How to stop being so jaded?

[The Rockerfly]

16. Not exactly the philosophical age, I know

You are going to feel like that, everyone around your age is changing, confused physically, sexually and emotionally. Once you get through the teenage years everyone calms down, starts acting sane and you will find someone.

Some will stay party made idiots but most won't. You are just more mature for your age and there aren't many like that at your age. Also don't let your age decide if you can think philosophically or not, I have met 50 years olds stupider than my 14 year old brother

 

[Hashime]

There is no way, just accept it and move on. Maybe some volunteer work could soften you a bit.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

16. Not exactly the philosophical age, I know

You are going to feel like that, everyone around your age is changing, confused physically, sexually and emotionally. Once you get through the teenage years everyone calms down, starts acting sane and you will find someone.

Some will stay party made idiots but most won't. You are just more mature for your age and there aren't many like that at your age. Also don't let your age decide if you can think philosophically or not, I have met 50 years olds stupider than my 14 year old brother

I just wish everyone could grow up a little, or maybe if I could just fly away. Like evertone puts such high values on High School. I've been told on like 6 occassions that "When you get out, you will remember high school as some of the best years of your life." If that is the case I will kill myself, because I find it hard to believe that things will some how get worse, without some drastic catastrophy. I mean, I have a better time at work than school. I work as a fry cook at McDonalds, putting together burgers for people I will never meet, hours on end. And I find that more enjoying than school.

 

[BelmontClan]

I just wish everyone could grow up a little, or maybe if I could just fly away. Like evertone puts such high values on High School. I've been told on like 6 occassions that "When you get out, you will remember high school as some of the best years of your life." If that is the case I will kill myself, because I find it hard to believe that things will some how get worse, without some drastic catastrophy. I mean, I have a better time at work than school. I work as a fry cook at McDonalds, putting together burgers for people I will never meet, hours on end. And I find that more enjoying than school.

There is such an overemphasis in our culture (largely media driven) on high school being the be all and end all for all things awesome that you just have to shake your head and ignore. Unfortunately, when you go to school where the majority prefer whatever is "in" that you don't care for, be it a sport, a show, drinking, what have you, it's very easy to want to stab yourself in the eye.

It's about this time that you try to figure yourself our and discover what YOU (and not what any channel or group) want to do that makes you happy or is important to you. The fact that you seem to be doing this already sets you at a higher maturity level than the rest of your class. Having been there once myself, all I can say is just hang on. Concentrate on things you enjoy despite what the masses feel you should enjoy. Are you interested in the culinary arts? Or just enjoy the idea of restaurant work?

 

[The Rockerfly]

I just wish everyone could grow up a little, or maybe if I could just fly away. Like evertone puts such high values on High School. I've been told on like 6 occassions that "When you get out, you will remember high school as some of the best years of your life." If that is the case I will kill myself, because I find it hard to believe that things will some how get worse, without some drastic catastrophy. I mean, I have a better time at work than school. I work as a fry cook at McDonalds, putting together burgers for people I will never meet, hours on end. And I find that more enjoying than school.

I disagree, I hated high school. The only reason people say it's so great is because all they remember is the good parts of having no responsibilities, not the bullying, embarrassment, girl troubles, self esteem issues etc. Nostalgia makes people forget the problems and makes them say stupid shit
Maybe if you're trying to get a job somewhere don't go with one where you have to work with customers. Most are greedy stupid pricks anyway

There is such an overemphasis in our culture (largely media driven) on high school being the be all and end all for all things awesome that you just have to shake your head and ignore. Unfortunately, when you go to school where the majority prefer whatever is "in" that you don't care for, be it a sport, a show, drinking, what have you, it's very easy to want to stab yourself in the eye.

It's about this time that you try to figure yourself our and discover what YOU (and not what any channel or group) want to do that makes you happy or is important to you. The fact that you seem to be doing this already sets you at a higher maturity level than the rest of your class. Having been there once myself, all I can say is just hang on. Concentrate on things you enjoy despite what the masses feel you should enjoy. Are you interested in the culinary arts? Or just enjoy the idea of restaurant work?

Also what this guy said

 

[Erana]

My suggestion to curing jadedness is to go find someone truely sincere. Try finding someone from another country- for me I first found this in my sister's Chinese roomate. It really alters your perspective when you meet someone who has lived their life with a strong sense of duty and momentum, and without any sense of sarcasm or skepticism.
And people out there really do live their lives with hardly any of the pointless bitterness that rules our society. Most people around here don't even believe its possible.

I find that jadedness for a lot of people comes from overwhelming themselves with thoughts of everyone. Thinking about everything is overwhelming, and when people are overwhelmed, they automatically feel negative feelings towards it. Feel free to downright ignore the masses and focus more on your life and the people immediately relevant.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

I just wish everyone could grow up a little, or maybe if I could just fly away. Like evertone puts such high values on High School. I've been told on like 6 occassions that "When you get out, you will remember high school as some of the best years of your life." If that is the case I will kill myself, because I find it hard to believe that things will some how get worse, without some drastic catastrophy. I mean, I have a better time at work than school. I work as a fry cook at McDonalds, putting together burgers for people I will never meet, hours on end. And I find that more enjoying than school.

There is such an overemphasis in our culture (largely media driven) on high school being the be all and end all for all things awesome that you just have to shake your head and ignore. Unfortunately, when you go to school where the majority prefer whatever is "in" that you don't care for, be it a sport, a show, drinking, what have you, it's very easy to want to stab yourself in the eye.

It's about this time that you try to figure yourself our and discover what YOU (and not what any channel or group) want to do that makes you happy or is important to you. The fact that you seem to be doing this already sets you at a higher maturity level than the rest of your class. Having been there once myself, all I can say is just hang on. Concentrate on things you enjoy despite what the masses feel you should enjoy. Are you interested in the culinary arts? Or just enjoy the idea of restaurant work?

To be honest, no I'm not. I just like the people there(as in my co-workers) so that makes the day a lot easier. I actually want to get into programming.

 

[BelmontClan]

To be honest, no I'm not. I just like the people there(as in my co-workers) so that makes the day a lot easier. I actually want to get into programming.

Well, you are still a little ahead of the game then all the kids who just want to go out drinking. There isn't inherently wrong in drinking, but when that is ALL YOU DO, that is a little sad. Just hang on in high school, man.

 

[Cupid]

You had asked where are the good people in the world. I'm a good person, but these days it too is hard for me to meet another good person. I feel somewhat like you, I live in Phila. not far from NY at all. However, I tend to look for the good in a person, maybe I'm not so jaded, then again, I'm not as old as you. I'm only in my first year of Nursing School, have 2 jobs, and just try my best to get along. I never felt the need to fit in any one group, never really thought of it, but I too can feel the ways you have described. Maybe you do look into some things a little bit too much, and there is nothing wrong with that as long as it will never distance you from at least being somewhat open to someone new and someone who won't let you down, or have you feel used, or any of those things you feel so jaded about.

Maybe you expected life to be a little bit different than what it is for you, coming up on 30? Maybe you just have lived a very big life for only being your age? Or maybe you just have found out that yes, not everyone you meet will be the sincere friend, the one who will have your back, the one who will not hurt you and will care most for your heart. I have been that person and let me tell you, I can't count on 2 hands how many times I have been my best for someone, only for them to be their worst for me. However, I would say to you to not give up on what we know as the human race, because if you do, you may lose the opportunity to meet the one that will be there for you, always..and they only sometimes come once in a lifetime.

I would tell you to be yourself, and your best self always, because one day it will all pay off for you. We never know who we will meet or under which circumstance, and I think you would want to make the first impression that is or was once the heart that you were, and I believe still can be. Sometimes all it takes is to meet one single soul, who will be the sincerity to change such a jaded heart and mind. Please don't give up on yourself having a much lighter heart, than the one you have now. So, hello neighbor! Have you ever been to Phila? =)

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

To be honest, no I'm not. I just like the people there(as in my co-workers) so that makes the day a lot easier. I actually want to get into programming.

Well, you are still a little ahead of the game then all the kids who just want to go out drinking. There isn't inherently wrong in drinking, but when that is ALL YOU DO, that is a little sad. Just hang on in high school, man.

It's all I can do man

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Maybe you expected life to be a little bit different than what it is for you, coming up on 30? Maybe you just have lived a very big life for only being your age? Or maybe you just have found out that yes, not everyone you meet will be the sincere friend, the one who will have your back, the one who will not hurt you and will care most for your heart.

I'm guessing it's just the realisation of what things could be, and then seeing them how they are.

 

[Naheal]

16. Not exactly the philosophical age, I know

You are going to feel like that, everyone around your age is changing, confused physically, sexually and emotionally. Once you get through the teenage years everyone calms down, starts acting sane and you will find someone.

And then he's going to hit college/uni. College students are far from sane, even the seniors.

 

[The Rockerfly]

And then he's going to hit college/uni. College students are far from sane, even the seniors.

I completely agree, I'm at uni and some of the things people do, it makes me want to cry.

In the 3 months of being here:
1 person tried to cook pasta without water
An entire flat didn't clean their stuff up for a month and got maggots
Some girl got mugged because she went out in the middle of the night in a very short dress and heals, on her own for about an hour
A person threw out their TV because "it wasn't working". After me and a mate talked to him we fond out he didn't plug it into his console
2 of my friends in my seminar group now have STDs

It's ridiculous, however I meant when he gets out into work and people have stuff to lose, relationships and realise that being a party animal means nothing then they start calming down

 

[Cupid]

Maybe you expected life to be a little bit different than what it is for you, coming up on 30? Maybe you just have lived a very big life for only being your age? Or maybe you just have found out that yes, not everyone you meet will be the sincere friend, the one who will have your back, the one who will not hurt you and will care most for your heart.

I'm guessing it's just the realisation of what things could be, and then seeing them how they are.

True, but sometimes we just always run into the wrong people and when you finally run into a nice friend or a group of people on a job, that can seem so very differnt too. The best way is to not expect too much from people, then you will never be so disappointed. Then, when something nice happens, you are pleasantly surprised. Sigh...life can be or seem so unrewarding at times, but we are all young, its best to not give up on the ideas that things can one day seem so much better.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Maybe you expected life to be a little bit different than what it is for you, coming up on 30? Maybe you just have lived a very big life for only being your age? Or maybe you just have found out that yes, not everyone you meet will be the sincere friend, the one who will have your back, the one who will not hurt you and will care most for your heart.

I'm guessing it's just the realisation of what things could be, and then seeing them how they are.

True, but sometimes we just always run into the wrong people and when you finally run into a nice friend or a group of people on a job, that can seem so very differnt too. The best way is to not expect too much from people, then you will never be so disappointed. Then, when something nice happens, you are pleasantly surprised. Sigh...life can be or seem so unrewarding at times, but we are all young, its best to not give up on the ideas that things can one day seem so much better.

But when do I draw the line? I can't levitate unassisted. I never have been able to, I never will be. I have come to acceopt that fact that I will always need technology to fly. When do I start accepting that some things can't be changed? Like the "dumb majority" as I would say. I have been trying for as long as I can remeber; first questionning why stuff is so fucked up, then complaining about stuff being so fucked up, and now looking for a solution to how to stop things from being so fucked up. And so far, I have met resistance every step of the way, and I have been crushed again and again and again. One of these days I'm not going to get back up.