How to let go?

[zajohnson]

Long story short, I was broken up with some time ago. But, I can't seem to really forget about her entirely. It's kinda taken a toll on me over the past few months.
We dated for a while, but I can't help but still miss old times with her.
I talk to my friends about this, but they say it juts "takes time"
But, I really just want to forget her. It's been holding me back, and it sure ain't gonna help me in the future. and I want to move on. She wasn't the one, and forgetting her seems to be the only solution.
So, anybody got some strategies on what I can do to keep myself going forward? If anyone has gone through similar circumstances.
Thanks!

 

[Son of a Mitch]

Yea, I've been there too. Really sucks feeling like that. For me, it helped to just try to find someone else. Look for another woman that you feel like you might like to be around and see where things go. That's where I'm at right now, and yea it's hard, but the longer you feel like this, the less people will want to be around you.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Long story short, I was broken up with some time ago. But, I can't seem to really forget about her entirely. It's kinda taken a toll on me over the past few months.
We dated for a while, but I can't help but still miss old times with her.
I talk to my friends about this, but they say it juts "takes time"
But, I really just want to forget her. It's been holding me back, and it sure ain't gonna help me in the future. and I want to move on. She wasn't the one, and forgetting her seems to be the only solution.
So, anybody got some strategies on what I can do to keep myself going forward? If anyone has gone through similar circumstances.
Thanks!

Just pour your time and energy into something you really enjoy. Play a sport with some friends, read a new book series, write a short story, or learn how to cook. It can also be very beneficial to take some time off to go take advantage of the outdoors for a while. Get away from the stress of everyday life and go hiking or camping. Do some fishing or hunting. You can also do some kayaking or climb a mountain. I have found the wilderness to be the best medicine for a heavy heart.

 

[CommieX]

Yea, I've been there too. Really sucks feeling like that. For me, it helped to just try to find someone else. Look for another woman that you feel like you might like to be around and see where things go. That's where I'm at right now, and yea it's hard, but the longer you feel like this, the less people will want to be around you.

No offense, but I'd advise against this. Throwing yourself into a new relationship when you're not emotionally ready can lead to someone getting hurt, and no one wants to be a rebound. But this works for some people, so what do I know.

What helps me is being social. Surround yourself with friends, have some get-togethers or a party. Go out into the world, meet some new people, have a good time. Joining a club of some kind can help too (for me, it's community theater, so if that seems like it might be your bag give it a shot, if not there's a bajillion other activities you can look into).

Hope that helps. I've been there too, and unfortunately, the only foolproof solution is time.

 

[Son of a Mitch]

Yea, I've been there too. Really sucks feeling like that. For me, it helped to just try to find someone else. Look for another woman that you feel like you might like to be around and see where things go. That's where I'm at right now, and yea it's hard, but the longer you feel like this, the less people will want to be around you.

No offense, but I'd advise against this. Throwing yourself into a new relationship when you're not emotionally ready can lead to someone getting hurt, and no one wants to be a rebound. But this works for some people, so what do I know.

I would agree with you there, but from what it sounds like from the OP, this happened a long enough time ago that it's time to start looking for someone else. If it was right after a break up or something else emotionally frustrating, then yea, just try to forget about it for a while, do things you enjoy, be around friends and try to get over it. But at some point, you just need to stop feeling sorry about it, and move on. You might just find someone else that you'll like just as much or more.

 

[tsb247]

It does simple, "Take time." Eventually, the good memories will lost their potency and be just like any other memories.

My best advice is to not regret anything. Regret tends to chain one to these kinds of situations and keep them there for years on end. I have been battling regrets over a long dead relationship for a decade now. It doesn't do me any good, but escaping is difficult.

The best thing you can do is to keep yourself busy - hang out with friends, play video games, get/rediscover a lost hobby, etc. Don't give your mind the chance to wander back to the subject.