How to hit on girls on the go

[Baron von Blitztank]

Well a cloth soaked in chloroform and dragging her unconscious body to your cave by her hair sounds like a decent option.
If you can't get the chloroform then I'd also recommend the large wooden club.

 

[veloper]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

This thread is comedy gold.

The cynic is right though. Since the PUA only has the girl's looks to go by and there can be only one intent, the barb is well deserved.
In this case, the guy isn't even targetting strange girls in the right place, which is a bar or a club.

The proper alternative is dating women you already know from dancing lessons or other activities, so you got more than just looks to go by and the whole thing atleast has a chance of becoming serious.

The biggest laugh here is that if someone needs to ask how to become a PUA, he obviously lacks the natural talent and features to have any success as a PUA.

 

[Athinira]

Oh gods, the run on sentences...ugh...Sorry.

So....yeah. Friends?

EDIT: actually I do need to fix something. As I've said, I don't have hard data on who can and can't take rejection, neither of us does. I've met more people who can than can't, maybe the ratio is reversed for you, but it would be difficult for either of us to prove what the answer is for MOST people.

I'm actually very sad that you interpret my method as a "safety first" approach, when it has nothing to do with 'playing it safe'. Engaging in conversation with other people on your own initiative using charm, wit and humor to try and impress has never been 'playing it safe'. Rather, I'd say it's about "doing things properly".

I don't want to be an arrogant asshole and say that your approach is "wrong" and is never going to work. Of course it is. I will say, however, that your approach is based on luck, while my approach is based people skills. That's part of the reason why I'm saying that you're not setting things up for a happy ending with your approach, because you aren't using your social abilities, and like it or not, you are going to need those sooner or later anyway if you want to hope to get anywhere. First impressions are important. And by important, i mean REALLY important. In fact, so important that most people are likely to judge you by your looks, body language and social status before they have ever spoken a single word in a conversation with you. That's why it's important the first time you meet someone you want to impress that you communicate your (hopefully excellent) social abilities right off the bat. Simply asking someone for a date or a number isn't going to do that (although it can definitely show off confidence).

Even if you don't get initial succes, practicing your people skills is a very important sideeffect, especially for people who aren't very good socially to begin with. Ask me about that, I'm a diagnosed Asperger's patient. I was a virgin until i was 19 (I'm almost 24 now). But i went out and started practicing my social skills, and suddenly things started turning massively around for me. It took me a lot longer than most other people, but not only did i start meeting and dating a lot more girls, my improved behavior also helped me in several others areas, including job interviews and general social status. Improving your people skills is one of the single most important favors you can do yourself, and the ability to meet people and go talk to them even if they don't know you is a very important one to practice. You don't get any practice done with an automated "Hi I've seen you around, you seem nice. Can i have your number" line.

But yeah.... friends!

 

[Kathinka]

"hey, tell me, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

 

[Blow_Pop]

start a conversation. That's the best advice you can get. And the best way to start it is to say hi and introduce yourself....Just don't come off as desperate when you talk to her

 

[feycreature]

Oh gods, the run on sentences...ugh...Sorry.

So....yeah. Friends?

EDIT: actually I do need to fix something. As I've said, I don't have hard data on who can and can't take rejection, neither of us does. I've met more people who can than can't, maybe the ratio is reversed for you, but it would be difficult for either of us to prove what the answer is for MOST people.

I'm actually very sad that you interpret my method as a "safety first" approach, when it has nothing to do with 'playing it safe'. Engaging in conversation with other people on your own initiative using charm, wit and humor to try and impress has never been 'playing it safe'. Rather, I'd say it's about "doing things properly".

I don't want to be an arrogant asshole and say that your approach is "wrong" and is never going to work. Of course it is. I will say, however, that your approach is based on luck, while my approach is based people skills. That's part of the reason why I'm saying that you're not setting things up for a happy ending with your approach, because you aren't using your social abilities, and like it or not, you are going to need those sooner or later anyway if you want to hope to get anywhere. First impressions are important. And by important, i mean REALLY important. In fact, so important that most people are likely to judge you by your looks, body language and social status before they have ever spoken a single word in a conversation with you. That's why it's important the first time you meet someone you want to impress that you communicate your (hopefully excellent) social abilities right off the bat. Simply asking someone for a date or a number isn't going to do that (although it can definitely show off confidence).

Even if you don't get initial succes, practicing your people skills is a very important sideeffect, especially for people who aren't very good socially to begin with. Ask me about that, I'm a diagnosed Asperger's patient. I was a virgin until i was 19 (I'm almost 24 now). But i went out and started practicing my social skills, and suddenly things started turning massively around for me. It took me a lot longer than most other people, but not only did i start meeting and dating a lot more girls, my improved behavior also helped me in several others areas, including job interviews and general social status. Improving your people skills is one of the single most important favors you can do yourself, and the ability to meet people and go talk to them even if they don't know you is a very important one to practice. You don't get any practice done with an automated "Hi I've seen you around, you seem nice. Can i have your number" line.

But yeah.... friends!

I would greatly agree that people skills are important, but I don't think that being straightforward (to a degree) means not having any. If you come across as using a "line" or being overly familiar or rude, then yeah that's no good. However, a sincere, appropriate compliment and a polite request are rarely going to make a bad impression. Again, some women are paranoid, and some people are just kind of antisocial, and both will respond unfavourably to any social contact from a stranger. But those who don't have an extra barrier in the way are unlikely to think "Man, what a jerk, how dare he say I'm pretty/look interesting etc. and ask if I'd like to go out for coffee or ask for my number!?" The devil's in the details, and if one does have particular difficulty with social interactions it's hard to know what variant of the above is flattering and what's importunate. I mean, kudos for having turned that around for yourself, that sounds a hell of an undertaking. That difficulty will apply to almost any interaction, though, and if someone has, as you have, figured out the social cues and standards, then you already know what not to say, when to make an exit and so on.

If anything, I'd say the big disconnect here is the emphasis on the "ending." You're right that my approach trusts more to luck, but I guess I don't really see that as a failing. Assuming again that you haven't already gotten invested in a particular outcome and that your self-worth isn't riding on success, there is very little to lose. Either you've wasted a few minutes taking a shot or you've done something else with those five minutes, but the commitment is pretty minimal. There is a slight potential for embarrassment, if she has a boyfriend or a girlfriend who's right there and you didn't notice, or she turns out to be your long-lost sister or something. Even then, it's a momentary glitch the seriousness of which depends entirely on how seriously you take it. I guess that's the thing for me. It "works" better than not saying anything, and unless you're in a pretty leisurely setting where you both have time to chat those are your options. And I've always been one who'd rather risk and screw up (and I have screwed up plenty) than miss things. In the case of most risks, especially social ones, nothing fatal will happen and something lovely might.

 

[Mikeyfell]

Read and learn.

You're walking and you see a girl.
Stop her and say.
"Excuse me miss. Do you have a map? Because I just got lost in your eyes, and I was trying to find my way to your vagina. Could you give me directions?"

Works every time
At least I think so, I haven't tried it.

 

[Daffy F]

To be fair, some girls are just going to glare at you and say screw off

The one time I tried to talk to a girl I didn't know, and this happens. Maybe it's me...
I guess it's a confidence thing.

In the case of most risks, especially social ones, nothing fatal will happen and something lovely might.

This makes me feel quite good though.

 

[Klagermeister]

If this is a girl you pass regularly, I might suggest, giving a quick gaze at her eyes, then about a half-second sweep down the rest of her body, with a slight grin. If she notices this, smile even more, and wink if you're confident enough. This subtlety makes them anxious, in a good way!

Also, she may even approach YOU next time. I've tried this a few times, and it WORKS. Give it a shot.

 

[Daffy F]

First of all, people don't like being called up by other people they barely met

He was talking about giving her your number. That's the best way. Then she can decide if she wants to get to know you better.

 

[Athinira]

First of all, people don't like being called up by other people they barely met

He was talking about giving her your number. That's the best way. Then she can decide if she wants to get to know you better.

Except that this gives pretty much a 95%+ chance (yeye, i know 90% of all statistics on the internet is made on the spot, but i think this one is pretty close) that it won't happen, because they simply won't bother. Assuming they don't brush you off initially, they are either not going to write down your number, or write it down then forget about it. In that case, asking for her number is going to net you more success, even if most don't take kindly to being called up. If you just straigth up goes up and gives up your number, it won't lead to anything because they will decide not to. It's a terrible way. Period.

The best way to do it: Get her to ASK for your number.

Only way to accomplish this is to spark her interest, and unless you look incredibly good, are rich or have some other apparent surface traits that attracts her, showing that you have an awesome personality is the only way to accomplish this.

 

[Lilani]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

I dunno, as a female I find it rather creepy when a guy asks me out the first time I've met him. Even if he knows me--even if he sees me every single day on the way to class--the fact of the matter is I don't know him. What reason do I have to even consider accepting his proposal? I know nothing about his character, and I've been given no time to even consider him or think about how I feel about him. It's really rather selfish and a bit conceited when you think of it from that perspective; expecting a girl to not only consider you for a romantic relationship, but also hope for a positive response based solely on your having prior knowledge on her and liking what you see. How about just trying to make friends first, rather than demanding a relationship from the get-go? I mean, what if she doesn't even want a relationship at the time?

 

[DarkRyter]

Go up to her. Wave your hand in front of your face a few times. State that you are invisible.

She points out that you are not invisible.

Act shocked and introduce yourself to change the subject.

Initiate Swag.

 

[eclipsed_chemistry]

You know what's even better for confidence and self-esteem than never being rejected? Realizing that rejection doesn't make you a worse prospect, or less attractive, or less worthy of love.

You know, that doesn't really work when pretty much every woman you meet treats you like an automaton or a child (if a precocious one) at best, and a barely-sapient, grotesque, horrific monster whose very presence violates the laws of the universe at worst. The way I've been treated by the vast majority of women in the course of normal conversation doesn't exactly convince me that making the first move is ever a good idea.

Maybe when women stop treating me like a misshapen freak, I'll be convinced that I'm not a bad prospect, monstrously unattractive and that for me to ever receive romantic satisfaction isn't a profound violation of the laws of logic and sense. I'm not holding out hope, though.

Completely agreed. I'm a little self-conscious since I'm a big guy (6'1", 210 lbs from sports and working out) and sometimes girls treat me like I'm Lurch or a fucking ogre and it just kills me. I'm a kind, friendly person, but damnit, I don't like being treated like that.

 

[Powereaver]

im tired of all the hate facial hair gets... i keep a beard because i think i look terrible without one and its for personal comfort so all i get from women my own age is shave it off ya hairy *expletive* and such .. and im always getting mistaken for being tons older so it makes it really hard to try to talk to women my own age because they think im some older creep trying to crack onto them which im not.

 

[Valagetti]

"HEY EXCUSE ME, BUT DOES THIS SMELL LIKE CHOROFORM TO YOU?"
*put dampened rag of choroform in front of desired individuals sensory organs and... no really, I can't follow up with this joke its too sad*

 

[Prismatic Baron]

Assuming I had the desire to date anyone, I would try something along the lines of:

Start with a compliment. "Nice (Hair, ear-rings, shirt, ect.)" If they respond favorably, extend hand in greeting and introduce yourself. From there, engage like you have been told how to with people your whole life. If the conversation goes well, invite them out to get food. Food has been the universal language of love since Hunter/Gatherer times.

Part of the problem is that since at least the 90s men have been told that expressing any interest in a woman makes them a creepy, sexist jerk.

 

[Prismatic Baron]

I dunno, as a female I find it rather creepy when a guy asks me out the first time I've met him. Even if he knows me--even if he sees me every single day on the way to class--the fact of the matter is I don't know him. What reason do I have to even consider accepting his proposal? I know nothing about his character, and I've been given no time to even consider him or think about how I feel about him. It's really rather selfish and a bit conceited when you think of it from that perspective; expecting a girl to not only consider you for a romantic relationship, but also hope for a positive response based solely on your having prior knowledge on her and liking what you see. How about just trying to make friends first, rather than demanding a relationship from the get-go? I mean, what if she doesn't even want a relationship at the time?

If she does not want a relationship at the time she can say, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested in dating right now, but thank you for the compliment."

Why do people get so hung up on how awkward it must be for girls to turn someone down? Think about how much courage he had to work up to ask in the first place. The only information he had about the girl is the same information she has about him. Scratch that, she has far more information about him than he does about her, because at least she knows that he is interested in her.