Oly J said:
Hi all, I'm just curious about something, from an early age we're conditioned to have a (hopefully) healthy fear of adults, particularly those in a position of some kind of authority...
I know your post said you graduated in 2009, and I suspect that explains most of this point, but I have to note: we do not have to condition children to fear authority. You will never again in your life know the fear that a typical child knows when confronted with an angry parent or teacher. Sure, maybe the angry axe-wielding maniac is chasing you through the abandoned insane asylum where you were necking with your sweetheart, but if the police knew about this, they'd try to stop him. Maybe it's the police themselves who are the angry maniacs, chasing you to get their guns back and furious that they had to borrow axes from the fire department, but if the public knew about this, they'd want them stopped. You will always, going forward, have the knowledge that there is or would be sympathy and help, even if it's not currently in a position to do anything; if nothing else, people of the future, reading about you in a history book, will feel you were wronged.
You don't have that as a child. People will claim that children have no idea of mortality, and they're (usually) not wrong; but the thought of "trouble" or "BIG trouble" comes to much the same thing. But there is no sympathy to be had, and much of the time, you don't even understand (or fully understand) why you're being punished. You'll simply be periodically struck down by mysterious gods who will then claim to love you, and you'll wonder why the world has gone mad.
But even though the fear is lessened, and much less pure, it hasn't gone away; in a typical school setting, fear rules all hearts. The students know that one fairly major behavioral breach can cripple their chances of college acceptance; a serious blow indeed when many places won't even hire you as a dishwasher if you don't have a degree. The teachers know that one student complaining of manhandling, or worse, sexual misconduct, even if totally unfounded, can destroy their career. The parents and administrators all know that one lawsuit can mess up their lives in a hundred different ways. It wasn't always this way, but I'd lay good money it always sucked; it certainly did in my time.
The answer I'd give to your broader question, however, I think has already been (almost) given:
FalloutJack said:
Well, the ones that are spoiled brats and unrepentent bullies definitely need to be taken out of their comfort zone. They need a case of having control removed from them so they can understand the feelings they put others in. This is a case-by-case basis thing, but the kids that are properly rotten need to be shaped up or shipped out.
It's just that this applies to teachers just as much as kids.