I can't take it anymore!

[Korolev]

Humanity has existed for over one million years. The Internet, in its current public incarnation, has existed for less than two decades. Our population is nearing the seven billion mark.

So yes, you do not need the internet to know how to handle a relationship. All of your ancestors managed to reproduce, and they didn't have any magic blinky thinky box to help them.

DO. WHAT. COMES. NATURALLY.

It's not that hard.

 

[fletch_talon]

I'm more concerned about the very recent jump in anti "teenage angst/relationship thread" threads.
Its getting out of control!

 

[Vilcus]

Why look here is my Violin. I will play a song for you. (sad violin music)

Got ya covered

Spoiler: Sad violin music is sad.

OT: It's not really a problem, like others have said, some people need help, and to them we all seem very friendly as well as capable of giving advice.

 

[grimsprice]

Why look here is my Violin. I will play a song for you. (sad violin music)

Ur Stealin Ma Jaaaaabs!!!

Spoiler: Sad violin music is sad.

Ima DMCA you!!!


OT: Seriously, i don't begrudge them their questions. I think everyone above has given most of the good answers.

 

[ultrachicken]

Did you seriously just say to ask your mom if you're having relationship trouble?
Do you live on the dark side of mars?

 

[BonsaiK]

Has anyone else noticed a disturbing rise in angsty teens asking for relationship advice? this is a gaming site people! I've seen three threads today with kids saying really pathetic things about girls who they like but the're not sure if she likes them back. I appreciate that these off topic discussions are a nice aside but if you want relationship advice, go to your mum, not a website like this.

But what if your mum is a member of this site, it's the only way you've got of communicating with her and she doesn't accept PMs? Huh?

Seriously, off-topic is for pretty much anything. If people have problems or questions, whether it's what to do about that cute girl/boy you like, how to fix a leaking tap or the variance in yields of rice paddies in Northern China between the years 1978 and 2003, I don't see the harm in getting a consensus from a bunch of anons. There's also no reason to assume that Escapists don't know about this stuff. Collectively we probably know pretty much almost any damn thing (just don't ask me about the rice paddies).

Also, one of the people who made such a thread recently accidentally triple-posted, so that's probably colouring your perception of things a little.

 

[TehCookie]

I can see if it's an actual problem like you cheated on your GF and got your one night stand knocked up, yeah I can see someone needing advice for that. I hate the ones where "I like a girl and want to ask her out, but I'm nervous." and the answer will never change grow a pair of balls and ask her. There almost needs to be a table of contents for all the relationship problem threads so people don't have to make a new one and just read the pre-existing one.

Also, my mom gives good advice!

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

Has anyone else noticed a disturbing rise in angsty teens asking for relationship advice? this is a gaming site people! I've seen three threads today with kids saying really pathetic things about girls who they like but the're not sure if she likes them back. I appreciate that these off topic discussions are a nice aside but if you want relationship advice, go to your mum, not a website like this.

There's actually a thread dedicated for relationship advice and I must say I've found it extremely helpful. Next time please try to make a constructive thread that doesn't bash people. So what if teens are angsty and have girl trouble? If someone needs help, then help them.

 

[Deathwatch050]

So yes, you do not need the internet to know how to handle a relationship. All of your ancestors managed to reproduce, and they didn't have any magic blinky thinky box to help them.

Mind out though, things have changed since our ancestors walked the earth. All the complicated relationship stuff has replaced what our ancestors had and it can be very bewildering to someone if they're going through it the first time. Let people turn to wherever they want to for help with this sort of thing. Personally, I think the internet is a good place for this sort of thing sheerly because of the volume of experience people have. Especially if they're like-minded, which is likely considering they're on the same specialized forums that you are.

Honestly do people really wanna hear this stuff for the sixtymillionth time or do they just want everyone to know there's a chance they might be getting laid soon?

It's not always about getting laid.

And again, for a young person new to this sort of thing the only place they might think of turning to for personalized advice (whether they need it or not) might be the Escapist, so live and let live.

In conclusion, nobody said you had to read the threads. Is it that much of a chore to read the titles? If it is then I'd say you were the one with the problem, whoever you might be.

-Frosty05

 

[BonsaiK]

The only answers anyone ever gets are recycled garbage that everyones heard before.

You could say the same about pretty much any topic ever discussed on this forum, ever. Doesn't mean it's not worth mentioning though - it's a mistake to assume that just because something is known by some, that it's known by all.

 

[Deathwatch050]

Does not compute... Everything is about sex whether people admit it or not.

And I didn't say I had to read. It just anoys me that I know these threads are being made constantly. There really is no need for them. The only answers anyone ever gets are recycled garbage that everyones heard before.

Personally I find that first statement to be untrue, but I'll let you have your opinions and I'll have mine, and let's not go into that whole biology-of-love argument.

About the second thing... I wasn't referring to you in particular. And again, people sometimes feel they need personalized advice because some people's situations are pretty unique (because of the range of personalities you encounter in people in general) so, even if they really don't, sometimes it's better to just play along. Nobody said these things were easy and it's always nice to know that there are people who understand your pain if it doesn't go alright.

What I don't particularly understand is even if you ignore the relationship threads we're discussing you still get annoyed by the fact that they're there? Surely you're contradicting yourself just a tad?

-Frosty05

 

[BonsaiK]

The only answers anyone ever gets are recycled garbage that everyones heard before.

You could say the same about pretty much any topic ever discussed on this forum, ever. Doesn't mean it's not worth mentioning though - it's a mistake to assume that just because something is known by some, that it's known by all.

Most topics here don't cycle round the 'Just be yourself' brand of common logic.

There is nothing anyone can tell anyone over the net about relationships that someone over 10 won't have already heard.

The only way to get proper relationship advice is to ask someone who knows both of the parties in question.

I never was given any advice from anyone about relationships until I was in my mid-20s. I would have been pretty chuffed if during my teens there was a forum full of friendly people to help me out, I definitely would have used the service if it existed.

If you feel that such advice is redundant, or just simple logic, then that's fantastic. It means that you won't ever need help. Now you can happily ignore all the relationship help threads.

 

[BonsaiK]

I never was given any advice from anyone about relationships until I was in my mid-20s. I would have been pretty chuffed if during my teens there was a forum full of friendly people to help me out, I definitely would have used the service if it existed.

If you feel that such advice is redundant, or just simple logic, then that's fantastic. It means that you won't ever need help. Now you can happily ignore all the relationship help threads.

Did you honestly need it? I mean my god most of the stuff people here regurgitate is just direct from crappy rom com films or something. The only decent advice anyone really needs is 'communication'. Thats it.

Hell yes, you bet I needed it at the time! I know a lot of relationship issues are just common sense, but not everyone has a clear and mentally uncluttered view of their situation, all the time. I know I sure didn't. It's always a lot easier to see what the best course of action is when you're an outsider looking in, for the same reason that it's easy to have wisdom in hindsight - distance from the situation at hand (either spatial distance, or distance time-wise) always allows a person to see the bigger picture. If you're blessed with the ability to have such a clear view all the time - great. Fantastic. Not everyone is like you, though.

 

[BonsaiK]

I never was given any advice from anyone about relationships until I was in my mid-20s. I would have been pretty chuffed if during my teens there was a forum full of friendly people to help me out, I definitely would have used the service if it existed.

If you feel that such advice is redundant, or just simple logic, then that's fantastic. It means that you won't ever need help. Now you can happily ignore all the relationship help threads.

Did you honestly need it? I mean my god most of the stuff people here regurgitate is just direct from crappy rom com films or something. The only decent advice anyone really needs is 'communication'. Thats it.

Hell yes, you bet I needed it at the time! I know a lot of relationship issues are just common sense, but not everyone has a clear and mentally uncluttered view of their situation, all the time. I know I sure didn't. It's always a lot easier to see what the best course of action is when you're an outsider looking in, for the same reason that it's easy to have wisdom in hindsight - distance from the situation at hand (either spatial distance, or distance time-wise) always allows a person to see the bigger picture. If you're blessed with the ability to have such a clear view all the time - great. Fantastic. Not everyone is like you, though.

I still say asking people who know about your situation fully is a lot more usefull than token knowledge handed down by net guru's.

I completely agree with you. However sometimes people have to take what they can get.