How do you react to being hit on/checked out?

[barbzilla]

Well in situations like you wrote of, I usually just smile (feel a bit flattered) and move on with my life if I am not interested. If I am interested I might strike up a conversation. As for girls hitting on me, once again it depends on the situation. If I am interested I will strike up a conversation, if not I'll usually converse with the girl but she has to lead the conversation (unless I'm busy with something then I just make it known that I am in the middle of something).

Honestly the guy you spoke of sounds like a jerk, but it could just be how you perceived the situation. You sound a bit self conscious (just a guess from the way you write about yourself, though you are confident enough to just check a guy out if you want to so kudos), so it may not be that he was laughing at the thought of you checking him out as much as it was him feeling a bit awkward at the situation (which isn't that uncommon for guys).

 

[jbchillin]

It doesn't happen to me often so when it does I usually don't notice till well after. Then of course I facepalm myself, realize how oblivious I am, and carry on with my day.

 

[Diddy_Mao]

From what every girlfriend I've had has told me. I apparently don't react at all because I don't register it as a thing that's happening.

Dead serious, damn near every relationship I've been in was because the girl got sick of my shit and took matters into her own hands.

 

[Tropical]

I don´t really get hit on as such, im usually just the calm collected funny guy at the party, talk about random stuff, and at some point a girl just sits on my lap and starts kissing me, happens occasionally.

Seems girls likes honesty, even if brutal, if you have a smirk on your face while you state it.

I dunno, I seem to be able to get away with just about everything I do, could talk and smile myself out the gates of hell if i had to.

But i don't put on a social costume when i go out, i just do and act like i always do, nothing wrong with just being me.

 

[barbzilla]

My response to anyone I don't know talking to me is to be polite, but wonder what the hell the bloke wants. I have never been flirted with, and I have convinced myself that nobody is interested in me. On top of that I have utter belief that romance is far too much trouble, so I had convinced myself that I wasn't interested in anyone.

That fell apart when I fell in love, and a ferocious battle has been raging for weeks between my social anxieties, feelings of love and conviction that it is not worth it. And people call me socially adjusted, what a joke.

Bit of unasked for advice, just say the hell with the fear and go for it. I know that sounds much easier to say than it actually is, but more times than not I've seen people come out of that situation happier than they would have been if they just stayed quiet. You may not even have a chance in hell with the chick (stick with me here), but life is much easier down the road if:

A: You don't have a bunch of should have, could have, would haves running about in your mind

and

B: You gain some social confidence to help you in situations like this down the road.


Edit: Also a word to the Captcha, How in the bloody hell am I supposed to know if it is actually Grant in Grant's Tomb or some other bloke. For all I know it could be Sandra D.

 

[San Martin]

I sense sarcasm but do you actually have a 1968 'vette if so is it a stingray?

As a straight man if you hit on me and you had a 1968 corvette stingray id drop my pants

I wish! No, alas, I am naught but a poor student. However, as soon as I get a decent job I'll be buying that Stingray and giving you a call

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I don't know. I'll let you know when it happens.

 

[JagermanXcell]

I sense sarcasm but do you actually have a 1968 'vette if so is it a stingray?

As a straight man if you hit on me and you had a 1968 corvette stingray id drop my pants

I wish! No, alas, I am naught but a poor student. However, as soon as I get a decent job I'll be buying that Stingray and giving you a call

For a 1968? Care for a threesome... bro, yes or yes?

OT: I can be very subtle or over the top funny when a girl shows interest in me, realistically though I'm dying inside wondering how the hell I'm not blushing/leaking blood from my body when I talk to a cute girl. I used to show my shyness A LOT as an angsty young teen in jr high but over the years I developed the self-confidence thats borderline lovable and egotistical (the sarcastically good kind)
buuuuuut unfortunately a lot of the girls that had even the slightest bit of interest in me ended up just being really good friends.

A curse? Nah, i'm not interested in a relationship atm anyways. I'm 18, and while I'd really enjoy the company of another, enjoying some independence for a bit feels just as rewarding. And I do enjoy my new friends calling me cute.
Boost in Confidence +1

 

[Fox12]

So I was just out grocery shopping when at the deli counter I ended up waiting my turn behind two rather attractive men. Being a woman with a pulse, I checked them out.

A few isles later I ran into one. I gave him a once over again which he obviously noted, and he laughed. Not an awkward "Oh, she's checking me out, what do I do?" laugh or a "I'm flattered" laugh, but a derisive snort that said "Who does she think she is?". Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I can't find men attractive and make it known.

I was rather annoyed. Why be annoyed that someone finds you attractive? It's not like I grabbed his shirt and begged him to date me or sleep with me, I was just enjoying looking at him with no expectations whatsoever.

The other guy had given me a nice, warm smile and went on his way. He got it.

If I get hit on or checked out I usually just say thank you and that's that. If I even realise that's what's happening, as it's rather rare for me to be hit on.

So how do you guys handle situations like that?

Wow, what a dick. I wouldn't worry about him. As for me, I can be pretty oblivious, so I don't realize I'm being hit on until after the fact, usually. Last time I remember being hit on was when a cute asian cashier kept talking to me, and I thought to myself "the staff here is really friendly." Anyway, I remember my best friends sister hit on me for a while, and while I liked her, I didn't like her that way, so I politely rejected her advances. I still consider her a friend, and I was flattered by her interest. I've been on the receiving end of snobbery though, and I can honestly remember being relieved after the initial sting wore off, as those individuals always ended being all around terrible people the more I got to know them afterwards.

 

[Smolderin]

You know...I don't think i am all that good looking but everyone else, even dudes my own age say I am pretty well featured. It's because that I don't acknowledge my own physical appearance that most of the time, when I am getting checked out (which is apparently alot according to my peers) I am completely and utterly clueless on the matter. I just don't worry about it to be quite honest. But there have been some situations where it was pretty clear when a women was either flirting with me or just sizing me up and those are the moments when my social weaknesses come into play.

Now...I can talk to women, skinny or fat, bitchy or nice....without a problem in the world. Comes from living in a family where I am outnumbered by a vast amount of females....But if I think your flirting with me...if I think you are taking an interest in me...Well...I don't know what happens, a sort of switch turns on and I'll start panicking as If I don't know what to do with myself. My voice starts stuttering, I start acting fidgety...and everything goes to all hell. I'm guessing it has something to do with the fight or flight response and generally I take the flight option, often avoiding contact with that person from there on out.

Now I do have Social Anxiety Disorder, so the things I described above could very well be that coming into play. When faced with a situation that I do not know how to deal with, my first instinct is to back the hell away and hope that I never have to deal with it ever again.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Depends on the context. I could be either a little unnerved and/or extremely flattered, regardless of whether the feelings are mutual.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Eh, it depends what the situation is. If I'm a bit drunk I'm actually capable of responding in a charming and appropriate manner, and if I'm sober it's a bit more hit and miss. Either way I might just miss that they were hitting on me at all though. When I'm drunk my ridiculous dancing and general hopelessness has a perplexing charm to some girls for some reason and their drunkenness helps, but I'm a bit more awkward when I'm sober. I'll try and be nice though, even if I don't find them attractive- if I'm drunk I might be more of a prick about it though.

It's not something that happens particularly often, but it does happen more than it used to; taking more care of myself and caring a bit more about what I wear helps.

 

[Euryalus]

Fairly certain I wouldn't be able to tell. I'm terrible at reading body language, and even if I did notice, I would assume that the attention was negative... Anxiety is weird like that :/

 

[manic_depressive13]

Leering at someone you find attractive is just plain rude. If you want to make it obvious that you're staring at their bodies, I don't think it's fair to then call them out for sneering back. It's like spending an evening with your eyes glued to a girl's rack and then being offended when she doesn't say "thank you". I don't buy this "too cute to be creepy" nonsense. Creepy is how you act, not how you look.

 

[SomebodyNowhere]

I'm fairly oblivious to that kind of thing so I wouldn't even know if it were happening.

 

[waj9876]

So you just assumed things about him based on the way he laughed? He might have been finding the thought of being checked out funny, or something else like that. Unless you could read his mind, and all he did was laugh, then you have no idea what he was thinking. Just assuming that someone is dismissing you because of your own personal insecurities is a bad habit to get into.

On Topic: I don't like to look at people unless I'm talking to them, so I have no idea if people are looking at me like that. If I did notice it, I would probably just emotionally curl up into a little ball of shyness and "Oh god please stop looking at me." While attempting to initiate a conversation with them.

 

[Caiphus]

It depends. I've been sexually harassed at work before; that wasn't very fun.

I think my reaction would at least partially depend on how attractive the other party was. I mean, if Megan Fox hit on me you can be damned sure I'd be bragging about it to complete strangers.

But there are other factors too. If they were drunk and rubbing themselves on me in public while barely keeping themselves vertical, I'd probably just be annoyed.

EDIT:

Loooots of people pretending that they're ugly in this thread. You modest bastards.

 

[Ix Rebound]

I'd probably just lap it up and enjoy the ego boost.

 

[crepesack]

Okay I'll chime in. I've been told I'm a rather attractive asian guy so girls will talk to me and give me looks. There was even one girl who got a picture of me to show her friends or whatever. Just today I went to a restaurant and got a few glances from some girls at another table.

Honestly it's awkward. I just smile and wave basically. I try not to make a big deal out of it. Yep...It happens when I go to conventions too.

 

[KOMega]

I think I would need a big neon sign appear to inform me, otherwise I think I'd most likely be completely oblivious.

But since I don't think I've been checked out/hit on before I would wager a guess that I'd probably go and awkwardly attempt to start a conversation.