How important is sex to you?

[Colour Scientist]

"An intellectual is a person who has discovered something more interesting than sex." -Aldous Huxley

That doesn't make you seem as clever as you think it does.

OP: I enjoy it and my boyfriend and I have it regularly. I don't think it's a big deal though. It's great and feels amazing but it doesn't occupy my thoughts all of the time. I think most people need to relax about it.

EDIT:

I enjoy sex. A lot. It is a big part of my life and I openly admit that. Some people call me a slut because of that. I dont care.

One of the healthiest attitudes there is to have about sex, in my opinion.

 

[squeekenator]

It's like rollerskating. I guess it sounds like fun, and plenty of people seem to enjoy it. I probably would too if I could be bothered, I guess. But I'm not particularly passionate about it, and I don't feel any particular need to pursue it.

 

[isometry]

"An intellectual is a person who has discovered something more interesting than sex." -Aldous Huxley

That doesn't make you seem as clever as you think it does.

I meant to post another quote so that there would be more to think about, but I wasn't sure if the language was too crass for the forum, so I chickened out. In a spoiler:

Spoiler: Arnold Schwarzenegger in his 1977 Weightlifting documentary Pumping Iron

"The most satisfying feel you can get in the gym is the "pump". It's as satisfying to me as "cumming" is, y'know? As having sex with a woman and cumming. So can you believe how much I am in heaven? I'm like getting the feeling of cumming in the gym, getting the feeling of cumming at home, and cumming backstage when I pump up and when I pose out in front of 5000 viewers, I get the same feeling, so I'm cumming day and night! I mean it's terrific...right?"

To elaborate on what these quotes mean when taken together, the greatest expression of human sexuality is to find some activity that is on the level of continually climaxing. To work on a mathematical problem for many years and finally be on the virge of proof, or to have perfect discipline and willpower in training for the world's most prestigious bodybuilding competition, the common feature is that it is like having sex in slow motion over a protracted period of time.

 

[Vault101]

I'd like to have some at some point....but you know...thats all that "being social" stuff thats a bit of a pain


I don't put on a pedalstool like its some great big deal though

 

[BreakfastMan]

Completely unimportant. I feel no need to receive it or give it to either gender. Luckily, that leaves me with much more time for important things, like video games, television, movies, music, and comics. ;D

 

[Candidus]

I feel the sexual compulsion quite a lot, so I imagine that my sex drive is quite strong. That being said, when I'm feeling the sexual compulsion, I think of and imagine non-sexual violence and various edgeplay things still in the context of non-consensualism and violence, so I would have to say that sex itself is not important to me at all.

In the past, I've had sex as a matter of meeting expectations inside a relationship. It's been difficult, because while my equipment works fine during activities that have nothing to do with genital petting or intercourse, trying to transition from something I find sexually exciting into petting, oral or actual sex means a constant mind war to keep myself... you know.

More recently, I've been honest about what I want and the fact that a sexless relationship with a violent woman would be best for me.

No surprise that I've been single since I decided to stop lying.

 

[tehfeen83]

Sex is steadily becoming less important to me the older I get. I suppose once you've done it 500 times with the same person, the novelty starts to fade. Still do it at least once a week though.

 

[GoaThief]

the common feature is that it is like having sex in slow motion over a protracted period of time.

But it's not the same feeling at all, just as different drugs produce different feelings.

Personally I think sex is great and should be shared, people who scorn others for enjoying it concern me.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

Not at all. I consider it to be really messy, unreliable as a sleep-aid and, dangerous when does with other people. I can't deny that it feels good though and spent a lot of time thinking about it as I grew up. Once I started having it though my opinion of it began to fall. I realized I didn't like it either when...

Spoiler: oh I should probably put up a TMI warning here because I'm about to type far more than is necessary again

I found out that ladies get tongue rings to enhance the feelings of oral sex. A sensation I absolutely hated and wanted nothing to do with ever again. Or when I tried to 69 for the first time which must have seemed like a good idea at the time (it sure as hell seems like a good idea on paper)

 

[Offworlder_v1legacy]

I don't really obsess over it. I mean I think about it, I'm a teenage boy what do you expect. Unfortunately I live in a generation that if you don't get it often your a weirdo and outcast, which annoys me.

 

[Doclector]

Quite frankly, I'm desperate for it. Not so much for the act itself, but just for the sake of my self esteem. I struggle to think of more than one person I know who hasn't had sex, and that person's an a**hole, anyway.

People say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but I'm 21, dammit. I've been socially active for the better part of a year now, and everyone I know seems to get laid so damn easily. I'm fairly popular around here, I'm not exactly prince charming, but I'm nice enough, and most people say I'm funny. If there wasn't something wrong with me, it would have happened by now. Of course, I know what that wrong thing is. I'm utterly horrific to look at.

 

[Autofaux]

Sex is the bomb diggity. I quite like it, and it is important for the sake of my sanity.

 

[The Night Angel]

I don't care one way or the other, it's being with the person I care about that matters, not what we do. In fact, with my current girlfriend and the one before her, I refused to have sex early in the relationship, as I wanted to do things right.

 

[Demgar]

"Will this get me laid?" features very high on my decision making tree. I'm probably sex obsessed, but damnit girls are so soft and nice.

And not an obsession born out of not getting any as seems to be the case for a few in the thread. I'm a womanizer womanizer womanizer..

 

[Sam Eskenazi]

I very much want to have sex. I'm in a longterm relationship (I live with her, as well) and yet we're both still virgins. We both want it, but we've gotten into a cycle of no sex, and the first few times we trried we fucked everything up so badly... One of us just needs to goddamn push it.

 

[Kuriko]

Sex is nice, I'll admit, but it's not something that I'm constantly wanting or needing. It's not a big thing to me. |:

It's just.. Something you do. I don't whine at my boyfriend all the time for it, either, lol.

 

[Screamarie]

Well seeing as the only sex I've had is fade to black implied sex with Garrus and Thane.....not much. Yeah, virgin. Don't really give a shit. If I ever met the right guy, sure, whatever, but if I don't I'll die a virgin and be content.

Believe it or not it is possible to survive without sex...though I know many people disagree with me.

I think it comes down to two main things.

1. A general 'don't knock it till you try it' attitude for a bunch of common things, mixed with 'you don't know what you're missing'.
Which you can probably follow at your own speed anyway, so not like there's even any reason to change the way you're doing things D:.

I've had this same thing with wanting people to try drinking (in moderation) and blow away a lot of their assumptions and see them hopefully have a good time and learn about themselves, and drinking probably has more capacity for disaster I guess, not that either should be taken lightly.

2. People seem to get off on introducing people to things (either indirectly or actually going out of their way to pursue you) and seeing you change/hearing about it and being able to say "I told you so". There may also be an element of "challenge accepted" nonsense to it somewhere.

Also I managed to stalk you across threads..which means I should really stop reading too many threads about sexuality :/.

Anyway..Less creepy and on topic..I feel like the absence of sexual attraction is more important to me than enjoying sex is. It's not really important as long as I feel like it's not missing entirely. Yeah it's fun but I'm not gonna try and force the issue when there's a bunch of stuff that's more important.

Captcha was "piggyback"..weirdly appropriate.

Oh I'm not knocking it. If I found a person that I trusted enough, I would most certainly do so, I just haven't found anyone I felt was worth it. I'm not necessarily waiting for "the one" or something "special" or something like that, just that when I have sex it means something other than a random fuck (though I don't believe there's something inherently wrong with casual sex, it's just not what I want)

Also, OOOOOO, I have a stalker! What fun! XD

 

[Crenelate]

Sex was awful with my first boyfriend, but brilliant with my current one (which whom I am deeply in love and wish to spend the rest of my life). I think sex in the relationship is more important to him though, mostly because he's a guy but also because I find sex quite scary. With the person I trust it's fine, but god forbid we ever break up because I have no idea how I'll be able to be intimate with another person.

I don't understand how people can have sex with someone they're not in a relationship with, or know and trust really well. I'm not saying they shouldn't, but I personally can't imagine doing it. My deep-rooted distrust of men doesn't help.

 

[Cavan]

Also, OOOOOO, I have a stalker! What fun! XD

D:

That's..an interesting reaction to the idea of stalking, not that that's what I was doing >_>

 

[Neonit]

im tired of it. no, not because "im so cool i have it even right now." - on the contrary.
im tired of it because its everywhere. i cant get out of my house, and NOT be bombarded with billboards featuring naked women. i cant read a magazine without seeing at least 2 "half-nude" photos. i cant go on internet for more than 5 min before seeing naked photos. i cant play a game without seeing "chain-mail bikinis" etc.

IT IS EVERYWHERE.

i know its not healthy, but im just so friggin tired of seeing naked bodies, it doesnt excite me like it did when i was a kid.

you know what is the worst thing? im 19 year old male.

it is that bad.