How long does it take to get over it?

[DarkDain]

Hm i think guys actually take break ups harder than girls do. I'd say... about one World of Warcraft tour.

 

[stok3r]

Hello Escapist!

I was just wondering how long it takes you guys (or gals) to get over someone?

'Cause by all rights, I ought to be over a girl by now. After several "encounters" (god that's such a lame way of saying we shagged) She told me she really liked me, I told her I felt likewise, and then all of a sudden she changes her mind.

Now I respect her feelings, so I've not made any attempts, but I still feel sad, and I really think I should be over her by now, but I cant help it.

So my lame story aside, how long does it take (on average) for you guys and gals to get over someone you like?

/end long winded whine about how sorry I feel for myself.

Also slightly off topic: Who else likes the new Robbie Williams Album?

God she dumped me 8 months ago and I still haven't fully recovered!

It took me about 5 months to get back to normalish, but still.

It was only a 7 month relationship but it was pretty serious. Things wern't going too well at the end, i thought we could talk it out, but she sent me a txt one morning saying it was over. She dumped me over txt..

Looking back on it now I see that we wern't ment to be, but I miss he company of someone.

It's been 3 years and a half and there's one thing I never got over. There's a girl with the most perfect eyes, hair, smile and everything. I really thought that she was perfect...and then I screwed up.

However, there's one thing more heartbreaking than being rejected. It's too realize that the perfect person wasn't perfect at all. That underneath that blanket of comfort she gave me at first, there was knife waiting to pludge itself at the moment that I least expected it and when I was truly in need of someone to be there for me.

If you want to know the short version, she didn't wanted to be pillow to cry on. I screwed up because I got angry. After that, she cheated on me.

This. Except for the cheating. She didn't cheat on me. She ended up being a passive aggressive *****.

 

[Lonator]

Well, ive been after a girl for 5 years, told her my feelings late last year, upon which I was rejected, and im still not over the fact that ill never have her. But I respect her feelings so I just want her to be happy.

 

[Deleted]

I imagine it should take a few minutes at most.

 

[YouCallMeNighthawk]

probably in a day or maybe 2, just move onto your next target that's what i say

 

[joshuaayt]

I STILL haven't gotten over Marina Liteyears.

 

[Stoorm_]

Time best healer
go "encounter" someone else it helps a lot.

 

[JEBWrench]

Usually a day or so. If something doesn't work out, no sense letting it bring you down.

 

[Infinite Betsy]

It was only a 7 month relationship but it was pretty serious. Things wern't going too well at the end, i thought we could talk it out, but she sent me a txt one morning saying it was over. She dumped me over txt..

Looking back on it now I see that we wern't ment to be, but I miss he company of someone.

That kind of sucks getting dumped over a text. I am familiar with that feeling too. One of my exes (I was with him for a little over a year) broke up with me on instant messenger.... on Valentine's day. Awesome, right?

I am not really sure how long it took me to get over that, but I will guess that it was about 6 months. My strategy was to force myself to get back out there socially pretty much immediately. I just pretended I was ok until it was eventually true. I'm not sure if that's the healthiest way to deal with "heartbreak", but it worked for me.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Took me four months. Still coming back around to "normal", but damned close.

I have a new lover, now, to help my get over it... her name is Natalya, and she's a 995ts carbine. The time we spend at the range is magical, and makes all the worries of my past melt away... sigh...

You're gonna have depression spells for the rest of your life when the moment strikes you hard enough, though, so, uh... enjoy that, too.

Not to be rude and all, but Natalya is about the single ugliest thing I have seen in my life.

She's due to be upgraded soon:

Spoiler

A good stock can make a hell of a difference.

 

[CowboyfromHell666]

Took me a while to get over my first after she broke up with me.

She didn't let me down easy.

When I told her I thought I loved her, she laughed and said she could never love someone like me.

I hope she dies of AIDS

That's fucking harsh of her. I'm sorry dude I hope she dies of AIDS too.

With me, I thought I loved this girl. Found out one day for like a week she wanted to dump me, and was with another guy. She dumped me(I have NO idea why I just didn't dump her)and I was over it the very same day. I hate that whore. AND one day she texted me acting like shit was totally ok between us. I didn't waste my time replying.

EDIT: But if I find a girl I truly do love, and we end up splitting, it might take me a while to get over it.

 

[SmartIdiot]

It takes... well, as long as it takes. There's no straight forward answer to it, it's different for everyone. Go out and have a few beers with the lads, that'll probably speed it up.

 

[Keepitclean]

It will stay with you as long as you let it. If you genuinly want to get over her it will happen quite quickly. Just get up, dust yourself off and find another girl.

I know it sounds 'easier said than done' but really it's not that hard.