How has being shy ruined some moments of your life

[Bugerion]

Well all shy people probably have had a hard time sometimes and generally I think we have a harder life because a lot of times we are unable to speak up and say what we really mean.So I am currently kind of having issues because I'm shy,kinda hurting my mental health but nothing too serious.


So how has it damaged your life or have you never had any trouble(which I doubt is possible)with being shy?

 

[Realitycrash]

I'm not shy, but there are certainly situations where I have "chickened out" from doing something I really wanted to do, and thus robbed myself of an experience that may or may not would have have proved to be quite pleasant.
You never know ahead of time, but as a wise man once said, "if you never shoot, you'll always miss".

 

[Griffolion]

I'm not shy, but there are certainly situations where I have "chickened out" from doing something I really wanted to do, and thus robbed myself of an experience that may or may not would have have proved to be quite pleasant.
You never know ahead of time, but as a wise man once said, "if you never shoot, you'll always miss".

Second this, many times i've pulled out of doing something because it was out of my comfort zone and regretted it later. I'm a lot better than i was though. I'm learning to just say 'yes' to some things i wouldn't before and worrying about everything else later.

 

[Realitycrash]

I'm not shy, but there are certainly situations where I have "chickened out" from doing something I really wanted to do, and thus robbed myself of an experience that may or may not would have have proved to be quite pleasant.
You never know ahead of time, but as a wise man once said, "if you never shoot, you'll always miss".

Second this, many times i've pulled out of doing something because it was out of my comfort zone and regretted it later. I'm a lot better than i was though. I'm learning to just say 'yes' to some things i wouldn't before and worrying about everything else later.

Telling shy people to just "say yes and do it" is allot like telling the middle-east to just "get along", though.

 

[WrongSprite]

Well, I wouldn't be single so much, that's for sure.

 

[Griffolion]

I'm not shy, but there are certainly situations where I have "chickened out" from doing something I really wanted to do, and thus robbed myself of an experience that may or may not would have have proved to be quite pleasant.
You never know ahead of time, but as a wise man once said, "if you never shoot, you'll always miss".

Second this, many times i've pulled out of doing something because it was out of my comfort zone and regretted it later. I'm a lot better than i was though. I'm learning to just say 'yes' to some things i wouldn't before and worrying about everything else later.

Telling shy people to just "say yes and do it" is allot like telling the middle-east to just "get along", though.

My statement wasn't a command for them to execute to cure themselves of shyness, I was simply talking from personal experience. I understand that many individuals may have underlying issues that causes shyness and a lack of confidence and this requires support to resolve. But I looked at myself and had help from others and found no such issues, I was just irrationally afraid of coming out of my comfort zone. So I basically told myself to man the hell up and jump into these things ignoring what that part of my mind was telling me. However, like I previously mentioned, I totally recognise that for some people it's not that easy and they need positive support from friends and family to overcome these shyness and confidence issues.

So I wasn't saying to him 'just say yes' I was simply relaying my own experiences.

 

[Plinglebob]

Not had a date in 6 years because of shyness. Thats pretty much it

 

[Best of the 3]

Less friends than I could have.
Low self esteem
Horrible chances with finding someone to love.
Never going for opertunaties that would benefit me.

The list goes on.

 

[tahrey]

Giving presentations, trying to challenge someone else's stupid decisions who has a bit more kudos than me in a team situation, trying to score...

yknow, all the usual.

 

[Hoplon]

Never.

Since being emo enough to actually think it ruined my life would make me sick.

 

[Vault101]

I may have lost some potential freinds that way but eh I dont let it bother me

 

[The Rogue Wolf]

I'd say being reserved and cautious has kept me out of more bad situations than good. Any time I start to lament "what coulda been", I remember that it also could have ended up worse.

 

[Adamd1990]

Well, I was too shy to say to my fiance that getting married is a terrible idea and will only destroy us further down the line. Also, this was when I was 18. I'm 20 and seperated.
So I say you gotta have balls when it matters.

 

[Marter]

Telling my parents what I actually feel about them.

That's just about it. I'm shy with them because they currently dictate my life. Other people don't have such control, and upsetting them does not have the same types of consequences.

 

[SilentCom]

My shyness (and trust issues) has led me to somewhat of an emotional disconnect with other people. Sometimes I feel compelled to talk to other people, but usually I don't really want to.

 

[Inglip]

Totally wanted to go streaking, but there were children.

Damn, I always cave near the children.

 

[Distorted Stu]

Well, i probally wouldnt be single. Alcholhol helps my shyness!

There have been times ive turned down girls and parties because of my shyness,only to look back and think "FUCK"

 

[Le_Lisra]

Same old story:

When the girl I was so hard in love with sat on the other end of the sofa. I later learned that if I have had the guts to say it to her, she would have said yes and parts o my life would be altered significantly. As it was I didn't, she left to her home town and fell in love with someone closer at hand.
However, she's now my best friend so in the long run it was ok.

 

[Best of the 3]

Less friends than I could have.
Low self esteem
Horrible chances with finding someone to love.
Never going for opertunaties that would benefit me.

The list goes on.

Opportunities like learning how to spell the word opportunities?

Hey, maybe your atrocious spelling is why no one loves you...


Anyway, no, being shy hasn't ruined my life in any capacity.

You know, I've always known my spelling was bad. No need to point it out.