How would my fellow escapists react if they were in a scenario like this.

[ultimateownage]

I would have probably google'd their name by that point. I wouldn't care, as long as it isn't anything illegal, they weren't being poorly treated, and it was sanitary. If they didn't want to quit, then I could tolerate it. If they were just doing it for money and disliked it, then I'd advise them to quit.
Though I'd be pretty annoyed they were being filmed having sex with someone else very often, during our relationship, and never considered it something that should be brought up. That's where the problem lies.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Id probably first ask what works they were in (titles and types). If she's in porn, and is my ideal woman in terms of body, she would have the body for porn (not to say I exclusively date for beauty, but some of the girls I've been in relationships with were very much above my level).

Not really. Id ask if she was clean (not to be offensive or anythingm but jsut being sure) and if she felt fulfilled with me when shes seen the Adonis's out there in the world.

I guess we keep going. If she can keep work and personal life separate, then I can too. Though i wouldnt mind if she brought some of her work home with her and we tried some new things in the bedroom. In reality, Porn stars are people, and most of them are nice sweet people that you'd think is cute and not "the porn type" unless they told you. And that can be quite a good chunk of change they bring in through income.

 

[Substitute Troll]

I'll just leave this here...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-BgOlsW47c

 

[rekabdarb]

first question to said boyfriend (I'm female so have swapped it round)
"Do you have a fluffer then?"

OH OH OH OH curious. Would you be ok knowing that he was in gay videos as the bottom to get to (i assume) straight or male/female.

OT I ono. as previously stated sex isn't/SHOULDN'T be a driving force in a relationship. Should be present, but not everything.

I dunno i spose i'd be fine with it. I mean shit popular female 'stars' make up to 20k per scene, and that's just solo. With penetration it adds even more. So does anal, female/female, male/male/female. etc etc.

And considering i be flying the "BROKE AS FUCK OH GOD WHY DOES NOONE WANT TO EMPLOY ME!?" plane, i do NOT care about anyone else's profession/job/career. I'm in no position to judge

 

[putowtin]

first question to said boyfriend (I'm female so have swapped it round)
"Do you have a fluffer then?"

OH OH OH OH curious. Would you be ok knowing that he was in gay videos as the bottom to get to (i assume) straight or male/female.

I'm pansexual, I didn't (I'm married now) care who my partners had dated as long as they stuck to the rule,
"My only rule with sex is that it's done right" (cookie for the reference)

 

[rekabdarb]

first question to said boyfriend (I'm female so have swapped it round)
"Do you have a fluffer then?"

OH OH OH OH curious. Would you be ok knowing that he was in gay videos as the bottom to get to (i assume) straight or male/female.

I'm pansexual, I didn't (I'm married now) care who my partners had dated as long as they stuck to the rule,
"My only rule with sex is that it's done right" (cookie for the reference)

Righto and i was just curious. Zevran sucks, because i'm kind of the same way. As long as that past shit doesn't come back to haunt me. As a dude wouldn't want my ... gf? wife? whatever this mythical person is to have like former working partners come back and be like "babe you and me are made for each other."

But considering i'm 'above average' in certain areas ( i mean my height you dirty dirty people... as well as other things[Psh my hands perverts...]) I know pulling "my dick is perfect for you!" card wouldn't matter much.

PS Learning that in your anatomy class feels so awesome

 

[Phoenix09215]

If she is actually having sex with other men (or women), then I couldn't keep the relationship going simply because I wouldn't be able to carry on going out with someone I love knowing that they're having sex with complete strangers on a regular basis, even if it is their job.

 

[The Hero Killer]

I'd probably be surprised at first with the overflow of thoughts of the different people she has had sex with but all in all I wouldnt care myself, its just not something I'd want to tell my mother about the woman I'm dating. I'd stay in the relationship but probably wouldnt want to hear any stories or see any footage.

 

[ElPatron]

Porn actresses are not there for easy income, otherwise she would have dropped it at some point.

If she kept working it is because she honestly loves performing.




Why do you think adult actors/actresses don't hide in shame? Why do they even have awards? And they don't look awkward when they are receiving them.

Point being: they do it because they like it. If it was for the money, she would be a prostitute.


Generally, prostitution and porn (if we are not talking about the "higher-end" escorts and more known pornstars) generate the same income, you just get to work more hours as a prostitute.

People can be ashamed of resorting to prostitution. But someone who did porn will never be ashamed of what he/she did and you can be sure as hell it wasn't for the money.

 

[llew]

My immediate reaction would probably be one of surprise, but I don't think my relationship with them would hinge on their career, if I was so in love with them.

I'd probably be a little hurt that they kept it from me for so long, but I'd get over it.

(Also, with the amount of porn I watch, I'd probably have found out before they told me...)

me exactly although i might ask if i could star in a threesome with her as payment

 

[Xaio30]

I'd be a little surprised, then ask what kind of porn she did. As long as it wasn't too extreme, I'd probably end-up ask her to invite some female co-workers over for diner >) (assuming the tests came up negative of course)

1. Say: "That wasn't so hard, was it?"

I would have thought she liked doing things that are 'hard'

oh, I was just waiting for someone to take that bait. xD

 

[ffs-dontcare]

First off, I'd be sexually threatened. And I'm clearly not the first one in this thread to say so.

Then, I'd snap out of my "surprisedness" and ask her why she didn't tell me at the beginning. My actions afterwards would depend on her answers.

That being said, though, I'd rather I wasn't in a relationship with someone who cheats on me and personally for me that includes starring in porn.

I'd then ask her for more information. What kinds of porn, how often, how long she's been doing that job, etc. She'd need to tell me everything.

Then, at that point I'd ask her why we should keep going with this relationship if she's going to keep secrets from me and cheat on me on a near-daily basis. Of course, since it's, well, porn, it's kind of different to your standard cheating, but still. To me, it's just... iffy.

Plus, regardless of whether or not our relationship involves sex (and knowing me, it probably wouldn't in the first place), I'm not too keen on the idea of being in one with a partner who regularly does it with others, whether it's part of her job or not.

Of course, if I did my homework before-hand and was more careful about who I went out with in the first place, this entire situation wouldn't be happening at all.

And of course, there's the whole risk-of-catching-something factor to take into consideration. Yegh.

Not to mention, even if our relationship did involve sex, I find myself extremely uncomfortable with and incredibly grossed out by the notion of... well, having sex with someone who's very recently had someone else's ... you-know-what inside her.

I don't want to share my girlfriend.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

I'd immediately feel sexually threatened, haha. I've seen my fair share of porn, and let me just say I don't "measure-up" to the competition. If you catch my drift. (I hope that statement even makes sense, I'm sleep deprived too.)

That being said, I'd try my best to work it out. It would be a lot to get used too.

Apparently, on the job sex usually isn't that enjoyable. They have to worry more about the camera than actually enjoying themselves. Read that somewhere.

Anyway, I'd go collect high fives from everyone I know, and then continue to date.

 

[Marsell]

My reaction?
F--king Jackpot!

 

[chiggerwood]

My reaction? Huh? I was wondering why there was a toll booth in your underwear.

 

[ffs-dontcare]

After minor concerns about her slackening up had been waylaid, I'd go around showing people some of her videos and then going "i'm totally hitting that".



Ahahahaha, no, but seriously - I'd probably just let it be and try to keep my nose out in case it starts to bug me and to preserve some mystery. If she's still the same person then what's the deal? she kept it secret out of a concern for me, after all. Just as long as it doesn't screw with our sex lives. I'd manage without a lot of sex anyway. As long as ours is different, that's what matters most.

First off, I'd be sexually threatened. And I'm clearly not the first one in this thread to say so.

Then, I'd snap out of my "surprisedness" and ask her why she didn't tell me at the beginning. My actions afterwards would depend on her answers.

That being said, though, I'd rather I wasn't in a relationship with someone who cheats on me and personally for me that includes starring in porn.

I'd then ask her for more information. What kinds of porn, how often, how long she's been doing that job, etc. She'd need to tell me everything.

Then, at that point I'd ask her why we should keep going with this relationship if she's going to keep secrets from me and cheat on me on a near-daily basis. Of course, since it's, well, porn, it's kind of different to your standard cheating, but still. To me, it's just... iffy.

Plus, regardless of whether or not our relationship involves sex (and knowing me, it probably wouldn't in the first place), I'm not too keen on the idea of being in one with a partner who regularly does it with others, whether it's part of her job or not.

Of course, if I did my homework before-hand and was more careful about who I went out with in the first place, this entire situation wouldn't be happening at all.

And of course, there's the whole risk-of-catching-something factor to take into consideration. Yegh.

Not to mention, even if our relationship did involve sex, I find myself extremely uncomfortable with and incredibly grossed out by the notion of... well, having sex with someone who's very recently had someone else's ... you-know-what inside her.

I don't want to share my girlfriend.

I lol'd. Sorry, that probably wasn't the reaction you were going for...

I did intend for that post to be a bit humourous in a very subtle kind of way so it's all good. I don't mind making people laugh as long as they aren't laughing at me.

 

[urahara75]

The questions are simple.
What is your immediate reaction?
Is the relationship over?(Remember youre affection for her/him at the beginning of this thread)
Whats next?

Fairly straight forward:
1.) "Stunned" comes to mind. Okay, jokes aside, I don't/wouldn't have anything personal against (her), unless she was involved in something from my personal "Just NO!" zone:
[ul]
[li]Zoophilia[/li]
[li]Necrophilia[/li]
[li]Incest (involving ascendant(s), descendent(s), &/or sibling(s))[/li]
[li]Genuine or realistically emulated sexual and nonsexual assault[/li]
[li]Cannibalism[/li]
[li]Paraphilic infantilism - Because if roleplaying as an infant/toddler turns you on... you (probably) need to be either mentally/psychologically evaluated or ended, pronto! [/li]
[li]Coprophilia - Do I even need to mention why?![/li]
[li]Infantophilia, nepiophilia, paedophilia, hebephilia - Again, see above.[/li]
[/ul]

2 & 3.) Either way, given my steadfast feelings on romantic exclusivity (1-to-1 ratio, unless the primary pair(s) decide beforehand), and modern-yet-fortified moral/ethical/spiritual beliefs, I'd have to make a clean-ish break (romantically). We can still be amicable, if possible, and even remain to socialize every once and again as far as I'm concerned.

Slightly Off-Topic: I would also be concerned for her physical and long-term financial well-being, seeing that almost all female adult industry actresses in the western hemisphere seem to be gradually doctored up to make them artificially as physically attractive (i.e., young & perky) as surgically possible, for as long as possible. Well, that and to keep the sexual-parts from sloughing like piece of tenderised porkchop. /lost lunch