How would my fellow escapists react if they were in a scenario like this.

[Sandernista]

Wait seriously, I've seen maybe on answer that mentioned exclusivity.

Do none of you have rules about sexual exclusivity?

And even if you are polyamorous, don't you want your partner to be honest with you about your partners?

 

[Biodeamon]

Homestly? I really wouldn't care. She isn't cheating on you or anything. I can see how some people might feel that they were cheated on but i personally really don't find any relevance to the relationship at all. I honestly would not care at all (like literally, zero).

The only that i would draw offence to is that she didn't tell me earlier, and that isn't something to just dump somebody you love for.

 

[Crazy]

"I have a secret too, and I like where this is going. Please, lets talk in my room hm?"

That would be my exact reaction. And by going with it that means its far from over, its only just beginning.

 

[Magicmad5511]

Well....that is a tough one.

Ok so if I really love this person then this shouldn't matter. In that case I except that she has chosen to do this and allow her to continue. She's been with me so far and not fallen for another porn star so I think I can trust her on that front. Also I'd make sure she was using protection on set.

I think I'd have to ask if she enjoyed it and if she would quit if she didn't need the money anymore.
Tehan I'd ask her to show me some of her material.....her getting it on with other men........
OK. Scratch that last bit.

I think really I'd be OK. Not perfect but OK. I'd mostly keep it out of my head that that's where she was going to work and I'd most definitely set up that she must not talk about or bring her work home with her. Just really for my sanity.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Nope. It's over. Not for the reasons you might expect

Imagine if you ever break up. Now that you're single, you might occasionally wander online to take care of yourself. But hey, look, there's your ex! They're everywhere! And clearly shagging other people! It'd be a constant reminder of the breakup, every time you looked at porn. It'd be horrible! Better to get out before this goes any further emotionally.

Source: My ex-girlfriend has the same name as a woman acting in the adult film industry. I now can't use porn, since I'll probably see her name whilst thinking about sex, which is definitely a bad combination.

 

[TheRussian]

What is youre immediate reaction?
~Surprise, mild disapproval but not serious
Is the relationship over?
~No, not by a long shot.
Whats next?
~Continue on with the relationship, good luck

 

[MaxwellEdison]

My immediate reaction is probably "I don't care if you eat babies for a living, marry me."
I'd probably inquire as to her reasoning for this career. If it's for reasons of financial necessity and she doesn't love the job, I'd help her find an alternative. If she does it for any other reason, I'm sure after some communication about it I'd find a way to get over it...I have a hard time believing anyone, male or female, would love that job more than their partner, though.

 

[NathLines]

"Ok, cool." (obviously we would have a very long talk about trust and stuff but this sums it up)

Seriously, it's a job. Good for her. I don't give a flying shit if she sleeps with other guys if it's for work. The world isn't perfect, get over it.

Though I would like her to be honest and upfront from the start, but seeing as a lot of people has mixed feelings about her job, I'd understand if she's afraid to talk about it. But she better not keep something like that from me again.

 

[Phasmal]

1. Ew.
2. No.
3. Say goodbye, wish them well.

I'm coming at this from the perspective of a non porn watching lady, but I'm not into open relationships (which I guess is what this would fall under). If you are, thats fine, but I hope no one jumps down my throat for being prudish, I'm just not into it.

Plus, you should have a choice about being cool about it BEFORE you enter the relationship, I think.

 

[Dimitriov]

She wouldn't be someone I could fall in love with in the first place.

She clearly doesn't have the same values as me: simple as that.

 

[Dimitriov]

1. Ew.
2. No.
3. Say goodbye, wish them well.

I'm coming at this from the perspective of a non porn watching lady, but I'm not into open relationships (which I guess is what this would fall under). If you are, thats fine, but I hope no one jumps down my throat for being prudish, I'm just not into it.

Plus, you should have a choice about being cool about it BEFORE you enter the relationship, I think.

Yeah... occupation aspect aside... I think you are morally obligated to tell any prospective partner if you have had sex with more than, say, thirty people.

That's really just not cool in my books.

 

[Craorach]

The sheer number of "I wouldn't care" reactions in this thread suprises me. I'd bloody well are >.<

I suppose if she was an ex porn star I wouldn't, if she was properly checked out and everything, but still doing it? Hell no, Not even if it was just girl/girl porn since.. I'd imagine at least.. those would eventually be persuaded to do other stuff as well.

 

[Powereaver]

tbh it would be suprise me but not bother me THAT much its a sleazy job yes but i find a lot of people in the younger age bracket turn to that sorta thing out of desperation for money and work to pay off uni fees and stuff so yea wouldnt suprise me as much as it possibly should.

 

[Wintermoot]

I wouldn't mind I would also ask if her studio is hiring.
easy money!

 

[JesterRaiin]

The questions are simple.
What is youre immediate reaction?
Is the relationship over?(Remember youre affection for her/him at the beginning of this thread)
Whats next? Tell me escapists.

Life is a strange thing. There's no one and only universal, ultimate way of living it and at the end you die.

With that in mind : buddy, stop listening to others, stop thinking about meeting other people's expectations, and simply follow your heart. Even if it'll lead you to problems at some point, all you're risking is boring status quo, and all you can count on is happiness.

Personally ? It depends on her, but it wouldn't be that big deal to me. I have my experiences with prostitues and honestly, they weren't that "impure" like some of people would like to believe.

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

Hmm... wouldn't bother me too much, but with my lifestyle and my career she would have to give it up! Not because I am selfish, but because I am military, and that is more than just a job for me, its a way of life, and unfortunately I have no choice to move all over the country and go on excursions away!

I would then also get incredibly self consious over sex-pectations. I mean, shes guaranteed to be alot more experienced than I am! Thats the kind of thing my analytical mind and over-active imagination will dwell on and add 1000's of PSI more pressure into my life!

 

[Trippy Turtle]

I'd ask her if why she was doing the job. If she was doing because she enjoyed it then I would be fine. If it was because some other reason (No money or something) I would try to help her find a new job. I would be a bit upset she didn't tell me first though.

 

[MasochisticAvenger]

1. I tell her it's over, and to get the hell out of my house/I tell her its over and leave her house.

2. Relationship over (see point 1).

3. I never see that ***** again unless I have to, because the relationship is over.

I wonder how the people saying "it wouldn't bother me in the slightest" would react if it actually happened to them.