I don't know what to do :/

[Kenbo Slice]

Okay, so about 6 months ago I met this girl and we became really close friends, she has a boyfriend and I really like her. She likes me too but she won't leave her boyfriend. She gets jealous when I hang out with other girls and she said she thinks she should get out of my life because she's holding me back from getting a girlfriend. I think she just doesn't want to hang out with me anymore if I get a girlfriend because she'll be jealous, because she's not holding me back, I just have a tough time getting with girls and she knows that. I don't know if I should just let her out of my life or keep her, I mean she's a really good friend and I don't want to lose that :/.

Any of you guys have any form of advice at all? Please?

 

[Ando85]

That is a tricky situation. Because she is a close friend I wouldn't just block her out of your life. I think it is wrong of her to be jealous if you hang out with other girls considering she has a boyfriend. She also shouldn't be holding you back from getting a girlfriend by being jealous. It is sort of like she has two boyfriends, an official one and you. Of course that shouldn't fly.

Seeing as she is a close friend maybe you should have a talk with her about how she shouldn't be jealous. Sounds like a "have one's cake and eat it too" situation.

 

[William Keller]

Well, I'm going to keep it simple:

Explain to her that she's important to you as a FRIEND, not a romantic partner. Perhaps she thinks you see her more like your "special someone" and not simply a friend.

In case she has a problem with being just a friend, by all means, she can do whatever she wishes. Do not, under any circumstances, make her be close to you if she doesn't want to.

I now this is a tough situation, but this was the best piece of advice I could come up with right now. Hope it helps.

 

[Limecake]

do you want a romantic relationship with this girl? if so then pursue a romantic relationship with her, a boyfriend is far different from a husband.

however if you are not interested in a romantic relationship with her than it might be best to let her go. something similar happened to me, I was in love with a girl but she only wanted to be friends. it's done nothing but put a strain on our friendship recently boiling over with an incident involving my roommate. An incident which hurt me when I should have been happy for them.

the truth is that friendships between men and women will always be difficult because as soon as romantic feelings get involved it complicates everything about your friendship

(For reference see: When Harry Met Sally)