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Hey guys, me and my girlfriend of a few months just broke up, and I'll and spare you the details (and the annoying self pity).

Anyway, when you end a relationship or get rejected, how do you get over it quickly and make the person seem undesirable? I could use a a few tips/smartass comments/unrelated rants on gender politics warranting a suspension from the mods.

Oh, and inb4 copious amounts of porn. Not as effective as one might think...
 

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Should really be here [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/index/538-Advice-Forum] but it's cool.

Anyway, there is no sure fire to get over someone. It'll happen when it happens and you can't really speed up the process.

From my own experience I just try to ignore them and put myself out there more, like go to stuff I didn't go to (more parties etc) to try and get them out of my mind. I also get rid of anything related to them; shirts, gifts, books, anything like that I just box up and tape it shut. Hope this helps
 

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I remember that without failures and pain, we cant enjoy the good things in our lives. I also remember that i am myself, and my life is my own, and that through that ill heal as time goes by.

i also eat a tub of ice cream, cry my eyes out for days, and live under the covers when im not moping around work. xD
 

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Glass Joe the Champ said:
Hey guys, me and my girlfriend of a few months just broke up, and I'll and spare you the details (and the annoying self pity).

Anyway, when you end a relationship or get rejected, how do you get over it quickly and make the person seem undesirable? I could use a a few tips/smartass comments/unrelated rants on gender politics warranting a suspension from the mods.

Oh, and inb4 copious amounts of porn. Not as effective as one might think...
Get out and do social things. If you talk and socialize with other people for hours a day, you'll feel less of the emotional attachment to the person.

Look in the newspaper, find some concerts/restaurants/whatever to go to with friends. Or you could do your own thing and have a poker night or something like that. Take up a new hobby that involves people, if you wish.

Just make sure you're being socially busy, and who knows, maybe you'll find someone better than her.
 

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Glass Joe the Champ said:
Hey guys, me and my girlfriend of a few months just broke up, and I'll and spare you the details (and the annoying self pity).
Thank you for that!

Glass Joe the Champ said:
Anyway, when you end a relationship or get rejected, how do you get over it quickly and make the person seem undesirable? I could use a a few tips/smartass comments/unrelated rants on gender politics warranting a suspension from the mods.

Oh, and inb4 copious amounts of porn. Not as effective as one might think...
It's not like there's an omnipotent surefire way of going about it asides giving it the time it takes.

Just remember that there's plenty of fish in the sea, and if you could catch one then you'll certainly be able to catch another.
 

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Everytime you look at her, just imagine that she's sleeping with every guy you see around her when you see her and you get the idea into your mind that she's a worthless degraded whore who cant keep her legs closed.

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say what you want, gets results.
 

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copious amounts of po-- DAMN!
Just kidding.
Anyways, back to the OT: Do some more social events, find things you like to do (play music, go out with friends, anything really) and focus more on it. Find something to be passionate about, and go along with it.
 

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emeraldrafael said:
Everytime you look at her, just imagine that she's sleeping with every guy you see around her when you see her and you get the idea into your mind that she's a worthless degraded whore who cant keep her legs closed.
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Nah, but that's suprisingly effective advice. Better than the usual "other fish in the sea" kind of thing. Thanks :D
 

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I know you don't want to go into specifics, but I do feel like it needs to be asked: Who broke up with who?

Did you dump her?
Did she dump you?
Was is an angry break-up on both sides?
Was it a mutual agreement?

I'll try and help, but I think the type of breakup greatly affects the advice that needs to be given.
 

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Imagine her with a thick mustache when you see her. Kind of childish, but at least it will give you a giggle or two. And laughter is the best medicine.
 

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Go to the gym! Seriously. Go. Now. You will feel better.

Alternatively, if you are ignoring my awesome advice (single teardrop) - Your best bet is to just do something you enjoy. Make yourself better at SOMETHING. Doesn't really matter what as long as it is a somewhat achievable goal and you have to work hard to do it.

Guarantee you'll start thinking about this person a lot less if you have something awesome to do. Like going to the gym!
 

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"i got it down to an art, Lonely sex with a desperate heart. The way to get over someone is to get under someone else" It's a line from the song "No mercy for swine". It's good advice. Go out and find someone else.
 

Kristina.K.

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Well, when I broke up with my boy friend of two years, I enveloped myself in video games and movies. My passions for my creative outlets ran dry, so I indulged in already established worlds of fantasy.

J-Horror movies were the most appealing for some reason.

Because I don't know the context of the break-up, I really can't offer concrete advice. Though I can say that I do not agree with some of the above posts.

Don't date other people until you're ready. Dating [http://jxliu.com/click/?s=63452&c=512919] too soon may cause you to focus on looking for people with the similar traits of your ex -which may lead to you overlooking someone great. Take the time alone to get to know your needs a little better. The best way to approach a relationship is to understand your own needs before committing. After you know yourself, you will probably find it easier to understand the right type of person for you.

Having sex with someone else so soon is not going to help. I see a lot of bitter people post answers like this. First of all, its dangerous. Secondly, it only makes you feel better momentarily. I have been there, and done that. It was not worth it.

I don't mean to sound as though I am belittling your experience, but don't let a couple of months of experience bring you down for long. I found that when I wasn't watching movies and playing video games, that I was trying to be as productive as I could be. Getting more involved with my family helped too. I didn't ask them for advice, I just tried to have fun times with them. It helped me a lot. I hope that you have found some of this rambling useful.

*if there is a link in this post, I have tried to remove it several times. I think my computer may have a virus.