How to break this to my family? Repost

[ComicsAreWeird]

If i was in your situation, i´d pick one relative to whom i would trust the most (in my case it would be my brother in your case perhaps your sister?). I would talk to that person and together we´d talk to the parents. That way it wouldnt be like a "collective shock" and you´d have someone to support you when you broke the news to your folks.

Since i´m straight and cant really relate to your dillema, i cant really tell if this would be the best way to proceed, only perhaps the most logical way. I do wish you the best of luck. It might be tough but i think after that, you´ll feel relieved.

PIXAR might help. Watch this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4a4MR8oI_B8&feature=player_embedded

 

[Lt. Dragunov]

Just tell them, just tell them... not an easy this to just walk up and tell your parents that sortta thing. I would recomend seeing how they really thing about it and try to be... well sneaky about it, say your writing a report on it and you need the opinion from someone and see what they say. Now thats NOT a sure to let you know what they stand on it, but i can give you a basic idea on what they think. then try to plan your next move from there. And trust me sometimes people need time to adjust to things.

 

[Lt. Dragunov]

Just tell them.

They may react badly at first. However, they're your family and they'll love you always.

I don't mean to be "that guy" but in alot of cases you would think that, but thats being kindda shallow on how humans can be to each other even if they are family.

 

[SpaceGhostPoncherello]

If you don't know how they feel about homosexuality, bring the subject up in passing, like, talk about that Ugandan list of 100 homosexuals, or something else that's been in the news. Judge whether you should tell them based on their reaction. If they're not okay with homosexuality then there isn't much point in telling them.

If you already know they're okay with homosexuality, I'd say just do it. There isn't really a right way. One day I just came home from work, my mum was in the living room, and I just thought out of the blue, What the hell do I have to lose, and told her. "..so?" Hugs, tears, the end.
Sure it's hard to get yourself to say it, but you just have to force yourself through it I guess.

Unless they're a bunch of gay-haters. Then I'd suggest to keep shush.
I hope it helps. And good luck dude.

 

[zombiesinc]

Please Escapists help me >.<
(Please notify me if im going against anything because ive been on the Escapists for sometime but im still new to posting)

Rather than reposting the thread, PM'ing a moderator (preferably Aylaine or I) is usually best. But no, you're not doing anything wrong, and there's no need to apologize.

OT - One thing to keep in mind is that no matter how open, or accepting your family seems towards other people who may not be 'socially acceptable'... that simply isn't always the case when it comes to their own family. I don't mean to scare you into believing that your parents will act differently than previously seen, but it is a possibility that I feel shouldn't be ignored.

I had a gay best friend for years, constantly spent time with him, and my parents were happy to see my socializing and having fun. Several years later when I told them I was bi, they were shocked, confused, and more than anything, angry and in denial. It was a little shocking for me too... 'cause their reactions were quite the opposite of what I expected.

Of course, this may not happen with you, but I do think it's best to "prepare for the worst, hope for the best".

Sit your parents down one night and tell them you'd like to talk to them, then let them know how you feel. Hopefully it goes well, but do remember that their initial shock will cause them to possibly over-react, and even say some hurtful things.

 

[Canid117]

Just tell them? If they can't accept it then thats their problem not yours.

 

[OneOfTheMichael's]

First question, what country are you from. Secondly, are they religious.

Two crucial details.

Whole family is Colombian
My family here in America is Christian
My family in Colombia and most of Miami is Catholic
Edit:Also,my dad doesn't believe in being Bi
He believes someone is either Straight Or Gay

Just tell them that you get more action that way...
OK no sorry bad response but have you brought up a bi topic around him before and how did he react on it.
I 'm not sure on what i would do so its kinda up to you.

 

[Saxm13]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8cxJMpDVmE&feature=BF&list=PL4EE89394453CE8E0&index=6

Sorry couldn't resist!
Such a brilliant movie!
XD


Best of luck!

 

[Triscut900]

Go to the escapist user group furrehs tomorrow alot of us there are bi and would give great advice

 

[General_Potatoes]

Yeah just tell them. They won't like it at first but hey, maybe they'll get used to it.

 

[Icarion (aka Stockholm)]

The way I break news to my family is I tell my dad (who is generaly more accepting/understanding/I'm closer to 'cause I'm a guy) then I tell my mom. That way both aren't (if its bad) extremely pissed at me. Not that your news is bad. That's my advice. Tell which ever one your closer to first then tell the other. Might not be the best advice though.

 

[Nerdy Seraphim]

I came out to my mom during the summer (which she actually been knew...just simply waited for me to say something. XD) but when my sibling found out....well....lets just say that some drama ensued. He wanted to fight me, this & that. etc... anywho, if u believe that they'll handle it well, then by all means go for it. Just be prepared for whatever comes your way. Whether its positive or negative. I wish the best of luck to you

 

[Legion IV]

Is it really neccisary? Unless you actually want to get involved with somone why does this matter? Lol like with the info i give my parents they may think am intrested in neither sexs. it dosent really matter with me cause well am not trying to get involved with any girl. Sure they know am straight but the point am getting across is. What will this change?

 

[Xyliss]

Shave 'I'm Bi' into a cats fur an tell your parents you bought them a new cat...everyone looooves kittehs. They can't possible be mad at you!

On a serious note, I can't be much help to you I'm afraid, but good luck and I hope it all works out for you

 

[RatRace123]

First question, what country are you from. Secondly, are they religious.

Two crucial details.

Whole family is Colombian
My family here in America is Christian
My family in Colombia and most of Miami is Catholic
Edit:Also,my dad doesn't believe in being Bi
He believes someone is either Straight Or Gay

I hate to say it, but to be frank, you'll probably have a very tough time telling them of what you are.
It's not good to keep it secret though, so you need to tell them; just be open and honest, and hopefully everything will work out.

 

[spartan1077]

snippy

I only broke my sexual orientation(bi) to my mom and she didn't care. She is a Roman Catholic person but I knew she didn't care if someone was gay or not(her bestest friend in Highschool was gay) so make sure you know their thoughts and give it non-chalantly(ninjaed). And as your dad not believing in Bis go show him this scale-

Science proves it!

 

[RocksW]

What age are you man? I dont really know enough about the whole situation to say, but it might just be better to not tell them until you're out from under their roof. Im sure you want to get it out, but maybe itd be better to tell your friends first? As I said though, I really have no idea. Good luck anyway I hope it all works out!

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Why do they need to be informed? Straight people don't walk up to their parents and announce that they're straight, do they? All you'll do by announcing it is reinforcing the notion that being anything other than heterosexuality isn't natural. By extension, you could get a needlessly awkward reaction that will probably strain the dinner-table talk and fuel piss-taking for years to come. Make a big deal of it, and the shit will hit the fan.

Not that I know about this sort of thing. I'm not gay or anything.