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[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Alright, so this will be hard to explain.

There is this girl I really like... I like her more than any girl I have ever met. I like her personality wise and we have a few things in common, and she was the begining purpose of me starting to like anime, but I just don't understand. She's not hot, but I don't mind that at all. I really really like this girl. There is just one thing, I can't talk to her in person.

I can talk to her on facebook, she is really easy to talk to on the internet. My friend says she is really shy, and to top that I am frigging nervous as fuck arround her.

Whenever I see her my chest starts to feel like I jumped off of a 50 story building, and I just stay completely silent, I could be in the middle of a sentance when talking to my friend, see her, and loose my ability to speak for 15 seconds.

I managed to say Hi to her one day like a week after we met, but that was the last time I talked to her in person.

I tried to talk to her today, and I almost did! If My dumbass english teacher would have let us go to our lockers 30 seconds earlier, I would have, but today when I was going to talk to her, I just froze for a good 5 seconds. Fortunantly she didn't notice me... I hate myself.

Really, I do.


I Just want to know what I should do. I REALLY REALLY like this girl, and she actually makes me want to stay at my crappy highschool and not transfer.

How do I talk to her?

 

[AndrewC]

Good to see you like her for who she is and not how she looks, YOU'RE A FINE MAN.

Ask her to recommend you some animé since she got you into it, just start off simple

 

[AnOriginalConcept]

I have been in the same situation too, and I know it's damn hard.

That being said, the most important thing is confidence. Imagine if some girl walked up to you and started chatting about something you enjoyed. It'd be pretty cool, right? The same thing goes for her.

When you're around her, just be very friendly, even if it isn't genuine. Smile a lot, tell self deprecating jokes, and ask her lots of questions.

Remember, fake confidence is just as good as real confidence.

Good luck.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Good to see you like her for who she is and not how she looks, YOU'RE A FINE MAN.

Ask her to recommend you some animé since she got you into it, just start off simple

That makes me a fine person? XD

I probably would have, If I wouldn't have gotten the BSOD in my head approching her.

 

[Wondermint13]

This is something I used to do before I found my general confidence...
If it's a sunny day and you're outside, wear sunglasses. Seriously, when I couldnt talk to pretty girls eye to eye (friends or otherwise) wearing sunglasses made me feel less exposed and I was able to smile, and be funny around them with decent results.
These days I still feel slighty more confident wearing them.

Give it a try if you think you'll look good.

 

[standokan]

My advice would be, get closer to her by using a closer or more direct contact media(medium?) like texting, though I have no idea how to get from facebook to another.

 

[Soluncreed]

How do I talk to her?

I don't mean to sound like a douche by telling you this, but the answer is simple. You walk up and talk to her.

It's the sort of thing that sounds more frightening than it actually is. I've found that just walking up and talking to a girl shows them your confidence and makes them like you more. I'm not saying be overly confident, just have enough balls to go talk to the girl.

Look at it this way, if she's interested, you get a girlfriend.
If she's not, you just got experience in talking to girls.

Congrats. It's a win-win.

 

[Zantos]

Enlist a wingman (or wingperson, whatever the pc term is)! A mutual friend who can get a conversation started then when it's going well they fade out of it. It's like riding a bike, so much easier the first few times if someone push starts you. Eventually you'll get the hang of it on your own.

 

[chowderface]

1. Open mouth.

2. Compress diaphram.

3. Flap lips.

4. Drinks in the parlor.

 

[Lawnmooer]

The best thing to do is try and forget about the consequences of everything, walk up to her and try and start up a conversation with her.

If you're really nervous you can try to get a question out that will have a decently long answer (It's alot easier when the conversation has got going) as you will get a bit of time to just listen to her and calm your nerves down and allow you to actually speak when the conversation is underway.

Remember to try and be yourself.

Good luck

 

[coenzyme]

First, don't hate yourself everyone goes through this at some point, so no worries. Second just talk either about something mutual you have like anime or ask her questions about herself that way you can start the conversation but then she will do most of the talking. For example ask her how her weekend was or ask her what the homework assignment in a class you have together was pretending like you forgot to write it down.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

How do I talk to her?

I don't mean to sound like a douche by telling you this, but the answer is simple. You walk up and talk to her.

It's the sort of thing that sounds more frightening than it actually is. I've found that just walking up and talking to a girl shows them your confidence and makes them like you more. I'm not saying be overly confident, just have enough balls to go talk to the girl.

Look at it this way, if she's interested, you get a girlfriend.
If she's not, you just got experience in talking to girls.

Congrats. It's a win-win.

More like a win/loose. But, I can understand I have to talk to her even if I can't.

Though she does like this other guy that is like a senior or junior in our school (We're freshmen...) and she told me via facebook that she did go on a group date with him, and apparently didn't talk to him much (Note at her shyness, or however you spell it.) So if that doesn't go well for her, I will definantly ask her out... but right now it's talking... even If it is impossible for me to talk to her.

 

[Lokithrsourcerer]

I know its hard I used to be shy (how I stopped being shy is a long and often painful story)
just go for it mate its the only way, confidence is what wins the girl no amount of hair gel or designer jeans can compare to it.

in the immortal words of Wayne Campbell:

If you hurl and she comes back she's yours, but if you blow chunks and she bolts it was never meant to be.

wiser words have rarely been uttered