I am gay.

[Reincarnatedwolfgod]

I have to stop running away from this problem. Once I can accept it then it won't be a problem for the most part beyond dealing with prejudice.

There is nothing I can do to change what I am; I wish I could change who I am at this point because will not be easy to fully accept it, tell my family, and dealing with future prejudice.
I can be happy about that my parents are not deeply religious and I would almost bet my life they would never kick me out for it. Although it would probably be quite awkward and maybe much worst.

It much easier for me to do this now as opposed living many years being miserable as a facade and potentially having to deal with breaking some ones heart who I never was attracted to.

note- if some tries to say you will go to hell then I must inform that I don't believe in the existence of hell.

well it is nice stop running away from this even if no one reads this.

 

[Doclector]

If it helps at all, I read it.

Best of luck to you.

Though honestly, I don't really know what else to say. I don't really have any advice on the matter.

 

[Beautiful Tragedy]

I don't know how old you are, but I applaud you for coming out and not keeping it bottled up... I battled my gender dysphoria for 30 years before I came out... even with all of the crap I have been through this... I have never been happier with who I am. Best of luck

 

[Lilani]

I read it, and I'm happy for you. Some people go most of their adult lives running from themselves. I think it's awesome that you both accept it, and are in a situation where you are fairly certain hostility won't develop. It may be hard at first, but I think after a while you'll find yourself pleasantly surprised. The world is very quickly changing, and I'm surprised at the number of older people who I see are at least open to the idea. They may not necessarily approve, but most of them will still say it's not their place to judge. I think it's less a problem of them not liking gays, and more a problem of they just don't understand them. Less than 40 years ago the very act of gay sex was illegal. There is still a HUGE percentage of the population that was alive back then, so to them this sudden acceptance is nothing short of whiplash.

But the more people who come out, the more they'll get to know who gays are and what being gay means, and soon we'll just call gay marriage "marriage" just like we now refer to interracial marriage as just "marriage."

Sorry for my rambling there, anyway congrats again, and props for being so confident

 

[Olrod]

It gets easier as you get older.

Just be aware of who are your real friends and those who are only interested in you because you're someone they've not had sex with yet.

[source: personal experience]

 

[IceForce]

Just be aware of who are your real friends and those who are only interested in you because you're someone they've not had sex with yet.

Wait, there are people like that in the gay community?

 

[PensiveElephant]

I don't know anything about you and anything about your journey, but I just needed to say: you cannot hate yourself. You cannot struggle against who you are. And you don?t have to - because there's nothing wrong about any of it.

It is difficult for a gay person to go through life without a sense of shame and wrongness - most cultures around the world shun gay people, and there are parents that have disowned their children for it. But you cannot do much about such cruelty. The only thing you can do is make sure you are not as cruel towards yourself.

Because being gay isn't a 'problem' - there are just people who try to make it a problem. Trust me - there there is a fulfilling and happy life in accepting who you are and loving yourself with all your characteristics. And this will be a big part of your life, it probably is a big part of your identity already.

And while some people might detest you for being gay - others will not. At the end of the day many people just don't care (though that is country-dependent).

And the only thing left for you is take things one day at a time. Don't wish you were somebody else.

Think of it this way - would you tell somebody 'I wish you were not gay.'? Well be that kind for yourself now - be protective of yourself and of what you want. Secure your own happiness. It will take time, it?s not a switch you press and all troubles and doubts disappear. But you can with time understand that there is nothing wrong about you, and that the problem lies only in anybody who says otherwise.

 

[Resetti's_Replicas]

What advice are you looking for? It sounds like you're in a good place. I guess try to continue life normally; your sexual orientation has nothing to do with the games you like, or your hobbies, or your job.

 

[ShiningAmber]

I read it.

Being gay is not a problem. Don't treat yourself like that. The world will be cruel to you regardless if you were or not. The world will always find something to not like about you that you think you have to correct.

Don't hate yourself. Don't blame yourself. Don't try to fix this, because it isn't broken and neither are you. It is perfectly normal and there's no shame in it.

 

[Morsomk_v1legacy]

I felt like I had to post this.


Way to go guy, you've successfully made the right decision for yourself and I am proud of that. Don't ever think to yourself that you don't deserve to be happy, ever. We've got enough sad people in this world and seeing someone like you come along and say "You know what, I am not going to take this anymore. I am going to make myself happy and feel good about" really makes me feel better about the human race as a whole.

There is nothing wrong with being different from others and having different sexuality. Heck, it kinda makes you hot just by saying "Hey I am gay and I dont care what you think". If it makes you feel any better, I give you thumbs up for your decision, what is to say that your close friends and family won't do the same?