How do you get over someone?

[Pumpkinmancer]

Time. Thats the only way to get over things. Best thing to do to dull the pain is to get rid of anything that reminds you of her, and dont mull over what was and what could have been. You need to accept that it's over, and the only way you can do that is by not questioning what happened, or why you cant get over her.

If you are still in anyway in contact with her, even on face book or e-mail, block her and sever that contact.

Dissassication. Try to disconnect yourself from that releationship in your mind. Think of yourself as above it and away from it. Observe your thoughts and feeling without actually participating in them. I know that sounds odd, but if you work at it, it'll come to you. You are not the person that you were. So dont think of yourself as having been inlove with her, think of that guy you used to be as having been.

 

[Zaverexus]

Over a year ago (yes, it's been over a year!) A girl I was in love with stopped talking to me because I told her I loved her and she didn't love me. She pretty much destroyed me. It's been over a year and I still can't stop thinking about her. I can't date anyone because nobodies as perfect as she was and honestly it's really annoying me. How do I get over this girl? Cause time apart is just making things worse on me.

XD I had the same issue almost exactly. I went out with a girl and we got really close and did the whole "I love you" thing and one day she spontaneously decides she doesn't want to speak to me anymore. I later got an explanation that she didn't love me and didn't think she was ready for love etc etc. but the point is I was crushed and it took a long time to get over and even then we eventually started talking again and I fell right back into hoping we could get back together, and she turned me down. It took a third cycle of talking again but something snapped very suddenly and I realized I didn't like her anymore. I don't love her, I can't remember why I did, its bizarre. And that took just over a year.
The point is I can be spontaneous and random but with time you'll get over it. You also have to realize that she couldn't have been perfect, and even if so its been a year, things change. Have you tried talking to her?

 

[Eleuthera]

The easiest way to get over someone[footnote]in my personal experience, I guarantee nothing[/footnote] is to see them with someone else. The last two times this happened to me just being told they were not interested did nothing about the feelings, however running into them with a new boyfriend some time later made me lose interest pretty quickly.

Nothing helps to dispose of the idea of perfection better than to see them with someone clearly not good enough for them. And if they knowingly pick someone like that they can't be perfect.

 

[Sonofadiddly]

I would suggest that you ignore the people who say that it isn't a big deal, because if you feel this bad, it is a big deal. It's a big deal to you. Trying to pretend it doesn't affect you or convince yourself that it doesn't matter will only make you feel worse.

Other than that everyone else is right, time heals. If you can, try and figure out what it was about this girl that you loved so much and why you loved this about her. Is there some issue or fear you have that is involved here? Think about where this issue came from and try to think of the relationship and the breakup as a learning experience. After this, it will be a lot easier to get over the whole thing. After this, distractions are helpful. Get a hobby, hang out with friends.

Oh, one thing that helped me a lot was going onto Craigslist to the missed connections and reading about other people's problems. Knowing that you're not alone does wonders.

 

[Fawcks]

Gah, falling in love with people without being in a relationship.

I was engaged and dating her for almost a year before she left me broken and useless. -Gets out the booze-

 

[Togs]

I was in a similar position to you OP, I fell head over heels for a friend of mine and told her so, which she didnt appreciate- I was in turmoil for a long length of time before getting over her, my advice? dont put her on a pedestal as she isnt perfect, NOONE IS- the sooner you realise that the easier it will get.
Also, cut her out of your life, have next to no contact with her and keep yourself distracted with whatever you can, pick up a hobby, something youve always wanted to do and devote yourself to it, preferably something physical or not requiring large amounts of thought like a sport or something.
Also, dont sit in your room and stew over it, not only is it unhelpful its very unhealthy- as a good friend once told me unrequited love is a perversion- by now your feelings for her resemble nothing like their original form- in my case id formed an overly romanticized fantasy of her that was vastly inaccurate.

Also, it seems bad now but trust me when I say theres life beyond this, and when you do get to ther other side your gonna be a stronger person for it- as the old saying goes never trust a man who hasnt had his heart broken.

 

[MarkDavis94]

Its happened to us all, I had a girl arse about with me and it hurt, and I was upset about it, but I decided if she was going to be like that then she doesn't deserve my time. Just got to keep your chin up, be positive and let it go

 

[New Troll]

The only way to get over someone is to find someone new.

My problem is I fell in love with a pregnant woman, who's son I claimed as my own. I even named him and was there in the delivery room, something I wasn't able to do with even my own son. So when she abrubtly left, I didn't just lose the love of my life, I lost my entire family. Since her I have found other women to replace her somewhat, but even having a new son, my first son will always be a major part of me, even if I never get to see him again.