How long do you usually go out before sex?

[MasterOfWorlds]

So, my fellow Escapists, how long do you usually go out with someone before you sleep together? Assuming you don't just exclusively go out to bars for one night stands.

Tell us your thoughts, feelings, and stories, my fellow Escapists.

By "going out" i mean, how long does it generally take you from trying to get sex to actually getting it?

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I went out with your mom twice first.

That would be amusing if it had been original. XD

 

[Red Right Hand]

I went out with your mom twice first.

That would be amusing if it had been original. XD

I quite like it actually.

 

[MartialArc]

I went out with your mom twice first.

That would be amusing if it had been original. XD

I quite like it actually.

Its funny because you saw it coming, but I said it anyway =). And because it was the first. Go internets \o/

 

[higgs20]

I went out with your mom twice first.

That would be amusing if it had been original. XD

I quite like it actually.

Its funny because you saw it coming, but I said it anyway =). And because it was the first. Go internets \o/

well it made me chuckle, the 'your mum' joke gets a bad rap, I think when used at the right moment it can be pretty funny.

OT: not long, most of the time it's how the relationship starts.

 

[GudangGaram]

Between four and eight weeks I guess (Though I've experienced two days up to six months). It depends when during this course you've come to terms what 'going out' actually means to both parties. I'm not even really sure what 'going out' means. It's not the same as 'seeing each other' and you are not yet dating right?

Say you've been hanging out with a girl for three months almost on a daily basis, you then confess you like her, and she says she likes you back, and said parties want to give it a go. Now, one week later, are we dating? Going out? Seeing eachother?

 

[Magners]

Ask me in 5 minutes...

 

[kurupt87]

Sexual compatability between partners is important, don't wait too long before having sex.

Young'uns semi-excluded of course.

OT: Waited indefinitely in my first relationship (didn't happen); my second, and last, relationship I waited, perhaps, 2 weeks.

 

[gazumped]

With my first boyfriend (when I was a virgin) I was dating him for three months before having sex with him. I'd have probably slept with him earlier if he'd asked, to be honest, it's just we were both panifully shy and it took us a lot of guts to broach the subject.

One guy I felt pressurised into sleeping with after dating for two weeks because he suggested it and I figured the reason I didn't want to was that I wasn't over another guy so I should just push through it. That was stupid of me, I shouldn't even have been dating him because I was totally on the rebound, I realised that too late and after sleeping with him I dumped him the next time I saw him. o.o

With the two other guys I've been with, I'd been friends with and had a crush on them for ages already, so I basically slept with them as soon as I could seduce them. Those two are the only two out of the four that I don't regret being with (and one being my current boyfriend so I should hope so for him at least ).
Well, okay, I don't really regret losing my virginity to my first boyfriend because he used to be really sweet, but later on he turned into kind of a pig so that sorta sucked.

 

[ProtoChimp]

Still a fucking virgin overhere man. Still I guess waiting until your with someone special is better than just a one night stand. But still fuuuuuuuuck.

 

[obehave_wan]

Unfortunately, I can't divide by zero.

In other words, I can't calculate an average time of dating before sex until I actually have sex.

 

[Raven's Nest]

Well now let's see, the first victim partner, had been going out with me for around a month I think until we did the deed.

My second, I had considered her a platonic friend until I randomly stayed over hers one night then ended up having rampant sex in the morning... So I guess that was pretty quick... No relationship formed.

My third, another platonic friend, was just chilling with me in my bedroom watching a film that was obviously quite boring so we ended up having sex to alleviate the boredom... Apparently... That mutual boredom relief lasted around 6 months I think.

Does this make me a man slag? Or stupidly lucky? All the girls involved were very attractive I might add which probably balances out in the grand scheme of things considering I haven't had sex in two and a half years...

 

[StarkillerisDead]

Honestly dude(tte?), this is so case-by-case there's no way any of us can tell you.

 

[tokae]

That totally depends on what I want, and what she wants, dude.. And whether how well we know eachother before we come to the whole dating thing.
If you mean just finding someone for sexual-relief without any strings attached at all, I don't do that. And even if I just was after momentarily ecstasy, I have good friends that I actually know would "take one for the team" if so to speak.

If I find someone I want to get in a relationship with... That's a nice dance, which I enjoy very much. And in that case I make it clear for her, that nothing sexual will happen until she wants it to.

In most mature relationships the sexual component is crucial, it's a way to bond and learn to trust each other. Just make sure to not fall in the trap of only focusing on the sex.

 

[Dags90]

I require a larger sample to have any meaningful data.

Right now I'm feeling a little chilly, and my feet are damp. -_-

 

[Fappy]

When you're ready. This will be different for every couple. Me and my girl friend have been dating for a little over a month now and had discussed the topic a good bit before my last visit this past weekend. We both thought it was probably too early to do it... but you know... things happen... Anyway, despite the fact that it was a "heat of the moment" decision we had discussed it before hand and our relationship is stronger now more than ever. My last relationship took around three months before the uglies were bumped, so there is no God number for this.

 

[burningdragoon]

Well, if I was to go back in time and have sex the X, where X > 0, amount of times the opportunity came up and average out the length of time going out with those girls... < 1 day. Although I don't know how to factor in time not really, but kinda dating, but let's just stick with what I said.

 

[Kurokami]

Still a fucking virgin overhere man. Still I guess waiting until your with someone special is better than just a one night stand. But still fuuuuuuuuck.

Screw that love thing, it's failed me twice already, I'd just want sex but I really really don't want to date. =/

Still, at least you're not alone there! =]

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

It's too person-by-person for me to really say. So I guess I don't really have an answer for you.