How do you flirt (in a way that works)?

[Kirosilence]

My tactic is to be confident in what you're doing. Be funny, be witty if you can. Have a few drinks (Not a ton, you don't want your first words to be sorry I just puked on your chest). Just be confident in yourself, people are attracted to confidence.

 

[Voicuboyy]

just go to party's and the beer does its job

 

[lava_lamp]

Treat em like they aint even there, women only like guys that are assholes.

it seems to be that way

like when you like a chick but she likes this guy that you think is a total asshole
can really piss you off

 

[lava_lamp]

Here's a few tips:

1. Be confident, but not overbearing. Nothing turns a girl off faster than a guy that's pushy. Just give her some space during conversation, don't do that hovering in her face thing; it's really annoying and makes most girls uncomfortable.
2. Actually listen when the girl's talking to you, but don't be afraid to talk either. If the girl is really interested in you, she'll want to know more about you.
3. Keep conversation upbeat and friendly. Personally, the first thing I notice about anyone is their smile and/or laugh. If it's forced, I don't usually get interested in them.

this person speaks truth

 

[Wilfy]

I look a woman up and down and say
Hey, how you doing?

 

[Souplex]

You: How much does a polar bear weigh?
Them: I have no idea.
You enough to break the ice, im' (Your name here)

 

[jonnopon3000]

I'll tell you how i got my girlfriend...I used a big secret...massive massive industry secret in getting girls...ready to know it? Really wanna know? Well...here goes...GLITCH *Press any button to continue*

 

[EeveeElectro]

Hey, does this rag smell of chloroform to you?

Does this drink taste like Rohypnol? is also suitable.

 

[lava_lamp]

I'll tell you how i got my girlfriend...I used a big secret...massive massive industry secret in getting girls...ready to know it? Really wanna know? Well...here goes...[Spoiler\]Data error
Press any button to continue[\Spoiler]

lmao

thats was awesome

 

[Playbahnosh]

I don't get what you people get all worked up on this topic. Thinking up strategies and pickup lines and whatnot... it's not an RTS, you geek bastards

crazyhaircut94, if you're telling the truth, you look quite okay on the outside, and the fact that you come here to get (possibly) openly humiliated by hundreds of forumers to get advice, shows that you care. There is nothing else you need. In fact, you need the second thing only, the desire, and you are in.

Hell, I'm overweight with a bad skin and a chip on my shoulder, and I had many gfs. Could've had more, but I'm extremely picky about who I want. It's not about looks or strategy or whatever, it's being....you. Yea that sounds empty and used, but it's true. DON'T try to pick up girls, simply don't. Don't try to win them over or anything.

My secret: Girls are humans too (stay with me now), and they don't need special treatment. Don't change your attitude when talking to girls! If you are a naturally friendly person, be that way, if you are an obnoxious asshat, go with that (believe it or not, there are girls who like that). A woman can smell faking from miles away! And believe me, most of them hate fakers, who try to be someone else just to appeal to them.

Many guys fail at the very fist step. They try to hide their lack of confidence and personality flaws with acting. One thing you should do to overcome confidence issues and personality flaws: Nothing! That's right, nothing. Your personality flaws are a part of you, that's what makes you interesting. Nobody would want a perfect guy or gal, because they are boring. Instead of trying to change yourself, embrace yourself. Instead of trying to hide your flaws, work them into your persona. In fact, it's pretty useless to hide anything from your wannabe gf, or trying to act differently, because even if you succeed seducing her, sooner or later the real you will come crashing to the surface and everybody hates living a lie. If you gotta get together with someone, chose one who accepts you the way you are, and not some hazy, fairytale you.

The best way to do this, is to be you from the get go. If you like anime, tell her, show her some. If you like FPS, invite her for a round of Halo 3 or whatever (tip: many girls like RPGs, every one of my gfs liked them. NWN, Diablo, Icewind Dale, Oblivion...etc). If she doesn't like it, no matter, don't be discouraged, choose some other thing. Its inevitable to hit some rocks along the way. Just don't deny yourself. Show her your world, and try to get to know hers, find something you like in each other.

If it doesn't work out, don't despair. It's not your fault. Maybe you two are just not meant to be. One thing you should never, ever do, ever: trying to force it if doesn't work. Never! It just makes it even more difficult and painful if everything comes crashing down on you. Many guys facing rejection thinks, that it's their fault, that they didn't give their best, or messed up somewhere along the way, and if they could somehow make it better, if they just try a little harder... NO!. Don't. You'll just hurt yourself more. If you hit a brick wall with her, stop, and walk away with your dignity intact. Don't be pushy or needy, because women work like the same polarity magnets: the more you push, the harder they push back, until one of you brakes. And guess who'll be on the losing side...

Just be casual, don't try to rush the girl, talk to her like any other friend you have, and if it takes, continue along the way. If it seems hopeless, look for greener pastures elsewhere. Believe me, you'll save yourself from many heartbrakes.

I know you probably won't take my advice on this one, since mostly everybody thinks he knows better, and you'll probably go hurt yourself more times than you'll like, but that's romance. Learn from the mistakes

 

[Barky13]

My 9 step guide.

1) You say, "Do you know how much a polar bear weighs?"
2) They say, "No."
3) You say, "Enough to break the ice."
4) They don't laugh.
5) You sing Never Gonna Give You Up by Rick Astley.
6) ????
7) Sex.
8) ????
9) Profit.

 

[mowinckel107]

hello... whats you name..... really? thats the so cute... no im serius it the cutest name i can think of. if this sound like the start of a conversation then you are rigth

 

[Flying Dagger]

My secret: Girls are humans too (stay with me now), and they don't need special treatment. Don't change your attitude when talking to girls! If you are a naturally friendly person, be that way, if you are an obnoxious asshat, go with that (believe it or not, there are girls who like that). A woman can smell faking from miles away! And believe me, most of them hate fakers, who try to be someone else just to appeal to them.
and some other stuff

first you claim that girls are human too, then you say they have the power to detect fakery at a mile away?
maybe you are just a bad actor, because i've found girls are easier to "fakery" then guys.

i'm not saying make up a person and pretend to be them, but if you think that could solve your confidence issues then go for it. and if you are a bad actor, then give up halfway through the opening line, smile exasparatingly (sp?) and say "my irish accent is terrible."
introduce yourself after that, ask a question relating to what they just said: "sorry, i just overheard that you were saying you owned a horse, and i have always wondered whether horseriding is more or less fun then sailing" and you are off.

if you already know the person you are flirting with, try looking at their facebook page. feign interest in whatever they like, bring it up in conversation. (theres always a moment that i find hilarious, just after you mention a tv program thats on their facebook, and the shocked gasp and "omg i love that")

telling people to be honest when flirting is for scrubs episodes endings, theres a difference between a functional relationship, and flirting. a functional relationship needs honesty, flirting doesn't.

 

[Matronadena]

technically we flirt constantly all day with everyone..

but, if I were saying flirting with the end goal of making friends and other relationships..... I guess my best answer " at least for me" is be myself, be relaxed, and I tend to be a playful smart ass.. closest I can describe my style is....Han Solo meets Gambit if they were chicks

 

[Playbahnosh]

[stuff, and...] telling people to be honest when flirting is for scrubs episodes endings, theres a difference between a functional relationship, and flirting. a functional relationship needs honesty, flirting doesn't.

If everything goes according to plan, flirting leads to relationship (if not done for your own amusement or as a hobby). But you are right, flirting can lead many ways, what I described was just one of them.

Simple flirting needs being interesting and fun. Being different. And being really different can be achieved by...not trying to be different, in fact. What I said still stands, be you. Use humor, and be casual about it, don't try impress anyone. That's all there is to it. The less you care, the more relaxed you are, the more interested girls will be. Experience says that.

 

[Leftnt Sharpe]

Hey, does this rag smell of chloroform to you?

that was the perfect loading ready run reference

Which unfortunately no one will get.

 

[Flying Dagger]

Use humor, and be casual about it, don't try impress anyone. That's all there is to it. The less you care, the more relaxed you are, the more interested girls will be.

genuinely curious: what's wrong with trying to impress people?
ok you can take it too far, a lesson i've learned trying the line "i can lick my own nipple," (turns out i couldn't actually do that, but i doubt it works even if you can) but if you can impress with wit, charm, humour or acrobatics (sometimes even knowledge) then there's no reason not to.
and not caring is very different to being relaxed...

 

[Hazy]

I don't use pickup lines, instead I use casual conversation and joking to do my flirting.
It seems to work for me, hasn't failed yet.
But thats where body language takes over. The way my friends are able to seperate me casually talking from flirting is: Keeping eye contact. Compliments, compliments, compliments. And being Caring and considerate.

 

[BubbleGumSnareDrum]

-Tell jokes, occasionally making friendly ones about her.
-Know things, try to have things to talk about. Find common interests or viewpoints.
-Don't make sexual passes at her. Most girls will be immediately bothered that you're jumping right to that. Save it for later; you'll get it if you play your cards right.
-Make eye contact. If you can't look someone in the eye when you're talking to them they may be put off by it, and this goes especially for girls. If you're looking at them you've giving them attention, and if you're giving them attention, they're going to give you some back.