How do you flirt (in a way that works)?

[GingerFace]

This one actually worked for me:

"Hey, fancy comin back to my place and playing guitar hero?"

Can't believe it =D

 

[I_LIKE_CAKE]

Be ready to make a fool of yourself and laugh it off. Being relaxed is key.

 

[Souplex]

http://www.robandelliot.cycomics.com/archive.php?id=236
Works every time.

 

[NewClassic_v1legacy]

"Flirting" in general is playing a psychological game. You're acting normally, while inviting further contact. From there, it's whether or not she bites. All you can do is bait and cast the hook, everything else is whether or not she takes.

Beyond that, just be yourself. If you can't find people who like you for you, then don't look.

 

[sorry user name taken.]

''let me cut your cake with my knife baby''


lol does it matter i think it all depends on how much you like the girl


but like I've said before just be yourself...and some pick up lines do work (if they make her laugh your in..ahem sorry about the pun)

I don't have any fixed lines or a "game" plan. I try to be symphatetic and not waste a good occasion to make a situational joke. I'm by no means an expert, though.

BTW two days ago I tried the "being a dick" tactic on two girls who I met at a club and who came to my friend's apartment at midnight with us and their friend who was my other friend's girlfriend. Anyway I think I went a little bit over the top Things I did:

Repeatedly calling them wrong names, even a second after being corrected.
Asking them to tell me a joke and telling them "What the fuck was that supposed to be?" with a poker face once they finished.
Telling them dead baby jokes in return.
Laughing at their taste in music.
Laughing at their major.
Telling them I'm gonna rip their heads of if they change the music.
Telling them they're boring, and not talking to them any more.

Didn't work

you missed out one thing...


pretend your interested and them ignore them lol...hair pulling as well

 

[bindox]

Generally, do not use pick-up lines. They all sound the same, lame. They all evoke the same thought in a woman, "Funny, this guy just puked his dork sauce on me and he thinks its so funny that he is laughing like a hyena on nitrous oxide."

Generally, just say hi and ask simple questions/comment on something not too personal. And smile for positive reinforcement. If a lady is having a bad day, and its outwardly obvious, ask about it and comment positively about it, with a smile. And for the love of Khan, don't talk about yourself. A woman needs for the world to revolve around her.

It also doesn't hurt to roll up on a large motorcycle that has room for someone that thinks "they are just too cool for words and I want a ride" (can't remember her name, but that's a direct quote).

 

[Ghadente]

I ask "how much?"

 

[Susan Arendt]

Ask questions, genuinely listen to the answers. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, and letting them do so puts them at ease and makes them feel more positively toward you.

Another idea is to have a few relatively generic questions at the ready. If you're at a party, for example, you can walk up to a group of folks and say "Ok, I just heard some folks over there debating who the best Bond was. I'd say Daniel Craig, what do you think?" If you want to just talk to a single girl, you do a variation like "I heard some folks debating whether women make convincing villains in movies. Figured I'd get a female opinion."

 

[Flying Dagger]

on a more serious note, flirting is not something you can really get taught to do over the internet, i heard a book by someone called "the game" by someone that i never bothered to read because i'm arrogant and lazy (much the same reason someone else can quote the author) can help you, but it really is just a matter of experience and the idea of "nothing to lose, trial and error."
i've failed whilst employing awesome wit, dazzling charm and funny antics, and i've succeeded with the line "lets pretend to kiss to freak out those children watching us"
it's a matter of luck, to quote a noah and the whale song no one will have ever heard of.

 

[NeoDeath90]

Find some common ground with the girl, have a conversation on that. Broaden the horizons by making connections to things you like that she might, based on said common ground, and let it take off from there.

The best way to flirt is to have a decent conversation.

 

[Nickisimo]

Look, if you follow a girl around, check her facebook page for minute-by-minute updates and stare at her through high-powered binoculars long enough, she's bound to become enamored with you.

Seriously though, the aforementioned confidence and humor approaches are always a good plan. I wouldn't suggest the "being a dick" strategy, as this usually only works if you actually are one and don't need to pretend. Just be careful what you wish for though, because just like being naked and sitting on an unforseen pinecone, relationships can be a big pain in the ass.

 

[Psyco Slim]

protip: girl love talking about themselves. just ask here questions to keep he talking

 

[Mighty Wulrus]

just be cool or don't just be consitant... wow you know wht i bet almost every thread is either about games or girls hehe

 

[Shapsters]

EDIT: If it helps to know what I look like, I've got the same look as the singer from Hellacopters. Long hair, cool hat, and leather jacket.

http://www.infoblogg.no/wp-content/uploads/THellacopters-promo-MJ-0202.jpg (guy in the middle)

My best tip is, don't look like this.

Hahaha, that is exactly what I was thinking. Not off to a very good start.

 

[Mighty Wulrus]

Ugh, well first, yeah, you can't be a wussy. The biggest step in picking up a girl is actually going and talking to the girl. That seems to be where most people fall short. Lose your inadequacy issues. If you think you're not good enough for her, she'll probably feel the same way. NO pick up lines are going to work, even in the capacity of being funny, because, unless she feels sorry for you, the fact that you are using something you rehearsed is an immediate turn off. A simple "Hi," is always a good conversation starter. If she gives you a funny look, you've pretty much already lost the battle. Small talk yourself out of that conversation and start a new. What most people don't tell you is you're gonna probably get rejected...a lot. Thats ok. Thats part of the game. Don't get discouraged and start over. Get her talking about herself. It's not a vanity thing, it just shows you're "genuinely interested" in her, even if you're not. If she's warming up to you, and you're in a bar or a club, buy her a drink and see where it goes. If you're in someplace more public, then remember this line "first to start and first to end." Too much small talk and she'll just get bored. While the conversation is getting good, say "Listen, I'm sorry, but I have an appointment to make, but I'd really like to continue this some time. You mind if I grab your number?" If she says yes, awesome. If she says no? Start again. Good flirting takes time. What I've said is not THE way to get chicks, it's just my way. It's how I've managed to get by over the years. As you get better, you'll find yourself becoming wittier, you'll find them laughing more, and it gets easier from there.

I believe there are great wisdom in these words you win the best answer competition...

 

[orc33]

vidi, vici, veni some ppl likes latin

 

[Daye.04]

Snip="Dick tactic"

Ha ha! Thanks for the heads up =P
Now I know what to not try =P

But to the OP .. uh .. I'm not sure whether you've gotten your answer or not. I noticed most of them were pick-up lines. And that usually never works if you've had a memorized pickup line.
Or wait. The chloroforum one might. I haven't tried it myself, but it seems promising.
Now. I shall give you my advice? Why? Because I love giving advices. So sit down and shut up! What? Okay, sorry. Please?

First off. How to actually flirt is simple. Talk. Just talk. Make sure you talk a lot about her. Don't refuse to talk about yourself, of course. But make sure it's more about her.
Confidence! If you dont have it you're lost! You have to have it. Stand in front of the mirror, and tell yourself you're fucking hot. Whatever works for you. You have to know that you look good. You have to think that she's the one getting the best deal. You might not need the last part. But it's definetely going to be an advantage to think that.

Girls are like dogs, you know. Where dogs can smell fear, girls can feel confidence Scratch that, everyone feels if the other person is confident or not. And it's when they're flirting it shows the most.

Uuuh .. I lost my track here .. Gimme a sec.

Oh yes! Compliments! You might want to not overthrow her with compliments. Altough "dick-tactic" doesn't work. Not letting her know that you'd swim to Australia for her does.
Also. Don't give her direct compliments! My experience at least shows that's not the way to go. At least if it's a pretty girl. Things like "You got cute eyes" and "I love how your mouth fits your chin perfectly" is way too direct. Hide it. Make her have to use a braincell or two in order to catch it. That's going to a: be a lot more charming and b: make her remember it a bit longer.

If you can, I would also say that you should add humor to it. The best way is to bring it up "subconsciencly" in the middle of the conversation. Like it was natural. Like saying that the grass is green. Like it's obvious. That's allways the way to. At least what I've experienced.

What you also should do, is the obvious that's been mentioned so many times. (First off. Keep your eyes on her face, you perv -.-) Look her in the eyes. Try to find it hard to take them away. Even if you have no problems with taking them off hers, hesitate. Give her the impression that you enjoy looking at her.

Uhm .. I have to go to work, so I'll pack it in here.

Ice breaker examples that I've tried.
1. Ths one is tricky. Really tricky. You have to be fast. And jump on it right away, or she'll slap you. If you see her fiddling with something, snatch it. Take and imideletly return it saying "What do I get in finders fee". Or something like that. Also! Smile. Something. Don't look like a maniac or a thief. But she'll probably reply with something like "Fuck off, give me my [insert what you took]" (Of course, you have allready given it to her) Then smile at her, and and bring up your cell phone or something with these words (Or something similar. Depends on what falls naturally)"Your number? Why of course, that seems like a reasonable reward". Usually in my cases she will A: Smile and give it to you then walk off smiling or B: Smile, and this is your chance to strike up a conversation.

Was about to post another example, but I have no time for that

Hope it at least helped you somehow. If not, very well. I just enjoyed writing my advice =P

vidi, vici, veni some ppl likes latin

If you were thinking about saying that to her .. =P I wouldn't that's going to sound way too bad =P

 

[Sparrow]

Being funny always helps. Don't spurt one liners and back knock-knock jokes though, more along the line of making jokes about the people your with and whats going on at the present time.

Be confident too. And, don't make it entirely obvious your trying to chat up a girl.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Ugh, well first, yeah, you can't be a wussy. The biggest step in picking up a girl is actually going and talking to the girl. That seems to be where most people fall short. Lose your inadequacy issues. If you think you're not good enough for her, she'll probably feel the same way. NO pick up lines are going to work, even in the capacity of being funny, because, unless she feels sorry for you, the fact that you are using something you rehearsed is an immediate turn off. A simple "Hi," is always a good conversation starter. If she gives you a funny look, you've pretty much already lost the battle. Small talk yourself out of that conversation and start a new. What most people don't tell you is you're gonna probably get rejected...a lot. Thats ok. Thats part of the game. Don't get discouraged and start over. Get her talking about herself. It's not a vanity thing, it just shows you're "genuinely interested" in her, even if you're not. If she's warming up to you, and you're in a bar or a club, buy her a drink and see where it goes. If you're in someplace more public, then remember this line "first to start and first to end." Too much small talk and she'll just get bored. While the conversation is getting good, say "Listen, I'm sorry, but I have an appointment to make, but I'd really like to continue this some time. You mind if I grab your number?" If she says yes, awesome. If she says no? Start again. Good flirting takes time. What I've said is not THE way to get chicks, it's just my way. It's how I've managed to get by over the years. As you get better, you'll find yourself becoming wittier, you'll find them laughing more, and it gets easier from there.

Best advice I've heard so far.