that are sure to operate at those places. It's also a bit of a pride thing, eventhough there's really zero reason for me to have any at all. Though I've come to an age where I'm starting to think my pride can go suck it.

Oddly enough, I have never run into a single scammer on the site that I use. I'm sure they exist, but they don't come to my neck of the woods. You might run in to a few legitimately horrible people, and I am very tired of hearing "did you know you look like Spenny?" even though nobody has watched that crap in years, but after getting over the pride-hurdle I find myself at least enjoying it. If nothing else its nice hanging out with people I didn't go to school with or are in the same line of work as me.