how to stay positive?

[M-E-D The Poet]

Disclaimer : This is not an EMO topic and pathetic lame posters can go F** themselves politely

How does one stay positive if ones entire life has been A spiral of misery?
This I mean from enduring verbal and physical abuse as a kid (Read daily beatings at home and at school)
To standing a shanking in a public room
To the passing away of friends via suicide
to 3 years of friendship and okayish life (filled with sickness like cancer still)
Back to a downwards spiral of daily having to hear that everybody hates you
Knowing that people are blatantly lying to your face
and just openly being betrayed
Losing the motivation for the college you worked for so hard to get in
and just going "Fuck all I could just die right? " whenever you're alone in the dark too long
(But being smart enough to not actually do it, just tormented by the idea)


if Someone could help me think of a way to regain my positive stance for a year that might be mighty fine

After that I'm movign away anyway to start over somewhere else

 

[ShindoL Shill]

moving away will seriously help. not much else you can do.
and uh...
its a really cheery show, so try watching it. it might cheer you up...

 

[Bobic]

Disclaimer : This is not an EMO topic

Sure sounds like one. . .

Now, you may think I'm just being a dick for no reason. But I find that humour, even if it's at the expense of some depressed guy on the internet, is a great way to keep yourself cheery. Well, maybe cheery is a bit too far, but it can at least help you feel a little less pathetic and suicidal.

But you want to know the real secret that keeps me from the suicidal thoughts. Anti depressants and anti psychotics. Yes, I am that pathetic, but doh well, life goes on.

Seriously, if it gets to be too much, talk to a doctor, any assistance from here, no matter how well meaning, will only be a small, shallow little pick me up whose effects will never last longer than a day.

At any rate, good luck, hope your move leads to a new better life. Just hang in there.

 

[M-E-D The Poet]

Disclaimer : This is not an EMO topic

Sure sounds like one. . .

Now, you may think I'm just being a dick for no reason. But I find that humour, even if it's at the expense of some depressed guy on the internet, is a great way to keep yourself cheery. Well, maybe cheery is a bit too far, but it can at least help you feel a little less pathetic and suicidal.

But you want to know the real secret that keeps me from the suicidal thoughts. Anti depressants and anti psychotics. Yes, I am that pathetic, but doh well, life goes on.

Seriously, if it gets to be too much, talk to a doctor, any assistance from here, no matter how well meaning, will only be a small, shallow little pick me up whose effects will never last longer than a day.

At any rate, good luck, hope your move leads to a new better life. Just hang in there.

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

 

[WalrusPowers]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtCwNa4Ra1U&list=LL_Uz_Cp46Oo3xHw13Snh3ww&index=17

I watch this whenever I feel down. Might help.

 

[Thaluikhain]

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

What's the difference? Emos would firmly believe that all their complaints were justified. That's one of the main reasons for hating them, they are crying wolf.

 

[M-E-D The Poet]

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

What's the difference? Emos would firmly believe that all their complaints were justified. That's one of the main reasons for hating them, they are crying wolf.

fair play

you can go hating if you want it doesn't matter I just asked for some advice to stay positive, not wether or not it's justified for you to call me emo

 

[Bobic]

Disclaimer : This is not an EMO topic

Sure sounds like one. . .

Now, you may think I'm just being a dick for no reason. But I find that humour, even if it's at the expense of some depressed guy on the internet, is a great way to keep yourself cheery. Well, maybe cheery is a bit too far, but it can at least help you feel a little less pathetic and suicidal.

But you want to know the real secret that keeps me from the suicidal thoughts. Anti depressants and anti psychotics. Yes, I am that pathetic, but doh well, life goes on.

Seriously, if it gets to be too much, talk to a doctor, any assistance from here, no matter how well meaning, will only be a small, shallow little pick me up whose effects will never last longer than a day.

At any rate, good luck, hope your move leads to a new better life. Just hang in there.

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

I'm sure most emos would say that they are sad for valid reasons (regardless of how valid their reasons actually are)

Anyway, it was a silly little joke, don't pay much attention to it, the rest is the important stuff.

Anyway, more advice. Given we are on a site called the escapist, that focuses on videogames, I'm gonna say try using videogames as escapism. Seriously, find a nice long RPG or possibly even an MMORPG (steam has plenty of free ones) and just distract yourself from life as best you can for the next year. (Don't abandon your studies though, that would be dumb)

 

[i7omahawki]

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

What's the difference? Emos would firmly believe that all their complaints were justified. That's one of the main reasons for hating them, they are crying wolf.

...That's the difference then.

Emo, when used as a derogatory term, means bitching about something which is basically irrelevant, blown up to look important. A belief and a rational justification are two separate things.

OT: Sounds like you have gone through a lot of stuff, and I honestly can't compare my life with yours, but I don't know that 'staying positive' is always a good thing. Obviously, if it gets you through a tough time and there was no other option, then it's sure as hell the right thing to do. But if not, try to picture things realistically, with maybe a bit of emphasis on hope for the future.

Deluding yourself (not saying that you are doing this) only makes things worse, and ignoring the negative side of life isn't enjoying it, it's ignoring (possibly way over) half of it.

 

[Tragedy's Rebellion]

What's the difference? Emos would firmly believe that all their complaints were justified. That's one of the main reasons for hating them, they are crying wolf.

Your disgusting hatred is poison.

OT: You have to remember that most of the time other people's opinions don't matter (especially when you don't care for them). Are you happy for the person you are? Do you think you can find something to live for in this cesspool we call Earth? If yes, then that's all that matters.

Don't let other people dissuade you from the fact that you are a good person (if you are a good person that is). They can't ever reach your level anyway.

 

[M-E-D The Poet]

it's not emo, cause it's not having to do with me going "BOOHOO I FEEL SO BAD FOR MYSELF" more than "shit just keeps happening and even strong people have a breaking point"

What's the difference? Emos would firmly believe that all their complaints were justified. That's one of the main reasons for hating them, they are crying wolf.

...That's the difference then.

Emo, when used as a derogatory term, means bitching about something which is basically irrelevant, blown up to look important. A belief and a rational justification are two separate things.

OT: Sounds like you have gone through a lot of stuff, and I honestly can't compare my life with yours, but I don't know that 'staying positive' is always a good thing. Obviously, if it gets you through a tough time and there was no other option, then it's sure as hell the right thing to do. But if not, try to picture things realistically, with maybe a bit of emphasis on hope for the future.

Deluding yourself (not saying that you are doing this) only makes things worse, and ignoring the negative side of life isn't enjoying it, it's ignoring (possibly way over) half of it.

rational thinking, a pleasure to the eye

 

[GeneWard]

Watch MLP: FiM. While I haven't been through nearly as much as you sound like you have, I was feeling pretty paranoid and useless before I began watching. Now I'm happier than I've ever been before (seriously). Also, don't try to bottle anything up if you have been, let everything out and talk to someone, no matter how long it takes.

 

[dimensional]

I dont think there is any way to stay positive all the time its only natural there will be lots of ups and downs, but the best way I have found to get yourself out of a hole of despair is acceptance, accept that shit is going to happen and has happened but dont let it stain you accept that people will say bad things about you behind youre back and may possibly hate you it seems to be human nature to do such things.

Then once you have accepted it know that you can change it by fighting back if something in your life is strangling you get rid of it aim for somewhere you want to be and keep going even if you think you will never reach it and if you do aim higher and further keep pushing more and more but also dont do it because you want something physical do it because you want to improve yourself (i.e self mastery).

Strengthen your spirit think of everything as a chance to move forward and that you cannot be bowed or broken by anything that is thrown at you. Thats how I try and stay positive and it has worked pretty well despite some tough times.

Oh and whatever you do dont let yourself get trapped keep your lofty goal(s) in sight but set way markers towards it smaller goals if you will and aim to complete them as long as you keep pushing on following your path not erring from it you will hopefully be much happier as there is nothing like giving your life meaning and purpose rather than just existing.

apologies if that is a bit incoherent its a bit hard to describe abstract concepts but hopefully you get the gist of it.

 

[NotSoLoneWanderer]

I remind myself im not in a third world country and thus have nothing to complain about

 

[AnarchistFish]

What's an emo topic?

I remind myself im not in a third world country and thus have nothing to complain about

I hate it when people say this. This usually comes from the same type of people who say "money doesn't equal happiness". Fact is, first world countries often have higher suicide rates than third world ones. The way our society works puts immense amounts of pressure on people and pretty much breeds mental illness. Just cos you're doing fine economically, doesn't really mean anything.

 

[kommando367]

I stay positive by actively suppressing my negative emotions (hate, sadness, and fear). I don't know any methods by which normal person can achieve this, but I did.

 

[ultimateownage]

Make sure no one finds the bodies. That's a great pick-me-up, but if they do find them then it's a massive bummer.

 

[Xanthious]

Have you thought about becoming an alcoholic? They always seem like a happy lot.

 

[Sizzle Montyjing]

Keep smiling, talk about your problems and just laugh at some poor people.
In fact becoming evil is the way to go!

You should try it, everybody thinks your a prick but after a few brutal beatings and a disinitergration or two, they fall in line.

I have essentially told you how i deal with things, don't take the world seriously and just be light-hearted about everything.