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OT: I think cheating would be a definate relationship-ender, even if she was drunk.
How much would you forgive him or her?
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OT: I think cheating would be a definate relationship-ender, even if she was drunk.
If I feel there's a double standard, if I don't feel I can trust her, if I'm being treated badly (includes the double standard bit, but goes a little deeper), if she's mean to people I care about (or even people I don't care about, provided I don't hate them too and it probably would have to be repeated too), if see was too needy, if she was too stupid (mind you, I probably wouldn't have gone out with her in the first place then. But hey, sometimes stupidity can be hidden), if she tried to change me without just being honest with me.
Holding back on the vag makes me very angry. I have never been in a relationship because of love. Not yet at least.
I had a crush on a guy that wanted me to stop playing games once... that was the quickest dropping of a potential fling that I've ever had. So I'm with ya here.comadorcrack said:
Other than that- a guy who gets jealous when I hang out with other guys (seeing as all but two or three of my friends and acquaintances are male, that would be very annoying) would be a deal-breaker. As would any form of overt, more-than-friendly affection to another girl (i.e. kissing). Aaaand... last but not least, a guy being too clingy. Ugh. Major turn-off. I'd dump the guy quicker than anything.
Alright, I'll give this a shot. Heres a bit cautionary note however: I'm an asshole, like goatse size.
I have only one absolute, no discussion deal-breaker and thats cheating. Been there, it sucked, not interested in ever being there again.
A list of minor ones that at least involve discussion before action is taken:
-Someone becoming dependent
-Repeated poor, life decisions
-Me becoming their 'life;' i.e., their friends disappear, they have nothing to talk about that doesn't involve something done together, etc.
-Lack of sense of humor (understanding that everyone has their no joke topics)
-Trying to change me, particularly trying to convert me; this also covers friends and the like
-Rampant, emotionalism
All that said, I'm big about calm, adult discussion. I can forgive most things so long as its been made clear that I'm not comfortable or was hurt by whatever and the other party recognizes and respects that. I'm also aware that no one is perfect, mistakes are made, by myself included, so intention tends to be a big decider on what is forgivable. If someone is intentionally being malicious, then all bets are off.
I have only one absolute, no discussion deal-breaker and thats cheating. Been there, it sucked, not interested in ever being there again.
A list of minor ones that at least involve discussion before action is taken:
-Someone becoming dependent
-Repeated poor, life decisions
-Me becoming their 'life;' i.e., their friends disappear, they have nothing to talk about that doesn't involve something done together, etc.
-Lack of sense of humor (understanding that everyone has their no joke topics)
-Trying to change me, particularly trying to convert me; this also covers friends and the like
-Rampant, emotionalism
All that said, I'm big about calm, adult discussion. I can forgive most things so long as its been made clear that I'm not comfortable or was hurt by whatever and the other party recognizes and respects that. I'm also aware that no one is perfect, mistakes are made, by myself included, so intention tends to be a big decider on what is forgivable. If someone is intentionally being malicious, then all bets are off.
Whoa, hey, this exactly!JemothSkarii said:
Highfive, I suppose?
Although I've stopped considering myself very forgiving, because I know I'm too paranoid.
I think I've found a girl who understands the conflicts you mentioned...too bad she is in a relationship. One that's probably coming to an end soon, but I'm too kind of a person to promote this outcome. Instead, I even help her coping with the problems.
Sigh.
Kudos to you good sir, very relevant ^^ I love it...This may come across as obvious or something, but it's very reminiscent of Ren and StimpyPenguinness said:
Gah! I've been in the exact same position! Are you stalking me!?Bloodstain said:
...or are you ME?
Cheating as defined by my standards which can be either emotional or physical,p sychological or physical abuse to me or my loved ones, trying to rob of me of my independence, stealing from me or my loved ones, treating me as a subordinate, extreme jealousy, trying to prevent me from academic pursuits, and probably a couple of other things would be a deal breaker.
if only you were my X...i was at my prom...and a bunch of dudes were dancing in a cirle (WHAT we were in classes with each other for 4 years its been worse than that) and 2 girls jump into the middle of the circle and dance.....she...lets just say almost ripped one of there heads off with here eyes....yeahhh...and flirting is hard to stop so good for you for not killing him if he flirts...sometimes its just a guy being niceEmileeElectro said:
If I caught her sleeping with some other dude I would just walk away without saying anything. Kissing some guy on the mouth or affectionate hugging (the special hugs reserved for a bf/gf moment) and so on and I become irritated. I'll call her on it, if she apologises and swears not to do it again, slick, if she reoffends I will simply tell her to go f**k him instead if thats how she feels.
That said lip kissing is an automatic cut down, thats an obvious show of deep interest.
I dont care if she wants to change me, greater people than my parents have tried and failed and if your own parents cant change you I doubt anyone can.
If she wants to hate on my friends, fair enough I have like 3 and they're douchebags by my own reckoning. She wants me to quit games I will but in turn she has to sacrifice something she considers to be a part of her life that she enjoys, if she cant do it feel free to take your one sided understanding of relationships and find some spineless desperate fool who WILL obey you.
so I guess it boils down to the same stuff as everyone else:
Broken Loyalty, distrust for any reason and being one sided and totally selfish.
That said lip kissing is an automatic cut down, thats an obvious show of deep interest.
I dont care if she wants to change me, greater people than my parents have tried and failed and if your own parents cant change you I doubt anyone can.
If she wants to hate on my friends, fair enough I have like 3 and they're douchebags by my own reckoning. She wants me to quit games I will but in turn she has to sacrifice something she considers to be a part of her life that she enjoys, if she cant do it feel free to take your one sided understanding of relationships and find some spineless desperate fool who WILL obey you.
so I guess it boils down to the same stuff as everyone else:
Broken Loyalty, distrust for any reason and being one sided and totally selfish.
sleeping with another guy is instant dealbreaker.. Other Woman tho.. I dunno, if i could watch i guess it's ok 
Kissing another guy can be a dealbreaker, depends on the guy and level of friendship, and ofc the type of kiss.
And forbidding me to do things, i had a ex that did that once.. Relationship over. I would never forbid a partner to do anything, as i would never expect to be forbidden to do anything. I would let my feelings about whatever it is be heard tho, and then let it be up to her if she could live with the consequences - and ofc vice versa.
Kissing another guy can be a dealbreaker, depends on the guy and level of friendship, and ofc the type of kiss.
And forbidding me to do things, i had a ex that did that once.. Relationship over. I would never forbid a partner to do anything, as i would never expect to be forbidden to do anything. I would let my feelings about whatever it is be heard tho, and then let it be up to her if she could live with the consequences - and ofc vice versa.
