How do you handle problems? Be honest!

[Kolby Jack]

Do you react accordingly? Probably not; almost nobody reacts appropriately to every problem that comes along, and we all have good and bad times that affect our reactions, but on average how do you react to problems ranging from the little stuff to things that could ruin any number of aspects of your life?

For me, I know I handle it a lot differently than I did as a teenager (but that's pretty typical). As a kid I was a pretty late bloomer and most problems that came my way either stressed me out, pissed me off, or (and I hate to admit this) made me cry. That all changed in just one day though, when I kicked open my parent's house door because I forgot my house key and my dad wouldn't get home for 15 minutes. Immediately after the fact, even in the face of my imminent grounding I felt really really good (probably because kicking a door open would make anyone feel like a badass). After that day, though, something changed and I became extremely mellow. Some observers would say I'm "emotionally dead" but that's not the case; I still have feelings, and can express them, but it now takes a LOT to get me to react outwardly. I didn't cry at my grandmother's funeral, I failed trigonometry in my senior year without caring at all (didn't need it), I dropped out of college in a bad job market unfazed, I joined the military without regret, and even boot camp was by far the easiest thing I'd ever done in my life (and I'm seriously not good at physical activity, even now). I think there was one brief, 2-second moment during boot camp where I actually felt depressed, but after that I was back to normal. Problems just don't faze me anymore, which I know sounds unhealthy but I'm happier with life now than I ever have been and don't see that changing any time soon.

 

[Torrasque]

I usually just think about it until I can think of a solution to my problem, then I fix it.
That thinking period may be 2 seconds or 2 months. I always come to a solution, and always fix the problem.

Unless its girls.
Girls are un-solveable.

 

[kittii-chan 300]

"all problems can be solved. you just need to punch them hard enough." i dont really get it. i have never cried when a real person or my pet cat has died, not even family. but i still cry for most deaths in books, anime or manga... what do you mean by problems by the way?

 

[ScoopMeister]

Whether they'll admit it or not, everyone who has ever lived wishes that they'd kicked a door down. You are a complete person.
Anyway, personally I get angry and sulk for about half an hour. If I'm not angry, then I'm one of the most laid back people I know. Then something really stupid comes along and pisses me off and I turn into a complete and utter moody prick. It's sad really.

 

[kittii-chan 300]

Unless its girls.
Girls are un-solveable.

hey! whats that supposed to mean?!? >.<

 

[Condor219]

I usually repress it, and go into denial for vastt periods of time until I'm ready to deal with something. Otherwise, I listen to sad music and compose music until the night comes around. Then I wake up, and most of the pain is gone.

 

[Phlakes]

Unless its girls.
Girls are un-solveable.

hey! whats that supposed to mean?!? >.<

Yeah, I've had some trouble with the opposite gender. Like right now. But it's mostly my fault, I suck at the whole human interaction thing.

 

[Kolby Jack]

"all problems can be solved. you just need to punch them hard enough." i dont really get it. i have never cried when a real person or my pet cat has died, not even family. but i still cry for most deaths in books, anime or manga... what do you mean by problems by the way?

Events in your life that evoke a negative emotional reaction and/or require solving/fixing. Better?

 

[Falconsgyre]

Do you react accordingly? Probably not; almost nobody reacts appropriately to every problem that comes along, and we all have good and bad times that affect our reactions, but on average how do you react to problems ranging from the little stuff to things that could ruin any number of aspects of your life?

For me, I know I handle it a lot differently than I did as a teenager (but that's pretty typical). As a kid I was a pretty late bloomer and most problems that came my way either stressed me out, pissed me off, or (and I hate to admit this) made me cry. That all changed in just one day though, when I kicked open my parent's house door because I forgot my house key and my dad wouldn't get home for 15 minutes. Immediately after the fact, even in the face of my imminent grounding I felt really really good (probably because kicking a door open would make anyone feel like a badass). After that day, though, something changed and I became extremely mellow. Some observers would say I'm "emotionally dead" but that's not the case; I still have feelings, and can express them, but it now takes a LOT to get me to react outwardly. I didn't cry at my grandmother's funeral, I failed trigonometry in my senior year without caring at all (didn't need it), I dropped out of college in a bad job market unfazed, I joined the military without regret, and even boot camp was by far the easiest thing I'd ever done in my life (and I'm seriously not good at physical activity, even now). I think there was one brief, 2-second moment during boot camp where I actually felt depressed, but after that I was back to normal. Problems just don't faze me anymore, which I know sounds unhealthy but I'm happier with life now than I ever have been and don't see that changing any time soon.

Hm. You know, I have to say, sometimes being worried might be an appropriate response. If you're happy with your life now, then I have no right to judge, but I'm a little surprised someone could make a big life decision like dropping out of college so easily. The reason most people are fazed by problems is because a "problem" in life is basically an indicator that you're about to make a choice with some significant consequences. And if you don't have some sort of emotional connection to it, I'd worry that the choices you make might not be the best for you. (Sorry if I sound preachy.)

Though on the other hand, I sometimes stress out about small problems so much I end up ignoring them until they turn into big problems. So maybe there is something to be said about a cavalier attitude towards life.

 

[emeraldrafael]

I dont know. I like ot think I do, but people would disagree. if its minor, I'll let it go, but if its something major, then I'll react.

I act as my grandfather and uncle taught me, which is to ante up. If someone does something you do back, but you do back a step up, and if tehy're serious, they'll do back to you on a higher level.

Someone steals a pencil, you steal their book. They steal your ipod or something, you steal their key. The break into your house, you light theirs on fire.

I'll give a specific instance of when I was 15. One of my best friends (who at the time knew the ante up rule) had broken a figurine of my mom's. It was an accident of course, but it was personal to her, and he blamed it on me. I received six weeks of complete and total lock down, where there was no connectiont to the outside world other then school, to the point where my windows were boarded up and my room painted white (Yeah, I had an interesting childhood).

So, knowing that he had a class where the entirety of his grade depended on an end of the year project, I wiped his computer clean of it, wiped all his flash drives, installed a porn virus on his computer that stole any info and reported back to me, while replacing any new page with porn, made his desktop bg porn, and any time he clicked, a woman moaned in a satisfied matter. We (myself and two friends) then sent six of the raunchiest sites we could find to his parents and left him to explain.

the end result was he went to a summer of summer school for the class (it was an english class, you werent allowed to fail and he didnt want to be held back). Afterword, I talked to him and he bowwed out, cause he said he'd have to burn my houes down and I said I'd kill him, and then it just sorta ended cause we both knew that this was going to get ridiculous.



I'll give another specific instance, this time of my uncle (to show that this crazy is hereditary). A guy had run into his car and messed it up,t hen drove off, cause my uncle took a space the guy wanted. So instead of letting police in the district handle it, my unlce drove to the guy's house (because he had an idea of who it was) saw the guy's car (with my uncle's car's paint still on it), and burned it down. like, in his drive way, lit the gas tank up and left it to burn for the guy.



my gradnfather's in his 80s, pushing 90, so I dont really have a for instance with him that I personally saw, but he once told me during the war in the european theatre that after a German had killed his brother, he personally made it his mission to hunt any German he saw and brutally slaughter them during the war, or at least leave them in a mentally retarded state through a technique he's passed to me.


Looking at it now, I guess not, but then again, I think its normal. if someone does something, you do something back thats going to stop them from responding again.

 

[silversnake4133]

I use two things for solving all of my problems:

1.

and

2.
And it works very well. :3

 

[Neonbob]

I ignore a great deal of my problems. I cannot recommend that as a course of action, though. It's rather fucked my life.

 

[Super Toast]

I try to ignore the problem until it goes away. Pretty much the worst way to handle an issue.

 

[Gaiseric]

I push all the rage and frustration into a little ball and unleash it when I work out. For the most part I keep things under wraps because I don't express my emotions often and so when I feel the need it's awkward.

Right now I live with my brothers and my mom and none of them can't take any criticism without blowing up, shifting blame, or playing the victim. Extremely frustrating for me because I like to keep things simple and smooth and since I can't help fix problems here without a lot of dancing everything is like a Rube-Goldberg machine covered in coarse sandpaper.

 

[Free Thinker]

If the problem is a logical one, I dissect it, and handle everything accordingly. Information, tact, and organization is key.

Sadly most of my problems are illogical and of female persuasion. So the above is null and void.

 

[ZeroMachine]

95% of the time, I react better then most of my friends. What I don't react well to, I get over very fast. I've gotten praise for that ability. Not sure if that's 100% a good thing, though...

 

[staika]

I usually handle the problems in a cool and collected manner no matter how pissed off I am at the moment. I've had multiple people tell me I am very calm under pressure and I handle problems very well, which is true mostly because I deal with everything my work place, home, and school have to throw at me.

 

[xdom125x]

I try to ignore most problems [sarcasm]and that never has negative repercussions[/sarcasm].

If it can't be ignored, I "bottle it up" so to speak. Then, I might try to solve the problem later.

Or I cry. You know what. Or I cry. I wait until I get home first, of course. (This is the rarest way I handle probems.)

 

[Still Life]

I do a number of things, depending on the circumstances.

- I face them and do my best to resolve issues head on.

- I take some space and let myself find some peace.

- Let myself cry if I need to (never bottle it up).

- MUSIC.

- Sex (if on tap)

- Write and/or draw.