How do you talk to a girl you like
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I just make it blindingly obvious and see if she backs away or not. If not, I go for it.
I used to be a massive coward though before I'd ever been in a relationship.
I used to be a massive coward though before I'd ever been in a relationship.
Keep it real, don't get all flirty unless it comes naturally to your personality. It'll only serve to make things awkward for the both of you.
Also, go for a friendship first. Get to know her and give her a chance to know you, hang out a bit before asking for a relationship. Asking for a relationship on the first go is just weird if you don't already know each other.
Also, go for a friendship first. Get to know her and give her a chance to know you, hang out a bit before asking for a relationship. Asking for a relationship on the first go is just weird if you don't already know each other.
I walk up, or sit down besides, and start flapping my mouth on a topic we're both resaonably clued in on, attempting and hopefully succeeding not to sound too snobby/arrogant/self-effacing/ivory tower. Failing that, I'll just make comments which're tough to disagree with on whatever's happening around us to give her a chance to respond in the affirmative and get the ball of conversation rolling, then attempt to find one of the aforementioned topics.
Proper flirting happens eventually, with me. I'll tend to make a move when I know I've got a bit of a chance (i.e. she's not already with someone, and can stand the sight and sound of me for more than an hour). On our second or third meeting, I'll most likely suggest doing something together, though it could go either way as to whether it's just friendly or something more. Then, on we go.
Proper flirting happens eventually, with me. I'll tend to make a move when I know I've got a bit of a chance (i.e. she's not already with someone, and can stand the sight and sound of me for more than an hour). On our second or third meeting, I'll most likely suggest doing something together, though it could go either way as to whether it's just friendly or something more. Then, on we go.
I have to say go for a friendship first; like what Lilani said. Hang out for a while and get to know her first; it's much better seeing as you won't have those "So what are you into" moments...well not as much. My ex-girlfriend and I started off as friends but we only knew each other for a few months before we got together. Don't stretch it out though, that's majorly important; If you're friends with her for too long, you could get put in the dreaded "friend zone".
Just hang out for a while, know more about her and then ask her out. Usually works
Just hang out for a while, know more about her and then ask her out. Usually works
Considering how unsocial I tend to be, I'm surprisingly flirtatious... I'll indulge in verbal ribbing with girls who already have boyfriends and girls I like but only as friends. As for those I actually like, oh... I just talk 'normally', without nerves or anything, just normally. All rather counterproductive... :/
I expel air from my lungs which makes my vocal cords vibrate, producing sound. This sound is then altered by the movement of my lips and tongue, making it form different shapes and sounds which then can be connected together in varying sequences to form words as part of a language. These sounds then vibrate inside her ears, allowing her to hear the sounds, which are in turn processed by her brain, which interprets the meaning of the sounds and recognises them as words.
A little oversimplified, I know, but I hope this has cleared things up.
A little oversimplified, I know, but I hope this has cleared things up.
If there's a girl/guy that I like I...usually don't talk to them at all. Nerves of styrofoam. Yeah, I suck at this...
...well okay, what I mean by that is if they're standing across the room at a bar or something, I won't be the one to approach, I never can work up the courage to make the first move (and frankly I don't see why that has to be on me to do that, but that's getting into a whole other debate). However, if someone's talking to me or I'm in a working kind of environment, I suppose I 'keep it real' just keeping along the lines that I'm expecting nothing to happen from this. I suppose I'm rather paranoid about this sort of thing, having a slightly Occam's Razor approach in that I make absolutely no assumption (or enough to act on it) that they might be into me unless given a highly conspicuous sign and then being beaten over the head with it. So yeah, I make no attempt to flirt or steer the conversation into that kind of domain unless presented with an indisputable indication of attraction that even my feeble brain is capable of registering. Even then my version of keeping it 'real' is to maladroitly stumble around the conversation, desperately trying to conjure some point of discussion and then running out of something to say 10 minutes in. Basically, I'm an idiot. And I suck at this.
...well okay, what I mean by that is if they're standing across the room at a bar or something, I won't be the one to approach, I never can work up the courage to make the first move (and frankly I don't see why that has to be on me to do that, but that's getting into a whole other debate). However, if someone's talking to me or I'm in a working kind of environment, I suppose I 'keep it real' just keeping along the lines that I'm expecting nothing to happen from this. I suppose I'm rather paranoid about this sort of thing, having a slightly Occam's Razor approach in that I make absolutely no assumption (or enough to act on it) that they might be into me unless given a highly conspicuous sign and then being beaten over the head with it. So yeah, I make no attempt to flirt or steer the conversation into that kind of domain unless presented with an indisputable indication of attraction that even my feeble brain is capable of registering. Even then my version of keeping it 'real' is to maladroitly stumble around the conversation, desperately trying to conjure some point of discussion and then running out of something to say 10 minutes in. Basically, I'm an idiot. And I suck at this.
Facebook chat, MSN messenger, Skype and, on occasions when I have £500 for flights to the USA, I talk to her face to face.
A mixture of humor with lovey-doveyness and compliments I suppose. I haven't been in a relationship, but I am almost certain this is how I would act towards someone I was in a relationship with. If I was attempting to start a relationship with someone I had already known or desired one in any way, it would be the same but without the lovey-doveyness. I may also feign having greater confidence than I do, but I haven't noticed myself doing that too much. If I don't know them but find them attractive I will not speak with them as I am very socially awkward.
Nah, there isn't enough implied violence. It also isn't nearly forward enough. If a Bioware writer tried to pass that off as Renegade dialogue they'd be fired in an instant. From a cannon.usmarine4160 said:The bottom one is the red dialoguePurpleLeafRave said:
Yeah, quite the necro spam bot.
And here I was going to make a sacry comment about opening your mouth and making noise with your throat and tongue.
And here I was going to make a sacry comment about opening your mouth and making noise with your throat and tongue.
I don't. around 90% chance of failure, which would cause massive damage to self esteem and social standing. Estimated recovery time of a year. Simply not worth the risk.
Although, I am known to converse spiritedly with a ridiculous amount of cider until urges to attempt the impossible shut the hell up.
Although, I am known to converse spiritedly with a ridiculous amount of cider until urges to attempt the impossible shut the hell up.