How do you know when a shy girl is interested in you only from body language?
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One positive indication is any attention from her whatsoever. You might find that girls that don't like you tend to show you absolutely zero attention, therefore a girl that makes attempts to notice you or be noticed by you is at least viewing you in a positive light.
In your current stage, it's not so much a question of if she's got a crush or not so much as it is that she's at least thinking of the possibility. It can go either way in her mind, but she's at least curious enough to see into how things work out. My opinion? You're in good standing, but it's on you to improve upon the situation by getting the two of you on talking terms. Strike up conversation. Try and avoid sounding like you're pulling cliche icebreakers or pickup lines and instead just say genuine, what's-on-your-mind things. Find out things about her that will be important later, like what she's into (not just what you have in common, but things just about her) and what she likes about you.
You will learn one way or another that women speak a completely different language; first off, they drop hints that are largely too subtle for an average man to pick up. Her looking at you but looking away coyly sounds like a big, glowing hint to me. She wants you to talk to her. Second, the most important things to be mindful of are always the smallest. If you're able to make something of the smallest details or clues about her, she will be very impressed by your attention to her.
Women like confidence but hate pushiness. Confidence means striking up questions just like this one directed at her. Speak candidly and honestly and ask things exactly the way you want them to be answered. Hinting is for women; directness is for men. Pushiness is prying for answers when she's deflecting or throwing up defenses, in which case, reassess your approach or back away completely. For a relative newbie, you can get pretty confuzzled having a conversation with one of the goils. To help you, start by making a mental checklist of things that you are curious about or want to have answered. This is a testing of the waters for both of you, so it isn't unacceptable to keep your emotions low-key. By the end of the conversation make sure you leave an open invitation for you to talk again soon. Since you've made the initiative of striking up the first conversation, it may be more fun for her to be in charge of initiating the second. If you've passed her test of coy hinting she won't have any problem of seeking you out later.
In your current stage, it's not so much a question of if she's got a crush or not so much as it is that she's at least thinking of the possibility. It can go either way in her mind, but she's at least curious enough to see into how things work out. My opinion? You're in good standing, but it's on you to improve upon the situation by getting the two of you on talking terms. Strike up conversation. Try and avoid sounding like you're pulling cliche icebreakers or pickup lines and instead just say genuine, what's-on-your-mind things. Find out things about her that will be important later, like what she's into (not just what you have in common, but things just about her) and what she likes about you.
You will learn one way or another that women speak a completely different language; first off, they drop hints that are largely too subtle for an average man to pick up. Her looking at you but looking away coyly sounds like a big, glowing hint to me. She wants you to talk to her. Second, the most important things to be mindful of are always the smallest. If you're able to make something of the smallest details or clues about her, she will be very impressed by your attention to her.
Women like confidence but hate pushiness. Confidence means striking up questions just like this one directed at her. Speak candidly and honestly and ask things exactly the way you want them to be answered. Hinting is for women; directness is for men. Pushiness is prying for answers when she's deflecting or throwing up defenses, in which case, reassess your approach or back away completely. For a relative newbie, you can get pretty confuzzled having a conversation with one of the goils. To help you, start by making a mental checklist of things that you are curious about or want to have answered. This is a testing of the waters for both of you, so it isn't unacceptable to keep your emotions low-key. By the end of the conversation make sure you leave an open invitation for you to talk again soon. Since you've made the initiative of striking up the first conversation, it may be more fun for her to be in charge of initiating the second. If you've passed her test of coy hinting she won't have any problem of seeking you out later.
The speed of how she speaks (if ever). Look for hesitations, stuttering, or slow speech.
It's different for each girl, and sometimes it's just a speech error, but look out for it.
It's different for each girl, and sometimes it's just a speech error, but look out for it.
Going from what little you've said, you can't know. Not until you actually talk to her, and develop some level of communication and interaction. You won't gain any experience with girls unless you take some action, and interact with 'em. Be yourself, be polite and be respectful. It won't take long to figure out if she's genuinely interested in you. And if you still aren't sure, just ask her.e102ewan said:
i agree why try to divine what she means, when getting the answer straight from her would be much more gratifyingAylaine said:You really don't know. Body language won't ever be more accurate then just asking her. That's the bottom line. She can send all sorts of signals but until the words come out of her moth confirming if she likes you or not, it's all speculation. :xe102ewan said:
I would just talk to her if I were you. It's easier and in the end, you get an answer right from her mouth in words, rather then signals to try and interpret.
Looks like you may have a shrinking violet on your hands there...wow I wish I could meet a girl like that. Well, the most 'normal' thing is that you just find out here fav. past times and stuff from her friends - including wether she likes you or not...I dunno that's what people do sometimes.
Watch her reactions too especially eye contact but don't go eyeballing her otherwise it would scare her off or think she has done something wrong.
Well, if you are in good light if she blushes then its pretty blardy obvious there unless she is embarrassed or you said something complimentary. Also language - if you know her somewhat well or how she usually is then if she acts out of the ordinary then theres another hint.
Another hint is - Don't completely trust my advice - I have no social skills haha...
Watch her reactions too especially eye contact but don't go eyeballing her otherwise it would scare her off or think she has done something wrong.
Well, if you are in good light if she blushes then its pretty blardy obvious there unless she is embarrassed or you said something complimentary. Also language - if you know her somewhat well or how she usually is then if she acts out of the ordinary then theres another hint.
Another hint is - Don't completely trust my advice - I have no social skills haha...
The example you gave is not conclusive of attraction. Shy people who may look around the room when they're bored would naturally look away when someone looks back. Then again she may have been staring at you, but we'll never know. If you want to know if she is ATTRACTED to you, then you have to actually talk to her.e102ewan said:
Signs of attractions:
she touches your arm/leg when gesturing
she giggles a lot
she attempts to continue conversations with you when they fizzle out (this is more of a sign of interest, not necessarily attraction)
she attempts to talk to you via FB chat for no obvious reason
she randomly compliments you (not common with shy girls)
when there is a pause in the conversation she looks at you then looks down
she looks at you and then smiles.
she blows off her friends to talk to/spend time with you
Hope that helps.
