I can't do this anymore

[Random Argument Man]

I had something like that. I had a girl I kept pissing off each time I tried to apologies. No matter what happened, I came back. Something in her eyes kept me hook. I never saw her smile again.

The only thing I would suggest is to keep a long looonnnnnng distance away from her. Try to know some other girls. Replace that bad memory with some other memory. Later on, you'll just feel a little bit better. After that part, you'll just laugh at the idea she was in your life.

 

[Jou-LotD]

I know that being emo is all the cool now-a-days with Twilight. But seriously, grow a pair. Acting like a drama queen and pretending you can't get away from the soul sucking parasite isn't going to help you. As many others suggested, disconnect. Tell her to piss off. I don't know why people thinks that they can be friends after a relationship. I also don't want to hear about how others have done it, those are the exceptions, not the rule. Your relationship is over, there are tons of other women out there. Go get another.

 

[Mekado]

I signed up literally to reply to this as I have been in a remarkably similar situation and from past experience know that people like that should be avoided, despite what your heart may be telling you. She may have kicked the shit out of your emotions but you need to get a hold of yourself and realise that you're better than this. The whole 'we can still be friends' is an easy way out and you'll soon see that it's a simple cover up so she can run off, if she's anything like the girl from my past. It could be worse, she could then go out with your best mate, which would be nice and didn't happen to me, honest. Basically what I'm saying is love hurts, and when it feels like you're getting nothing back you know it's time to move on because this girl, regardless of your view on her, is taking the piss.

Thanks for signing up just to reply to my stupid emotional problems. Actually I'd like to thank everyone who takes the time to suggest anything. I'm reading every post, and I feel a little better already. The worst part I think is that my birthday's tomorrow, and I've never felt worse in my life.

Give yourself a gift, and remove that egoist ***** from your life.She's using you big time and will throw you away every time she can get "better", she'll probably "take you back" every time she's in a pinch as a sounding board for her frustration.You definitely don't need people like that in your life unless you like getting hurt,nothing's good is going to come out of this.

Also, don't apologize for something you didn't do, it makes you look like you have no backbone (no offense) and it makes her (and everyone else) think less of you.There's no upside to being apologetic for no reason.

 

[Littlee300]

You sound a little desperate for her, you apologize to her when you shouldn't, and something bad happens after. She cant accept that it was stupid for her to she "loves you" but forgot to say "like a brother!" Maybe tell her that but back off for a while.
Getting over her probably seem to hard for you considering you dream about her and stuff. But still get don't be desperate for something that treats you awful, there more fish in sea anyways.

Man up and forget about her.

 

[lazy_bum]

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I would advise you to focus on your studies, and secondary to that, whatever hobbies you may be interested in. Take time to invest in yourself when you are young, and it will pay off greatly when you are older. This is not the only relationship you will ever be in, they come and go, and each is a learning experience for the mind and soul. There is no reason to rush things, you are young, you have your whole life ahead of you to experience so many different things, and while some will be incredible, some will also be downright terrible. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and hit the dusty trail of life, brother. Every time you start thinking of this girl, stop and think of yourself, and how incredible of a person you are, and will become, and how lucky someone down the line is going to be to be with you, and alternatively how this girl blew it.

This is the only relationship advice I have ever given in this forum, and it will be the last I ever do. Usually, I just direct people to another user who deals with these issues and move on, but I can't seem to remember which person that was. Also, I'm glad to see you admit to being a melodramatic teenager, but we have all been there at some point. Take the advice of those that have been through it, and can see the forest through the trees.

Welcome to The Escapist.

Edit: Damn, you've been here for a long time. Well, in that case, Post more dammit!

this guy is right on the money. I can testify to a long list of spectacular crash burn relationships that have left me with alot of psychological scarring. I even turned to heavy drinking and drug abuse at one point, all it achieved was putting me on a drip for two weeks and health issues i'm still dealing with, i'm only 20 dammit.
However you eventually find a way that helps you to cope and recover, eventually you will end up in a relationship where both of you will respect and love each other.
also, while i dont want to seem like i'm trivualising whats happened here there is something you will appreciate eventually about it. it will help you appreciate that person that loves and respects you back all the more for knowing how bad it can be.

AS the truism says: 'He who has never experianced hate cannot truely comprehend love.'

 

[vampirekid.13]

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

^ the last person that copy pasted this got banned, dear mods please dont ban me, i didnt copy paste it like the last person did i linked to it. also it fits the situation perfectly. thank you in advance for taking this into consideration.


on the same note, i experienced the same thing with someone, we were together for a while tho, for like 3 years a while, and went through a lot of fights, breakups and so on. we're no longer together, i loved her, hell i still love her, its been a year now and im still thinking of her everyday. i dont feel up to being in another relationship cuz of it. i cant get over her, i love her so much, i miss her, she wont talk to me tho -_-

 

[kannibus]

It'll pass, just keep your head together for a week. That's something my father-in-law told me and the old son of a ***** was right.

 

[Littlee300]

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

^ the last person that copy pasted this got banned, dear mods please dont ban me, i didnt copy paste it like the last person did i linked to it. also it fits the situation perfectly. thank you in advance for taking this into consideration.

Why would you get banned for that! Did some girl report you because she cant take the truth or what?! Anyways nice link.

 

[vampirekid.13]

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

^ the last person that copy pasted this got banned, dear mods please dont ban me, i didnt copy paste it like the last person did i linked to it. also it fits the situation perfectly. thank you in advance for taking this into consideration.

Why would you get banned for that! Did some girl report you because she cant take the truth or what?! Anyways nice link.

no last person that copy pasted the contents on the board got a 7 day ban for spamming, cuz the link is considered spam. i really want my w/e its called badge tho. so i would really like not getting mod attention.

 

[Littlee300]

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

^ the last person that copy pasted this got banned, dear mods please dont ban me, i didnt copy paste it like the last person did i linked to it. also it fits the situation perfectly. thank you in advance for taking this into consideration.

Why would you get banned for that! Did some girl report you because she cant take the truth or what?! Anyways nice link.

no last person that copy pasted the contents on the board got a 7 day ban for spamming, cuz the link is considered spam. i really want my w/e its called badge tho. so i would really like not getting mod attention.

Thats called suspension, and a badge seems novelty, but whatever you enjoy achieving do it

 

[Chris0132]

You'll get over it, you might get over it faster if you can be super rational about it but even without that eventually it will become less important. The passage of time is a pain occasionally but it does have its perks.

You might consider looking for a friend in a girl rather than a relationship, they can often be very helpful to talk to.

 

[T5seconds]

I smell a snip coming on...

You know what helps? Friends... Grab some real friends then sit down play video games or do other manly things... Like fight bears in the dark with night vision goggles (Oh I do enjoy some references)... Also you know what they are called? Hookers... Hookers relief stress... Trust me... I would know... But in all seriousness you need to grab some friends and sit-down and just fuck around like play foot ball and shit... And hit on other women... That should do the trick...

Not kidding, this works...

 

[Littlee300]

I smell a snip coming on...

You know what helps? Friends... Grab some real friends then sit down play video games or do other manly things... Like fight bears in the dark with night vision goggles (Oh I do enjoy some references)... Also you know what they are called? Hookers... Hookers relief stress... Trust me... I would know... But in all seriousness you need to grab some friends and sit-down and just fuck around like play foot ball and shit... And hit on other women... That should do the trick...

Not kidding, this works...

Best thing to do, listen to this man right here.

 

[Cherry Cola]

What's with the emo-threads today?

Look, you'll get over it, don't do something stupid. Because then you are stupid. You don't want to be stupid now, do you? Good, then stick with it.

I've had worse, but I managed.

 

[Brad Shepard]

I smell a snip coming on...

You know what helps? Friends... Grab some real friends then sit down play video games or do other manly things... Like fight bears in the dark with night vision goggles (Oh I do enjoy some references)... Also you know what they are called? Hookers... Hookers relief stress... Trust me... I would know... But in all seriousness you need to grab some friends and sit-down and just fuck around like play foot ball and shit... And hit on other women... That should do the trick...

Not kidding, this works...

Best thing to do, listen to this man right here.

I agree with both of these guys, Friends help, i wouldent have gotten thought some of the stuff i went through unless it was for my friends.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

SNIP

Dude, you need to grow a pair and cut this girl out of your life.

I know that's not going to be easy but she sounds like she treats you like a piece of shit and you keep running back for more.

Stop apologising for wanting to say your side of the story. Why apologize when you're not in the wrong?

I went down that road before and believe me, she will never change.

Don't do that to yourself, and for the sake of your pride and dignity just don't contact her anymore.

Being around someone you bear unrequited love for will only hurt you, especially when she treats you like that.

Have some love for yourself and let her go.

Tough words, I know, but it's better to be blunt in these kind of situations.

 

[Mad World]

Try having another discussion with her, maybe. To keep things fair, you could each take turns talking, not allowing for interruptions.

Also, be sure not to let her disrespect you.

You both need to be fair to each other.

 

[Littlee300]

What's with the emo-threads today?

Look, you'll get over it, don't do something stupid. Because then you are stupid. You don't want to be stupid now, do you? Good, then stick with it.

I've had worse, but I managed.

Thanks for the support for the guy
"Wtf emo? Dont do something stupid, or your stupid, do you want to be stupid? I had worst!"
Just sounded a bit like that...

 

[Aesir23]

Focus on your hobbies, things you like to do, etc. Go somewhere peaceful or find things to occupy your mind, be around people whose company you enjoy the most, people who care about you, support you, etc.

If all else fails, therapy. Therapy definitely helps if you can find the right psychologist. Trust me, I've been seeing one for years and my psychologist has helped me out of suicidal depression quite a few times, I'd definitely be dead without that kind of help.