How has being shy ruined some moments of your life

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interspark

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i have aspergas syndrome, so i fins it hard to talk to people, and i find it almost impossible to ask people out (girls on dates that is), hence i spend the majority of my time at home on the internet and have never had a girlfriend despite being 18... wow life is hard :(
 

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Count Igor said:
Well, I missed out on a lot of kissing...
Try alcohol, it diminishes the experience a fair bit but it really helps to take the edge off. Just don't you know.. become dependant.
I'm not gonna get suspended for this advice am I? lol

Once you've had a few fun times while drunk with people you'll find you have more stuff to talk about with them and you'll feel more comfortable.
 

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interspark said:
i have aspergas syndrome, so i fins it hard to talk to people, and i find it almost impossible to ask people out (girls on dates that is), hence i spend the majority of my time at home on the internet and have never had a girlfriend despite being 18... wow life is hard :(
Aww ):

Are their any perks to aspergers? I once read a book about a kid who is really good at maths because of it.
 

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ItsAChiaotzu said:
Jamaicob5 said:
ItsAChiaotzu said:
Best of the 3 said:
Less friends than I could have.
Low self esteem
Horrible chances with finding someone to love.
Never going for opertunaties that would benefit me.

The list goes on.
Opportunities like learning how to spell the word opportunities?

Hey, maybe your atrocious spelling is why no one loves you...


Anyway, no, being shy hasn't ruined my life in any capacity.
aww, always nice to know there's a dick on the forum.

Lay off, or fuck off.

As for me... I'm too shy to say :)

nah, seriously, yes, but I try to talk, and sometimes that gets me somewhere.
My my, aren't we feeling rude today? I was trying to help this person with their spelling and the problems that I assume have arisen from it, and you attack me for it? Not what I'd call mature.
Wow dude... The irony of that statement... Just wow.
OT: All the time.
 

Bugerion

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Hmmm most of people here find it hard to speak to people man you guys have it worst than me I can speak to everyone just fine but as soon someone so much as compliments my clothes I kinda stutter :/
 

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Rockchimp69 said:
interspark said:
i have aspergas syndrome, so i fins it hard to talk to people, and i find it almost impossible to ask people out (girls on dates that is), hence i spend the majority of my time at home on the internet and have never had a girlfriend despite being 18... wow life is hard :(
Aww ):

Are their any perks to aspergers? I once read a book about a kid who is really good at maths because of it.
I might be qualified to answer that question. (Seeing as I, too, have Aspergers syndrome.)

Yes, there are perks to be had. You are far more precise and focused in the work you do take interest in; so anything that comes to interest will be done twice as efficient than normal standards. If said person with Aspergers had an interest for math, he will be twice as good than a normal subject. Triple, even. Not to mention you'll do very, very little mistakes.

Myself, I have taken a great interest in the English language, and I get A's and A+ in said classes without any hard effort behind it. Just comes off natural. Seriously, I just fill in something and BAM! Highest grades.

Downside is, you will have a hard time to socialize.
Imagine doing something you have no experience of, and don't want to do in the first place. That is pretty much the status.

Now, these aren't the only perks and flaws the syndrome has to offer, but these might just be the only ones worth mentioning in this thread.

PS; Lucky for me, half of me thinks reasonably, while the other goes 'fuck all' and abandons all sense at certain moments, (despite the syndrome) which led me to my first girlfriend. Would never had happened otherwise.
... I fear I've gotten off point now.

OT; I can think of a huuuuge range of mistakes made in my life due to shyness. And keep re-doing them. But, I cannot seize my actions. Reason stated above. Sssssomewhere among those paragraphs...
 

Pariah87

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I can only speak to people if I have a defensive posture. You know, back straight, chest slightly out, as intimidating as I can be. It works, you can see how unsettled it makes people, especially those with positions of authority. It takes me weeks to get comfortable enough around people so I can be myself. This is all down to shyness and zero self confidance. That and I'm used to people trying to take a swing at me when I've been passive. The big guy who looks soft? Really tempting target. The big guy who stands like he's ready to fight at a seconds notice...2 years now fight free.

Of course, I can't switch it off. I avoid eye contact otherwise I end up staring people out. With women, potential friends etc, that doesn't work well.

So yeah, it hasn't ruined aspects of my life, it's been a blight on my whole life. I can't fix that untill I fix my self loathing, I can't fix that untill I lose around 8 stone in weight, I can't fix that untill I deal with my parent issues and the feeling that I'm still a small child to be controlled. I'm fucked :D
 

OmniscientOstrich

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Generally I think I might get out more, I think adjusting to social situations kind of comes with practice, so I might be more outgoing by this stage if I hadn't blown off oppourtunities to get while I was younger.

WrongSprite said:
Well, I wouldn't be single so much, that's for sure.
Ditto.
 

Girl With One Eye

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I've already been too shy to talk to guys and I don't get approached either. My ex's were friends first, makes it easier to talk to them I guess.
 

interspark

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Rockchimp69 said:
interspark said:
i have aspergas syndrome, so i fins it hard to talk to people, and i find it almost impossible to ask people out (girls on dates that is), hence i spend the majority of my time at home on the internet and have never had a girlfriend despite being 18... wow life is hard :(
Aww ):

Are their any perks to aspergers? I once read a book about a kid who is really good at maths because of it.
well yeah, it does give you a unique way of thinking which can be benificial with stuff like maths and the like, but it's mostly about the social ineptness
 

Abbyrose07

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Probably being to shy to go on dates with a couple of guys who asked me out before...but I grew out of it as I got older.
 

Solo-Wing

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I was going to buy a copy of Bioshock from EBgames but the girl behind the counter was fucking cute. Could not bring myself to go to the counter so after about an hour of waiting for someone else to take her place I had to leave with out my game.
 

AlkalineGamer

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Every time i speak up something bad happens, or i make a fool of myself, so i just gave up, SUPER shy, and it's a *****, but i cope, i'm a coper...
 

loovesyoshii

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Well.. I don't date anybody anymore. Ruined one relationship in my life.. I hate being shy but just realized after being so shy to say "hi" to somebody who I might not see for another 6 months or maybe another year..I shouldn't waste time like that on being shy. I miss this guy I couldn't even say hi to.. It sucks! I'm changing =P Because I don't think we're friends anymore too. Blah.