How do you handle problems? Be honest!

[Sacman]

I do one of two things... ignore it until it goes away or ignore it until I forget about it...<.<

 

[viking97]

i ignore and evade problems into until they're staring me in the face, then i either deal with them or freak out because i'm overwhelmed.

its a crappy cycle, but i don't know how to avoid it.

 

[artanis_neravar]

I bottle it up, pure and simple and then like two or three days later it's gone, doesn't bother me anymore at all. I don't really like to talk about, especially not in person because talking about it might make me tear up and I HATE crying in front of people. Sometimes I get depressed then I say to myself, "self....quit being such a *****, get over it already"

 

[masher]

Distract with Books, Anime, Video games, music... stuff. They're an escape, I guess.

 

[dcdude171]

i know i do , i defiently have had way more problems then the average teenager ( im 15), soo i have had to grow up fast

 

[Ham_authority95]

Do you react accordingly? Probably not; almost nobody reacts appropriately to every problem that comes along, and we all have good and bad times that affect our reactions, but on average how do you react to problems ranging from the little stuff to things that could ruin any number of aspects of your life?

For me, I know I handle it a lot differently than I did as a teenager (but that's pretty typical). As a kid I was a pretty late bloomer and most problems that came my way either stressed me out, pissed me off, or (and I hate to admit this) made me cry. That all changed in just one day though, when I kicked open my parent's house door because I forgot my house key and my dad wouldn't get home for 15 minutes. Immediately after the fact, even in the face of my imminent grounding I felt really really good (probably because kicking a door open would make anyone feel like a badass). After that day, though, something changed and I became extremely mellow. Some observers would say I'm "emotionally dead" but that's not the case; I still have feelings, and can express them, but it now takes a LOT to get me to react outwardly. I didn't cry at my grandmother's funeral, I failed trigonometry in my senior year without caring at all (didn't need it), I dropped out of college in a bad job market unfazed, I joined the military without regret, and even boot camp was by far the easiest thing I'd ever done in my life (and I'm seriously not good at physical activity, even now). I think there was one brief, 2-second moment during boot camp where I actually felt depressed, but after that I was back to normal. Problems just don't faze me anymore, which I know sounds unhealthy but I'm happier with life now than I ever have been and don't see that changing any time soon.

Most problems I have can be solved with communication. Whether it be with myself, friends, parents, teachers, mentors, whatever, I can talk to them and have a good idea of what I need to change myself to solve the problem.

 

[Falconsgyre]

No, you have a valid point. I'm not a risk-taking person, so my flippant attitude to most things doesn't usually land me in much hot water, but I often wonder if (probably when) it will. As for the dropping out, I didn't really just "decide" to do it, I just slowly stopped attending class until I suddenly realized I was too far gone and dropping out was the only course of action. I also want to make clear that I don't ignore my problems (unless they are completely petty), I confront them; it just doesn't affect me much emotionally.

Unfortunately, most bad decisions in life aren't going to land you in hot water. They're just going to raise the temperature one or two degrees, until you end up boiling... which is what sounds like happened with college for you. I'm glad you confront your problems, but there are often times when one doesn't realize something's a problem until it's too late.

 

[greenitedaze]

Communication with others is nearly always the key.
If none of us had problems, we would never get any smarter.
Problems provide answers.

 

[Doclector]

I'd love to say i approach every problem in a calm manner, consudering every option i have, and then using the option with the best outcome.

But, i'll probably just punch it.

 

[zeldagirl]

Well, of course, context is a big factor, but I find that, as an introvert, I often retreat somewhere where I can think by myself. I have to process and think a LOT about issues before I will ever address them. But then I DO address them - I do believe in communicating issues; it really helps keep relationships healthy.

When things are in the moment, it's harder, but I always try to take a deep breath and remain calm, and keep a clear head. But, of course, it's hard sometimes.

 

[ChupathingyX]

...with duct tape.

 

[kittii-chan 300]

Yeah, I've had some trouble with the opposite gender. Like right now. But it's mostly my fault, I suck at the whole human interaction thing.

Unless its girls.
Girls are un-solveable.

hey! whats that supposed to mean?!? >.<

6 years running, and all the problems with girls that I think I've solved with girls, are not actually solved, and its somehow my fault. I won't drag you into my running /life drama though. I'll just say girls are silly. And that is putting it lightly.

i agree with both of you. i was only joking anyway. in fact, im currently being threatened to have my internet turned off if i dont go outside on the trampoline with the scary girl who comes round my house and eats all my food...

 

[kittii-chan 300]

"all problems can be solved. you just need to punch them hard enough." i dont really get it. i have never cried when a real person or my pet cat has died, not even family. but i still cry for most deaths in books, anime or manga... what do you mean by problems by the way?

Events in your life that evoke a negative emotional reaction and/or require solving/fixing. Better?

yeh im gonna go with punching my problems. unless that problem is a dead family member of course... computer freezes: punch it and it works again (surprisingly) shark attack: punch them in the nose and they swim away. hand starts hurting: punch a wall and it stops.
i think i may have magical fists...

 

[Kolby Jack]

Unfortunately, most bad decisions in life aren't going to land you in hot water. They're just going to raise the temperature one or two degrees, until you end up boiling... which is what sounds like happened with college for you. I'm glad you confront your problems, but there are often times when one doesn't realize something's a problem until it's too late.

Okay, THAT was fairly preachy. I don't regret dropping out of college, because that bad decision was immediately followed by a good one: joining the Navy.

 

[Falconsgyre]

Unfortunately, most bad decisions in life aren't going to land you in hot water. They're just going to raise the temperature one or two degrees, until you end up boiling... which is what sounds like happened with college for you. I'm glad you confront your problems, but there are often times when one doesn't realize something's a problem until it's too late.

Okay, THAT was fairly preachy. I don't regret dropping out of college, because that bad decision was immediately followed by a good one: joining the Navy.

Hah, okay. Sorry. Anyway, as long as you're satisfied there's not to much to say.

 

[Matt-Sama]

Depends, I usually don't think before I act so I come across angry or sarcastic at little problems which causes major shit with people. Then due to my anxiety problems I worry about every little detail until the issue is sorted and have cried over things before. I've always had really bad anxiety attacks. D:

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I usually just think about it until I can think of a solution to my problem, then I fix it.
That thinking period may be 2 seconds or 2 months. I always come to a solution, and always fix the problem.

Unless its girls.
Girls are un-solveable.

As usual, first post seems to hit the nail on the head for me. This is usually how I solve my problems.
The strange part is, there's something I like about being in a sticky situation and devising a way out of it.

[small]Please don't take the sticky situation remark out of context.[/small]

Spoiler: I've found myself in a sticky situation. Can you help me?!

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But yeah, if there is no challenge to a problem, solving it doesn't really mean much.

Damn it all!

 

[Wadders]

How do I handle my problems?

Liberal application of Beer and/or Vodka.

In the rare event that the above method fails, then I usually sort my problems out either by cooperation with others (i.e. sharing the load and the responsibility) or by, I duno, just solving it, working out a solution. I guess I dont really have many major problems in my life...

I had one last year, but that was solved with a genuine heartfelt apology, complete with tears and hugs, so I guess you could add grovelling to the list of how I solve my problems.

 

[teeth]

I handle it at the bottom of the bottle

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

1:Anger

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2:Asking this guy for help

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