I don't understand what people find so attractive about women. What is it and why?

[Blobpie]

Men generally like women who take care of their bodies, being healthy often means fertility which in turn strikes one of the most primitive parts of our brain (the need to breed).

that being said, it's also what society defines as beautiful, an different example of this is way back when (think medieval), being fat meant that the individual had money (since they had the money to be fat), and this was thought as attractive.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I can't help but feel in the pursuit of 'I don't understand X' threads, this has just gone into the ridiculous territory.

 

[Dystopia]

OP, you can't claim to be bisexual then in the same post state that you find vaginas revolting and that you wouldn't go near one, and that breasts are just 'sacks of fat'. Do you know what bisexual means?

As a straight male, I find probably the least attractive part of a woman's body to be the vag. But sometimes a man's just gotta do what a man's gotta do.

I've been sat here wondering what your point is but for the life of me I just can't work it out. The OP didn't say 'not attractive', she said 'revolting'. I never said lady gardens ARE attractive.

 

[Sordak]

another one of those look at me im Bisexual threads?

and then people wonder why there are so many homophobes.

 

[Chemical Alia]

I couldn't say, and I'm a female myself. It always strikes me as cheesy romanticism. I certainly don't sit around pondering the beauty of the male form all day. I'm an artist, so I constantly hear about the "beauty and grace of the female form" and how "a woman's curves are beautiful" and crap like that. I think there's plenty of attractive features a person can have, but they're not really gender-specific things.

 

[TheDooD]

With my artist background Symmetry of the overall body is what attracts me and personally I like long legs, wide hips and a cute butt. Also I have a thing for a woman that has piercing eyes like they're reading you and knows what's your thinking before you even do it. It was major trait from my first girlfriend in middle school and what really attracted me to her eventhough she has a bad rep and attitude her eyes showed me different.

Then there's a small quirks, talents, hobbies and of course the personality of a girl. That add to the attraction factor I like a girl with an artist side. Since from observations and experiences with them I found that can work with them the best because I really don't have to change my everyday banter around because they're normally fine with nudity, into video games, scifi, anime and action movies. Also they have a lot of random stories they're willing to share. Are extremely down to earth and easy to carry on long conversations with.

 

[CrystalShadow]

I don't care if you're not even physically attracted to us, and find women beautiful nonetheless, but I just want to know why the heck people seem to find women so beautiful. If anything, a lot of things about us seem kinda gross.

Ok... Sexual attraction aside, which is basic biology really,
(And honestly, a lot of things about any person, male or female are incredibly gross if you think about it too much. Sexual organs, The anus, mouth, nose and ears... Sweat glands... And so on. I can't think of many that are specifically more disgusting on a woman, except perhaps the vagina, but that's kind of obvious. If you've ever had to clean anything whatsoever, you'll notice dirt and other nasty stuff is much more likely to get trapped in some kind of cavity than around something which sticks out.)

The idea that women are attractive isn't universal... (Go look at renaissance art. Or even read some opinions. There were definitely people around that held the male form to be some kind of ideal, and the female form repulsive.)

About the only aspect of aesthetics relevant to this which isn't immediately related to sexual attraction is facial features. (And even then sex isn't entirely unrelated.)

See for instance: http://www.beautyanalysis.com/mba_facevariationsbysex_page.htm

It seems that there is a specific facial shape that is particularly attractive to almost all humans. It's something that we just like.
To a large extent this is an issue of symmetry and proportions.
And there's a large overlap between attractive male faces and attractive female ones. But on the whole the male face is a distortion of what is considered ideal aesthetically, so women are much more likely to fit the ideal. (Children all have 'feminine' faces. It's the default. The male face is a distortion of this which develops that way during puberty, while female faces generally just stay more or less the same.)

Having said that this is a very specific shape, and the majority of people don't look that way, regardless of sex.

Overall, remember that if you're asking about why females are attractive, you're probably asking about something to do with sex.

But if you're asking about aesthetics in the artistic sense, it has much more to do with proportion.
Breasts for instance aren't attractive in and of themselves in this regard, but only in relation to the overall shape a person has as a result.

But the thing is, the ideal shape for a human being in an artistic sense, is probably one that is physically impossible.

Really though, at the end of the day the 'artistic' merits of the human form are rarely considered, and the vast majority of people are basically discussing something to do with their sexual desires.

And as with anything of that nature, it's difficult to explain it to someone who doesn't have the same feelings.

 

[Dr Snakeman]

just as I think you'd be challenged to explain why you're interested in men, as opposed to women - it's just how we are.

I'm actually sexually interested in women, as well. I just don't understand the common praise of women. I suppose part of this topic is coming from about how many people seem to always praise women's looks and how much of an industry there is around it, when we don't even seem that pretty to me.

I bet I could explain why I like what I like better. Just like I did with why I think penis is more attractive than vagina, the most fundamental thing that makes you like men or women better. And without much problem. I would rather put my face near a penis than a vagina, because the penis looks flesh coloured like the rest of the body. While the vagina, the inside at least(and most guys don't seem to care about the outside, or at least find pubic hair repulsive), looks like the inside of an intestine. That's a major difference right there. Most humans aren't repulsed by too many body parts made of skin that are outer flesh coloured. Most people feel a little queasy looking at innards like intestines, though.

I, and most people would have more of an opportunity to be challenged to explain such a thing if we were every asked. Mostly, people instead of inquire, accuse. For instance, I've seen many guys called gay, creepy, mentally deranged, and even sometimes nasty things like paedophiles for not liking breasts as large as some others. And I've seen guys called ugly, desperate, pathetic, "beta", losers, and other such for finding fatter women attractive. Men don't explain, well, they do explain they want to "tap that", but more often they accuse.

Many men seem to treat the objectification of women like some kind of competition. The way many of them talk about women, you'd almost think they were talking about religion or politics. You would think that as much as many women want to describe how they think a woman's bottom or breasts are "perfect", they'd at least be capable of explaining what the heck about that bottom is so perfect and why other than just "I'm a man, lol". I don't see how this thread can be more ridiculous than how many guys seem fixated upon describing a woman's body as perfect with no decent reasoning behind it. I must be spending too much time on the internet, because I've seen a flame war or two arise just from talking about a woman's body and people having different opinions on it. It's utterly dumbfounding.

I figure if humans are capable of telling other people they have bad taste in their personal shallow judgment of another person's body. They ought to at least be able to explain why. Otherwise I think they can honestly shut their shallow mouthes and stop arguing about which women are better looking.

So... what, exactly, is your point? Do you not get why we like women? Or are you really just on another one of those "stop objectifying women by having preferences" rants that seem so common on the internet? You kind of seem to be all over the place with this thread.

Women are attractive. The gentle contours of their bodies, the smoothness of their skin, the softer pitch of their voices, the way they smell, the way they move... it's just awesome. If you don't get that, then how are you "sexually attracted" to women at all?

 

[Deathmageddon]

How can you claim to be bisexual when you don't find women sexually attractive? Identity FAIL.

 

[BrownGaijin]

Not sure if any one has posted this image yet...

If I have to explain why my heterosexual tendencies lead me towards the curvatures of a woman, and away from the penis...

If I have to explain why people enjoy females are so much more fun to dress up (i.e. drawing), as opposed to guys where it's just t-shirts and jeans...

If I have to explain the feeling that I get when I gaze into a woman's eyes as she gives me a gentle smile and soft creamy touch...

Basically...

 

[Promethax]

Did the OP seriously answer his/her own question in the OP then deny it?

It's like saying "I'm lactose intolerant, so why can't I eat cheese? I know cheese is a dairy product, but dats a dumm ansewr."

 

[Crazy]

Instincts and the likes. I guess it goes hand in hand with personal opinion?

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

**snip**

Um, no offense, but you sound more asexual or biromantic than bisexual. You don't seem particularly interested in any physical/sexual body parts (at least on women) as far as I can tell from your OP.

Being a bisexual woman myself, I find your confusion rather baffling, but I will do my best.

On men vs women:
I like that women have less body hair than men. I enjoy the feel of smooth skin.
I also like men with hairless chests (either because they shave it, or because they're just genetically hairless there), but it's not a deal breaker.

On vaginas:
Just a hole? Hardly. Vaginas (and the surrounding parts, including the labia, vulva, and clitoris) come equipped with at least three different ways to orgasm. They are one of the most interesting bundles of nerves on the body. Watching a female partner writhe in the throes of ecstasy as I play her like a musical instrument is one of the most engaging activities I can think of.
Penisis are fun too, but in a different way.
And other people's anuses don't really hold much interest to me.

On breasts:
A nice set aren't flabby or saggy - they're tight, smooth skin over shaped fat deposits. They make a lovely pillow. Plus they contain another big bundle of nerves that respond to stimuli. Finally, they're just sort of fun to play with.
Fat elsewhere is just that - fat. Breasts are a specific shape, and they lend additional shape to the body. Without breasts (and ass) women would have the same shape as men.

So there you go. I hope that helped.

 

[Emergent System]

OP, you can't claim to be bisexual then in the same post state that you find vaginas revolting and that you wouldn't go near one, and that breasts are just 'sacks of fat'. Do you know what bisexual means?

As a straight male, I find probably the least attractive part of a woman's body to be the vag. But sometimes a man's just gotta do what a man's gotta do.

I've been sat here wondering what your point is but for the life of me I just can't work it out. The OP didn't say 'not attractive', she said 'revolting'. I never said lady gardens ARE attractive.

It's a euphemism.

 

[cynicalsaint1]

Did the OP seriously answer his/her own question in the OP then deny it?

It's like saying "I'm lactose intolerant, so why can't I eat cheese? I know cheese is a dairy product, but dats a dumm ansewr."

I know, right?
I had the same exact thought reading OP.
"There's an obvious answer to the question, but you can't use it because I said so"

That's like ... one of the dumbest things I ever heard.

I mean at that point you might as well start asking why people find a mountain stream to be beautiful but not a drainage ditch - I mean its all just water running over rock right?

Seriously:
Breasts -> used to feed baby -> Bigger = 'More plentiful' -> Greater Fertility -> Sexually Desirable -> Beauty

Belly Fat -> Unhealthy -> Greater Chance of various diseases -> Not a desirable trait to pass on to one's offspring -> Sexually Undesirable -> Ugly

Mystery solved!

 

[BRex21]

This is actually quite an interesting topic that i think no one here is willing to put any thought into, but rather simply say there is something wrong with you if you "don't get it." personally this seems more like a very complex question that requires a very complex answer.
Its actually a relatively recent development that the male form has been seen as anything less than beautiful. Art frequently featured male forms celebrating the typical standards for male beauty.
In fact there is plenty to like about the human form, i just have never really found sex or any of the direct parts that... aesthetically pleasing penises seem somewhat alien, lacking the usual smooth symmetry of the rest of the body and vaginas are just another opening in the body dripping mucous and other bodily lubricants. Both are fairly unappealing if you think about them, but sex and aesthetics are more than the sum of their parts so to speak. Smooth sleek design is a large part of what we find appealing in our architecture and design. the curves of many modern sports cars bear an hourglass figure, curves they often share with things like bridges and yes women. The female form is very reminiscent of the smooth contours that we incorporate into our other art and design. However many of these designs are also reminiscent of the male form and what we find pleasing about men.

I would say that the obsession with female over male anatomy is that we are a deeply homophobic culture, especially when men are concerned. While artists like Michelangelo and DaVinci historically crafted art depicting the male form, as did the artists who came before them, however as a more christian (not exclusively you could say the same about Muslims ect.) culture emerged sex became something "wrong" and our bodies became a thing to be covered as opposed to being appreciated. Society viewed sex as something a man procured a woman to do and a woman being sexually aroused was considered a form of illness (hysteria). As our culture has developed we have largely kept many of those beliefs.
Its a tired old cliche that men are all sex crazed and women are sexually passive, in fact most people here would probably agree but anyone who has been to a bar at some point in there lives can tell you how much women love male attention.
In my experience,as someone who has been hit on by both men and women, I have found men are much more prone to address aesthetic beauty. While men have complimented my physique, eyes, hair, sense of style and a number of other things, I dont think i have ever gotten a compliment like this from women that went beyond "you look good" and i swear to god i have gotten the line "y'wanna F**k" more than once and that is if the women don't just come up and hump or rub their breasts on me. But my dating life is beside the point.
Over the past few decades, people have started seeing sexuality in a little bit of a different light. Women who pursue sex are often seen as "empowered" as opposed to experiencing mental illness, and a market has been developed to squeeze women into the ideal shape, while male sexuality is hidden under a veil while we say, we know everything we need to. Male sexuality is often seen as something seedy and oppressive, that women use sex to get love as opposed to mutual desire in this climate it is hard to take male sexuality a beautiful thing. On top of that a woman who takes personal interest in her or other womens beauty is seen as normal and celebrated, the same behaviour in men is usually seen as "queer."
Things like mens fitness magazines are usually mocked for being gay as is an interest in clothing and personal grooming. Imagine in a culture like that what people would say if an artist PARTICULARLY a male artist depicted the beauty of the male form? why anyone who appreciated that would obviously be gay? right? otherwise why would they want to look at a mans body? Even if the artist was female it would likely be labelled antifeminist as celebrations of male-ness often are.
In fact not only is the sight of an erect penis more arousing to women than that of a vagina, but studies have shown its more arousing to men to! Of course this has to be measured through arousal cues like dilation of the pupils, how many heterosexual men do you think would admit they find the sight of a penis arousing? I bet a lot of them don't watch porn either. Sexuality is a tricky subject that way.

On a side note, we aren't attracted to breasts out of necessity for reproduction, but in fact the other way around. In most primates (a vast portion of mammals to) males are attracted to larger child bearing hips of the females. When people started having sex face to face I.E. missionary (another christian development) males selected women with visible breasts as they were reminiscent of round child bearing hips. Humans are the only mammal that has a visible difference between male and female breasts at any time other than lactation.