I don't understand what people find so attractive about women. What is it and why?

[LilithSlave]

I don't mean to say I don't understand any small portion of it. I'm a bisexual myself so I'm indeed just a bit attracted to women, too.

And yet, I still don't get it. It feels like that feeling that something is overrated because you don't like it as much as other people, even if that reasoning is completely illogical. And especially within the realm of sexual attraction where all is some kind of pure taste or orientation or whatever. But it rather bugs me.

Because some people seem to act as if women are somehow universally beautiful, aside from even sexual orientation or anything. And billions of dollars are spent on highlighting women's supposed "objective beauty". And it feels weird, I don't get it. What's so beautiful about females? I, for one, don't see any kind of objective beauty in the woman. Heck, I don't even see what people think is some "beautiful" or "pretty" about women.

I know this isn't any better than a man asking "what's so attractive about men? I don't understand it." topic. And I would be fine with such a topic, to be honest.

But I seriously just feel dumbfounded. Feel free to make your own about men. But me, I don't get what's so attractive about women. What do women have that men don't? A vagina? What's so great about those? It's just another hole, a particular hole, that, if anything, is constantly under threat of being pregnant. A situation that is often disadvantageous to everyone involved. Boobs? What's so great about boobs? They're flabby sacks of fat that flap around. If you like boobs, are you attracted to man-boobs? Because I can't tell much of a difference except for that one is on a male and one is on a female.

You can give a typical expected answer of "oh God this question is stupid. It's of course because evolutionary reproductive biology men are meant to be attracted to women and women are meant to be attracted to men blahblahblah" but that doesn't actually answer my question.

And I know a lot of people are going to turn heads at this topic, but it's a thought that's seriously bugging me. It's just so, mysterious and odd to me. And it's probably not in my sexuality to "get" all of it. But I'd at least like to kinda understand it aside from "well men are supposed to be attracted to women and blahblah". I mean, I know I like the colour blue because it seems calming and reminds me of the water, and I like to swim. I wish I could at least wrap my head around what goes through people's minds when they find females attractive.

I don't care if you're not even physically attracted to us, and find women beautiful nonetheless, but I just want to know why the heck people seem to find women so beautiful. If anything, a lot of things about us seem kinda gross.

 

[Echo Delta]

You attempt to understand aesthetics (especially those of flesh) that you yourself do not see and do not necissarily feel open to. This endeavour was destined to fail at it's inception.

 

[LilithSlave]

Well, I've tried to figure out what's so nice about, say, boobs and the like.

But every time I do, I can't seem to see what's more to them other than just being another piece of fat on the body.

And most perplexing about this, is that people who often say boobs make women beautiful and the like, also say things like "fat women are ugly". I could understand if the logic behind liking boobs was, "I like soft bodies", but the same people don't seem to like fat anywhere else.

It escapes me. Fat on the chest? Ok. Fat on the tummy? Not ok. Huh? What's the difference?

 

[Daystar Clarion]

This is a thread...?

Seriously?

Someone needed to ask this question?

Short answer: We're programmed to find members of the opposite sex attractive (well, unless you're wired differently, but hey, I don't judge).

Long answer: No, you don't get a long answer. This thread is bad and you should feel bad

 

[Furioso]

Any and all educational answer that could be given could simply be reduced to "Because we think they are hot" Sure that isn't eloquent, but spending paragraphs to describe how hot we think each detail is would be dumb, your brain simply isn't wired in a way that understands it

 

[ZeZZZZevy]

Well guys are attracted to girls by nature, it's simply how most of us are wired.

Although I would not be able to tell you how same sexes are attracted to each other, although I assume it's just a difference in wiring.

 

[LilithSlave]

Short answer: We're programmed to find members of the opposite sex attractive (well, unless you're wired differently, but hey, I don't judge).

Like I said in the OP, I anticipated such a response, but such a simple answer isn't really what I'm asking.

Surely there's some kind of thought process.

Again, I'm always hearing this sort of response but it doesn't really answer the question at all. I mean, it's the root reason why people are attracted to different things, different wiring. But it doesn't explain what exactly goes through the mind about different stuff. Saying that "it's just programming" just doesn't tell you near enough. It more avoids answering the question that actually answers it.

Furthermore, some stuff about attraction seems downright shallow anyway. Not dating people because they're fat? Come on.

 

[Darius Brogan]

Who finds what attractive is a very personal thing. Not private most of the time, but still personal.

Some find a woman's eyes attractive (Like me)
Some fine her legs, or her hair, or her breasts, or her rear attractive.
Some people focus on 'Sex appeal' meaning how sexually alluring the woman makes them feel.
Others focus on personalities of various types. I, personally, find shy girls almost irresistible.

The attributes that one finds attractive are usually something that changes over time, as well. I used to find blondes stereotypically attractive, but now... meh, but keep me away from redheads or I'll faint.

It's not "What is it about women that's attractive' but 'What do I find attractive about women. If you can't put your finger on it, it's probably an attribute you've not noticed outright just yet, but you know is there.
For the longest time I couldn't figure out why shy girls were so adorable to me, until I went over it in my head, then I realized it was because they're so adorably shy.

If you can't figure out why you find women attractive, try going over a list of thing you find unattractive about them. Eventually you'll find out what's the most attractive attribute.

 

[wooty]

Genetic programming, I see a cute girl, I go gooey, shit just happens.

Its like why do some people have similar attractions to cars or guns or *sigh* pc upgrades (true story, shall elaborate another time).

 

[Echo Delta]

Well, I've tried to figure out what's so nice about, say, boobs and the like.

But every time I do, I can't seem to see what's more to them other than just being another piece of fat on the body.

And most perplexing about this, is that people who often say boobs make women beautiful and the like, also say things like "fat women are ugly". I could understand if the logic behind liking boobs was, "I like soft bodies", but the same people don't seem to like fat anywhere else.

It escapes me. Fat on the chest? Ok. Fat on the tummy? Not ok. Huh? What's the difference?

aha! The real question you seek answers to emerges! The real reason is societal standards of beauty when that partcular stereotype for a "babe" pops up. Not so much evolution as other members of society and their message informing that. After a while of being told what they should like, the sheeple start believing it. As for myself, when you mention "fat in other places" I think women should be more curvascious and as such I can tolerate "fat" much better than most.

 

[SaikyoKid]

You attempt to understand aesthetics (especially those of flesh) that you yourself do not see and do not necissarily feel open to. This endeavour was destined to fail at it's inception.

That was actually quite well put, I applaud you good sir or madam. I'd try to add more to it but this really kinda sums up my opinion on the matter. I'd suppose that physical attractiveness is different from person to person, like food or sexual preferences.

As far as why men are supposed to be enamored by all of the physical attributes from a woman, I honestly can't really say. Like your boob example. I mean, yea they're there. Yay...? As sappy as it sounds, I'd say personality absolutely wins me over with a girl as opposed to physical traits.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

Short answer: We're programmed to find members of the opposite sex attractive (well, unless you're wired differently, but hey, I don't judge).

Like I said in the OP, I anticipated such a response, but such a simple answer isn't really what I'm asking.

Surely there's some kind of thought process.

Why can't the simple answer be the correct one?

If we weren't attracted to other humans, then we wouldn't want to reproduce with them.

We choose characteristics that we're hardwired into believing will create the best offspring.

There's no deep philosophical reason why we do, it's completely biological.

 

[Nickompoop]

Attraction, sexual or otherwise, is not objective at all. Not even a little bit. And, along with the radical subjectiveness of what someone finds attractive or not, attraction is totally irrational. I have no idea why I like women, but I know that I like them. Sure, I could just respond with "TITS!" as my answer, but I don't know why I like breasts. There is not one iota of reason in why someone's attracted to someone else.

 

[Furioso]

Short answer: We're programmed to find members of the opposite sex attractive (well, unless you're wired differently, but hey, I don't judge).

Like I said in the OP, I anticipated such a response, but such a simple answer isn't really what I'm asking.

Surely there's some kind of thought process.

Nope, it's how the animal kingdom works, I doubt a wolf thinks about why he wants to do that other wolf

 

[Suicida1 Midget]

Heres the dumbed down version to save time, most guys are genetically hardwired to find potential mates, which they are constantly searching for. Pheromones help this process by stimulating the guys instincs. Your just whineing about what guys use as the tell tale sign that they are a good mate. Next time to avoid embaressment to yourself i reccomend you avoid making threads like this again.

 

[Vault101]

Well, I've tried to figure out what's so nice about, say, boobs and the like.

But every time I do, I can't seem to see what's more to them other than just being another piece of fat on the body.

And most perplexing about this, is that people who often say boobs make women beautiful and the like, also say things like "fat women are ugly". I could understand if the logic behind liking boobs was, "I like soft bodies", but the same people don't seem to like fat anywhere else.

It escapes me. Fat on the chest? Ok. Fat on the tummy? Not ok. Huh? What's the difference?

well boobs are there for a reason

I mean perhaps they are attractive because the nipples are a sensitive area that are responsive to "stimulation"...or mabye I dont know

I mean people are turned on my different things, mabye its not so much the body part itself but the "Idea"....I mean just a penis as it is I dont find much of a turn on to look at

I think thsi is somthign you really cant explain..if you dotn get it..you dont get it

 

[the spud]

For some reason, reading that had me rolling on the floor. Not really sure why.

OT: Well I honestly don't find vaginas attractive. They kind of gross me out.

 

[scorptatious]

Well, for people like me, it's basic animal instinct to be attracted to the opposite sex. It's kind of hard to explain without going into rather explicit detail really.

It's also sort of a personal preference too. As a bisexual, what you find attractive may be completely different from what I find attractive.

 

[LilithSlave]

It's biological, and it's not a choice, but that doesn't mean that there's not a conscious element to it, as well.

Of course, I don't understand having a sexual preference for women or men, as a bisexual. But women do seem to be wholly overrated.

Good lord look at all the beauty products made for women. And how many words there are out there trying to claim that women are beautiful. I've even read/heard people say that "women are just plain more beautiful than men, period", like no matter your sexuality, a male just isn't as attractive as a female. ... what?